MarlyStar Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 He's just not that into you Fine, accepted. But then why keep playing the game of asking out and not executing? That's what's this thread is about. Clearly the OP has problems with the girls he interacts with not being into him as well. Male or female, why do this stuff if you aren't into the other person?
Jazzari Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 A Mr. Nice Guy is by all accounts a generally good guy. Someone you would be friends with, have a beer with, let borrow tools, whatever. A Mr. Nice guy in regards to females is a pushover. A guy that will succumb to a females wishes at a whim. The typical doormat. She might txt you, you txt her immediately back. If she calls you, you answer immediately. If you compliment her. (some poor saps do it excessively) You rearrange your schedule for her. You spend money on her (Never do this) If she flakes on you, you make excuses for it. Even though it was her doing. You agree with everything she says. You whine. You have no self esteem. You smother her in some fashion. Propose after three months. I could go on, these are all things a Mr. Nice Guy might do. Now if you want to be a dick, jerk, ******* whatever your pejorative of choice may be. You do the exact opposite. This is the most effective way to get chics. Understand we are not talking about being abusive or brandishing weapons or anything like that. You be a creep, a jerk, a bastard. Promise you will call and then don't. Showing up when you said you would, then don't. Back handed compliments. (I dont care if someone thinks your fat, I think you are hot) You get around to talking to her when you get damn good and ready. You don't put up with her chatty crap. They have their girlfriends for that. You are not Dr. Phil. If they want to be friends, you tell them you already have friends. Write them off immediately. I will get crap from this post no question. But, it is a phenomenon. It works. Females will respond here saying this will never work on them. The only reason they can say that is because they are reading it right here, right now. In the real world if you hone this correctly they will never really know it, then they will be left questioning themselves. Ultimately leading to posting threads on Loveshack. I could go on about exploiting insecurities but, that is for another day. There's a huge difference between being a "Nice Guy" or "puppy dog" and being a jerk. Nobody likes a puppy dog. No sane girl likes a jerk either. And you do want the sane ones, don't you? Any one of your jerk attributes would be deal breakers for me. As for the Nice Guy attributes.... OK - She might txt you, you txt her immediately back. OK - If she calls you, you answer immediately. OK if not excessive - If you compliment her. (some poor saps do it excessively) OK if occassional - You rearrange your schedule for her. OK - You spend money on her (Never do this) Deal breaker - If she flakes on you, you make excuses for it. Even though it was her doing. Deal breaker - You agree with everything she says. Deal breaker - You whine. Deal breaker - You have no self esteem. Deal breaker - You smother her in some fashion. LOL, Depends! - Propose after three months. Be a confident man, not a jerk or a puppy dog. I think that is what women want. At least I do.
Kamille Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 After reading this thread, I'm guessing some girls play games to try and weed out the male game players.
poorguy Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Fine, accepted. But then why keep playing the game of asking out and not executing? That's what's this thread is about. Clearly the OP has problems with the girls he interacts with not being into him as well. Male or female, why do this stuff if you aren't into the other person? I'm not 100% sure why a guy would do that. It is possible though that he does like you and he's nervous??? I hate to give any girl the impression that I want to date her when I don't. I have done that to a few exes but that's only becasue I wanted to have ex sex (we all know good and well that's the best sometimes lol). I think girls may play the games to draw out who the guy really is somehow
Lovelybird Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I think girls may play the games to draw out who the guy really is somehow Yes. Girls say it is game; women say it is TEST Men do this all the time too
poorguy Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Yes. Girls say it is game; women say it is TEST Men do this all the time too That's a really good point-well said I'm a man and I swear if I appear at all like I'm playing a game I'm not aware of it.. The only thing I will do is if I'm dating someone or even have a GF for that matter and don't want to hang out or want a sleepover I'll say I'm busy or have something else to do, all the while being home by myself hanging out for some alone time
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