singlelife Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 A girl may like you but will try and play cat and mouse games. She may even try to throw other guys in your face. So ladies, what is the reason for all this. If you like a dude why not just act like it. Because when he moves on you get upset about it.
donnamaybe Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 It's the "little girls" who play these "little games." Date women. You'll have better luck.
Mad Max Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 It's the "little girls" who play these "little games." Date women. You'll have better luck. Oui madame.
donnamaybe Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Oui madame. I'm a-skeered! We've been agreeing a lot lately. BTW, I just LOVE your sexy French accent.
Confusedalways Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Yes I'm sure no men have ever played 'little games' before.
Mad Max Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I'm a-skeered! We've been agreeing a lot lately. BTW, I just LOVE your sexy French accent. I'm actually not fluent in French, despite being French-Canadian.
donnamaybe Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I'm actually not fluent in French, despite being French-Canadian.Oh, boy. That was a little joke based on your 'oui.'
Mad Max Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Oh, boy. That was a little joke based on your 'oui.' I grew up on the West Island, which is mostly English speaking. I know words, phrases, and minimal conversational French, but I'm far from fluent. My parents decided it wasn't necessary for me to learn French since I was eligible for English education.
catgotyourtongue Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 LOL I got the joke, cute I'm a-skeered! We've been agreeing a lot lately. BTW, I just LOVE your sexy French accent.
catgotyourtongue Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Imaturity Insecure Ego Low self esteem Because she can Likes or needs a lot of attention Keeping you on the hook Lack of self awareness Lack of respect for you Game player Does really like you but too f*d up to just play it straight Does not yet have the skills to date like adult Been burned as is carful not to give too much She is just a flake because she is a flake - these are a few of my favorite things, la la la la. Kidding, but there could be a host of reasons. It's same with guys, guys do this crapola too. IF you are not a game player, get away from those who do. I learned, recently, and over the years, you can't like someone into behaving the way you want. If someone shows you who they are, believe them...if they just are scared and wounded, I have empathy, as always, but at some point, you gotta' put on the big girl pants and stop toying with mens heads, hearts and feelings. BUT if you have no sense of self respect, it's hard to respect others. Just IMHO A girl may like you but will try and play cat and mouse games. She may even try to throw other guys in your face. So ladies, what is the reason for all this. If you like a dude why not just act like it. Because when he moves on you get upset about it.
Dante311 Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 As it's been said, find yourself a woman. Girls play games. Girls are insecure with themselves... they're the ones who'll be with you and outright ask you if you think a girl you both see is prettier than her. your response? Don't call me later. and walk away.
Author singlelife Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 Well I just tell girls to screw off. But I see other guys get ran down. Why would a girl think she can emsculate a dude and that he would still want her. I see women do the guy they want dirty with a so called test, then they take it too far and then they are upset because the guy doesn't want her anymore.
AverageJoe Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Well I just tell girls to screw off. But I see other guys get ran down. Why would a girl think she can emsculate a dude and that he would still want her. I see women do the guy they want dirty with a so called test, then they take it too far and then they are upset because the guy doesn't want her anymore. Because they are Mr. Nice Guy. And many females play little games with these poor saps as much as they can. Notice, none of them gave you an answer, but I will. Be a Mr. Nice Guy and it will get you no where. Ever have a girlfriend that broke up with you only to go out with someone else where you later thought. What a dick that guy is, why would she go out with him? Now you know. The current guy only emasculated himself by being Mr. Nice Guy.
bonerman Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Because they are Mr. Nice Guy. And many females play little games with these poor saps as much as they can. Notice, none of them gave you an answer, but I will. Be a Mr. Nice Guy and it will get you no where. Ever have a girlfriend that broke up with you only to go out with someone else where you later thought. What a dick that guy is, why would she go out with him? Now you know. The current guy only emasculated himself by being Mr. Nice Guy. So what constitutes being "Mr Nice Guy" and what constitutes beinga "dick"?
creighton0123 Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Yes I'm sure no men have ever played 'little games' before. Hi bitter from Boston. I'm upbeat from Boston. Nice to meet you :-D
AverageJoe Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 So what constitutes being "Mr Nice Guy" and what constitutes beinga "dick"? A Mr. Nice Guy is by all accounts a generally good guy. Someone you would be friends with, have a beer with, let borrow tools, whatever. A Mr. Nice guy in regards to females is a pushover. A guy that will succumb to a females wishes at a whim. The typical doormat. She might txt you, you txt her immediately back. If she calls you, you answer immediately. If you compliment her. (some poor saps do it excessively) You rearrange your schedule for her. You spend money on her (Never do this) If she flakes on you, you make excuses for it. Even though it was her doing. You agree with everything she says. You whine. You have no self esteem. You smother her in some fashion. Propose after three months. I could go on, these are all things a Mr. Nice Guy might do. Now if you want to be a dick, jerk, ******* whatever your pejorative of choice may be. You do the exact opposite. This is the most effective way to get chics. Understand we are not talking about being abusive or brandishing weapons or anything like that. You be a creep, a jerk, a bastard. Promise you will call and then don't. Showing up when you said you would, then don't. Back handed compliments. (I dont care if someone thinks your fat, I think you are hot) You get around to talking to her when you get damn good and ready. You don't put up with her chatty crap. They have their girlfriends for that. You are not Dr. Phil. If they want to be friends, you tell them you already have friends. Write them off immediately. I will get crap from this post no question. But, it is a phenomenon. It works. Females will respond here saying this will never work on them. The only reason they can say that is because they are reading it right here, right now. In the real world if you hone this correctly they will never really know it, then they will be left questioning themselves. Ultimately leading to posting threads on Loveshack. I could go on about exploiting insecurities but, that is for another day.
bonerman Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 A Mr. Nice Guy is by all accounts a generally good guy. Someone you would be friends with, have a beer with, let borrow tools, whatever. A Mr. Nice guy in regards to females is a pushover. A guy that will succumb to a females wishes at a whim. The typical doormat. She might txt you, you txt her immediately back. If she calls you, you answer immediately. If you compliment her. (some poor saps do it excessively) You rearrange your schedule for her. You spend money on her (Never do this) If she flakes on you, you make excuses for it. Even though it was her doing. You agree with everything she says. You whine. You have no self esteem. You smother her in some fashion. Propose after three months. I could go on, these are all things a Mr. Nice Guy might do. Now if you want to be a dick, jerk, ******* whatever your pejorative of choice may be. You do the exact opposite. This is the most effective way to get chics. Understand we are not talking about being abusive or brandishing weapons or anything like that. You be a creep, a jerk, a bastard. Promise you will call and then don't. Showing up when you said you would, then don't. Back handed compliments. (I dont care if someone thinks your fat, I think you are hot) You get around to talking to her when you get damn good and ready. You don't put up with her chatty crap. They have their girlfriends for that. You are not Dr. Phil. If they want to be friends, you tell them you already have friends. Write them off immediately. I will get crap from this post no question. But, it is a phenomenon. It works. Females will respond here saying this will never work on them. The only reason they can say that is because they are reading it right here, right now. In the real world if you hone this correctly they will never really know it, then they will be left questioning themselves. Ultimately leading to posting threads on Loveshack. I could go on about exploiting insecurities but, that is for another day. So what are you doing that you need to get damn good and ready to talk to them? Why can't you immediately text back or answer the phone? If they are interested, they are not interested because you wait to text them back or answer their phone calls. But hell what do I know. I have never even had a gf.
AverageJoe Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 So what are you doing that you need to get damn good and ready to talk to them? Not sure I follow this question fully. I do any damn thing I please in the meantime. Why can't you immediately text back or answer the phone? Because they can notice if you jump or not. Then you will be quizzed later on how high you can. If they are interested, they are not interested because you wait to text them back or answer their phone calls. The point is, you want to keep them interested. Initial interest just isn't enough. Women do not like boring.
bonerman Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Not sure I follow this question fully. I do any damn thing I please in the meantime. I mean I am always ready to talk to girls. That's like #1 on my priority list.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I think most of the little games people play are power struggles and grabs. I know that I feel this deep inner need to test my man's strength and make sure his integrity is as strong as I think mine is. I think I'm pretty positive and fun in how I "test" a guy, but people of different dispositions might be more negative and threatening with it. And you can bet your butt that men test us, too.
mo mo Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 A Mr. Nice Guy is by all accounts a generally good guy. Someone you would be friends with, have a beer with, let borrow tools, whatever. A Mr. Nice guy in regards to females is a pushover. A guy that will succumb to a females wishes at a whim. The typical doormat. She might txt you, you txt her immediately back. If she calls you, you answer immediately. If you compliment her. (some poor saps do it excessively) You rearrange your schedule for her. You spend money on her (Never do this) If she flakes on you, you make excuses for it. Even though it was her doing. You agree with everything she says. You whine. You have no self esteem. You smother her in some fashion. Propose after three months. I could go on, these are all things a Mr. Nice Guy might do. Now if you want to be a dick, jerk, ******* whatever your pejorative of choice may be. You do the exact opposite. This is the most effective way to get chics. Understand we are not talking about being abusive or brandishing weapons or anything like that. You be a creep, a jerk, a bastard. Promise you will call and then don't. Showing up when you said you would, then don't. Back handed compliments. (I dont care if someone thinks your fat, I think you are hot) You get around to talking to her when you get damn good and ready. You don't put up with her chatty crap. They have their girlfriends for that. You are not Dr. Phil. If they want to be friends, you tell them you already have friends. Write them off immediately. I will get crap from this post no question. But, it is a phenomenon. It works. Females will respond here saying this will never work on them. The only reason they can say that is because they are reading it right here, right now. In the real world if you hone this correctly they will never really know it, then they will be left questioning themselves. Ultimately leading to posting threads on Loveshack. I could go on about exploiting insecurities but, that is for another day. And these are the kinds of games guys play. You know, I used to be Mr. Nice Guy, but after getting burned a few times I turned into Mr. Jerk. The problem with the Mr. Jerk approach and the games that little girls play is that it is too easy to go too far. As Mr. Jerk, I was able to snag the hottest girl at my job a few years ago. To this day no other woman that has walked through the doors of that building has ever come close to her level of attractiveness. I managed to keep her attention by being cold, hard to read, and charming... all at the same time. But I took it too far. There were times where I should have opened up a bit or showed a little bit of PDA, but I clammed up instead. She eventually got tired of the game and ran away. The point is, the games might work on someone that is truly insecure and easy to manipulate. They will not work for long on people that actually have a self-esteem and are worth pursuing. I wouldn't want to marry someone I could easily manipulate into doing what I wanted her to do. I want my SO to be her own person. She must respect herself first, and then she will learn to appreciate a guy like me.
Ometeotl Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 A Mr. Nice Guy is by all accounts a generally good guy. Someone you would be friends with, have a beer with, let borrow tools, whatever. A Mr. Nice guy in regards to females is a pushover. A guy that will succumb to a females wishes at a whim. The typical doormat. She might txt you, you txt her immediately back. If she calls you, you answer immediately. If you compliment her. (some poor saps do it excessively) You rearrange your schedule for her. You spend money on her (Never do this) If she flakes on you, you make excuses for it. Even though it was her doing. You agree with everything she says. You whine. You have no self esteem. You smother her in some fashion. Propose after three months. I could go on, these are all things a Mr. Nice Guy might do. Now if you want to be a dick, jerk, ******* whatever your pejorative of choice may be. You do the exact opposite. This is the most effective way to get chics. Understand we are not talking about being abusive or brandishing weapons or anything like that. You be a creep, a jerk, a bastard. Promise you will call and then don't. Showing up when you said you would, then don't. Back handed compliments. (I dont care if someone thinks your fat, I think you are hot) You get around to talking to her when you get damn good and ready. You don't put up with her chatty crap. They have their girlfriends for that. You are not Dr. Phil. If they want to be friends, you tell them you already have friends. Write them off immediately. I will get crap from this post no question. But, it is a phenomenon. It works. Females will respond here saying this will never work on them. The only reason they can say that is because they are reading it right here, right now. In the real world if you hone this correctly they will never really know it, then they will be left questioning themselves. Ultimately leading to posting threads on Loveshack. I could go on about exploiting insecurities but, that is for another day. I think it is for today, I prescribe to the idea that you have to meet a woman half way on eachother needs but as a Man, you have to put your destiny in to your own hands and own up to your needs which should be fulfilled equally to hers. Now one way of getting most men's needs met is sex, right? Yet woman are looking for more most of the time. If you just want sex, preying on a womans insecurities is a strategic method to get sex. If you poke at a womans insecurities in a teasing way, you can get some sex no doubt. Nobody is hear to say that your needs should not be met. I am here to say though that you should be ready to fulfill some of her needs too. Communication being a huge one, and care for her. If you cant carry on a real deal conversation or care for her, your just going to be playing games all the time, which if you are good at it, isnt a problem becuase you have a bout a dozen girls "on leash" that are hitting a certain horny moment at any given time and you kinda just already know when she needs it. If you care though, I sense eventually you want to have something meaningful and invest in that persons life... do you want to die and on your death bed have been playing games all your life, or know in your heart you truly cared for those women and gave them a part of you as they did for you. I like to care for people, it can bite you in the ass sometimes, but its the path that I feel reflects my character. Your character is your destiny. Honesty goes a long way too, if you are too scared to be honest about your needs, and what your situation is all about, grow a backbone. For the woman that JUST play games, they can get with guys that JUST want sex. Who the hell am I to judge them, I just decide I cant get with that if thats all you are ready to put out there after a night of flirting. I will say this though, for all the nice guys that get games played on them, let me help you out on this one. First impressions and social reputation. If you have a reputation for being just a nice guy, thats not such a good thing for you unless you really do want to finish last. I am strictly nice guy if I want to finish last with the ladies. I would recommend that you set your reputation as more than one note, if you have a passion like music, make it known, if you are good in the sheets, make it known, if you are a rebel or a bad ass in anyway, make that **** known. Not saying flat out say it, just caress the topic with your expertise on the matter, and humor and charisma never hurt anyone. First impressions; Ladies and Gentleman, are key. Not just your first words, how you walk, how you dress, how he/she sees you approach, the tone of your voice, the quality of your presence, eye contact, uniqueness, body language, unpredictability, nice teeth, nice smell, how close you recieve people in regards to personal space, and of course your first words. Ask a woman how she is doing, in a passive sorta hiya way, she thinks you are a passive sorta buyme a drink and chit chat kinda guy, which is mostly cadering to her needs. If I am cadering to my needs, my first words may be something like this, "tell me something about love" stare at her till she give you an answer, and if she doesnt, then I know she is insecure, and I could just do whatever I want with her... pretty much as long as she finds me arousing. If I am looking to just get a woman attracted to me, which is only fulfilling basic needs, but its still necessary thing as long you have more to offer (prefacing so that if you use this you should probably have an idea to add you own youness into the equation) I may say something like "what turns you on In a man" at that point, you are golden on the attraction part, but if she is insecure, you may get sex but a **** ton of headaches down the road. I like the middle path, works for me.
MarlyStar Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 So why is it that girls play little games So why is it men play little games? Why keep inviting a woman out for a phantom drink, but never executing the invitation--altho it's been accepted? What's that about?
poorguy Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 So why is it men play little games? Why keep inviting a woman out for a phantom drink, but never executing the invitation--altho it's been accepted? What's that about? He's just not that into you
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