ASIANRAINFOREST Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 ok i am new here. here is my story. me and my bf have been living toghter for more than 1 year. i told him i wanted to take a break with him to sort things out at the end of nov cuz my ex bf of 5 years wants me back! the same day he found a place to move in i changed my mind. 2 days he moved out i told him i want him back. seemed like he is giving me 2nd chance. we are not living together now. but he would try to see me almost everyday. but i can feel things are not the same anymore. then we had a talk. he told me he's still angry with me for what i did. he cant leave me but he cant still forgivie me either. then i proposed he could go on dates for 2 months and come to tell me he is with me or leave me. he took the offer and signed up a dating website right away. i feel hearbroken. is it a bad idea?
poorguy Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 It takes time to get responses sometimes so you know. Ok so your ex from 3 years ago came back and you decided you wanted him back? Then you changes your mind and decided you want to remain with your current BF? Is this right? How long have you been talking withyour ex while with your current BF? Did the 2 of meet up while you were with your current?
Jake99 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 ok i am new here. here is my story. me and my bf have been living toghter for more than 1 year. i told him i wanted to take a break with him to sort things out at the end of nov cuz my ex bf of 5 years wants me back! the same day he found a place to move in i changed my mind. 2 days he moved out i told him i want him back. seemed like he is giving me 2nd chance. we are not living together now. but he would try to see me almost everyday. but i can feel things are not the same anymore. then we had a talk. he told me he's still angry with me for what i did. he cant leave me but he cant still forgivie me either. then i proposed he could go on dates for 2 months and come to tell me he is with me or leave me. he took the offer and signed up a dating website right away. i feel hearbroken. is it a bad idea? Sounds like you have to get your own life sorted out. It sounds like you asked for a break to check out the option of a former ex and then want your most recent to be option B if it doesn't work out. You also suggest that you don't have the same feelings anymore, then why continue on? It sounds like theres to much drama for both of you!
Author ASIANRAINFOREST Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 It takes time to get responses sometimes so you know. Ok so your ex from 3 years ago came back and you decided you wanted him back? Then you changes your mind and decided you want to remain with your current BF? Is this right? How long have you been talking withyour ex while with your current BF? Did the 2 of meet up while you were with your current? u got pretty much right. my ex of 5 years showed up and wanted me back. i did agree to think about it. thats why i broke up with the current BF. but i changed my mind right away after he moved out. well, me and my ex met up a couple of times while i was with my current BF and it has been just 2-3 weeks before i told my BF everything. thank you very much for your reply, indeed!
Author ASIANRAINFOREST Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 Sounds like you have to get your own life sorted out. It sounds like you asked for a break to check out the option of a former ex and then want your most recent to be option B if it doesn't work out. You also suggest that you don't have the same feelings anymore, then why continue on? It sounds like theres to much drama for both of you! u r kinda right! thank you. i felt much stronger feelings toward my BF now after all this. i dont want to lose him. so from this point, i know what i want. it was to him i can feel things arn't the same anymore. so do u think if i should wait for him since i love him so much? or i should just give it up and move on myself?
poorguy Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 So do you have feelings (real ones) for your ex or do you just think you want back your most current because you feel like you can't have him? People want what they think they can't have and don't want what they know they can? Another question is how long were you broken up with your ex before you got the newer guy? Another question did you do anything with your ex when you saw him? (Be honest) I'm not here to judge
Author ASIANRAINFOREST Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 thank you! i dont have feelings for my ex anymore right after the most current one moved out! it suprised me too! it had been almost one year over with my ex before i got my BF. we met from the same dating website he is signing up:(. yes, me and ex did have sex. and i told my BF when he asked me:(.... will my BF eventually forgive me and want me to be with him again? what can i do now to win him back?
poorguy Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Did you have sex more than once? And if you did does your now ex know that info too???
poorguy Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Oh...I was hoping you wouldn't say that. He has got to be pissed and angry and betrayed and sad and whatever else something like that does to someone. You definately need to sort out your life independent of either guy first off. As far as your most current ex goes what I would do is explain to him how you feel, WHY you feel this way about him, WHY what you did was wrong, WHY it was a mistake, and WHAT you really want and then leave it at that. Let him decide in time what's best for him. You can't bother him at all after you tell hin what you need to tell him-Let him be. How old are all of you in question? You should read up on G.I.G.S on this forum because I think you had a really quick case of it... One other question is what was going on in your current relationship to inspire you to cheat? Did you guys get bored or what not? That will tell me for sure what you were going through
Author ASIANRAINFOREST Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 i did tell him almost everything u mentioned. guess what i can do now is to let him be and wait for him. sorry dont want to tell how old we are. older than u:) pls tell me what is G.I.G.S? i thought i didnt love him that much. thought i would be ok if i leave him. yes i was abit bored. he loved me sooooo much before! thank you!
poorguy Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Grass is Greener syndrome...Most people on here are trying to figure out if their ex has/had it...I'm telling you that because it sounds like you had or have that....You have to actually read it though and understand it
Author ASIANRAINFOREST Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 ok i am new here. here is my story. me and my bf have been living toghter for more than 1 year. i told him i wanted to take a break with him to sort things out at the end of nov cuz my ex bf of 5 years wants me back! the same day he found a place to move in i changed my mind. 2 days he moved out i told him i want him back. seemed like he is giving me 2nd chance. we are not living together now. but he would try to see me almost everyday. but i can feel things are not the same anymore. then we had a talk. he told me he's still angry with me for what i did. he cant leave me but he cant still forgivie me either. then i proposed he could go on dates for 2 months and come to tell me he is with me or leave me. he took the offer and signed up a dating website right away. i feel hearbroken. is it a bad idea? now here is the update: he is quite active on the dating website now yet he comes to see me almost everyday (he hasnt got a date yet i guess). i dont know what to do. should i pretend busy when he wants to see me? or should i make myself available to him anytime he wants to see me? is he still love me? will he come back after 2 months 100% free time? pls help! give me insight how man thinks in this situcation? thank you!
Author ASIANRAINFOREST Posted January 14, 2011 Author Posted January 14, 2011 pls someone help me? some thoughts on my situation? thank you!
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