tinktronik Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 When my boys were quite small I made friends with a new work acquaintance, Cassie. She had 2 small children, J and P, who were roughly the ages of my youngest two children. I also made friends with another mother, Brenda, who made friends with Cassie as well. Cassie was odd, very high strung, dramatic. Cassie was also living in a battered women's shelter with her children after the father of her youngest smacked the older child on the hand (while this did not make sense I think it is the truth in some form). Brenda helped Cassie get a place to live across the street from her. Over time it came out that Cassie also had a number of other children (either 3 or 5 children) previously that had at different times based on her claims died, been given up for adoption, been taken away, or had been lost to their fathers custody. Cassie, during the time that I knew her, did not have any relationships with men and seemed to not like men at all. At some point the contact with Cassie became too odd for me and I backed off and then moved away having contact just a few times a year since. Over the years it became apparent that Cassie had some very serious mental health problems with not sleeping for long periods of time, obsessively working at repetitive tasks, managing money, keeping a job, her kids were not kept in school regularly (for several years), they were claimed to have been treated and diagnosed with medical conditions they did not have, they were made afraid of men and school by their mother, she made up wild claims, paranoid accusations and outright lies that changed from moment to moment. It was a very hazardous situation for children. A little over 2 years ago I got a call from Cassie that social workers showed up at her child's doctor visit and seized the kids medical records, followed by another saying that the father had won custody after not seeing the children for years, and then that there was various abuse charges against the father, and then that she had custody again, and then that her children were dead. About a year ago I got an email that she was due to deliver another child within days. Two months later I got an email that she had given birth to twins just the day before the 2nd email was sent. I have gotten a rash of emails over the last few weeks, strange emails, talking about paranoid subjects and her twins being the reincarnate of the dead children. I decided to call Brenda. Brenda confirmed that Cassie gave birth to a set of twins less than a year ago. She also confirmed that Cassie was evicted and has been homeless, living in her car, for the better part of two years, that the minute Cassie's children were gone she began trying to conceive again, that J and P were not dead but living with their father and that Cassie had no rights to them now, that Cassie had no prenatal care and was hiding her children from someone (maybe the state) in her refusal to seek financial help. She also told me that within the last week to two weeks Cassie has threatened her own life and her newest children's. I strongly suspect Cassie is schizophrenic and in a very, very bad place. I decided to make the appropriate calls, first I called CPS and made a report, then the police/sheriff in the town where Cassie was last seen and heard to be. They have all told me that without a location there is not much they can do beyond taking names and a description of her vehicle and the children's names and driving around looking for them. So I have reached out to Cassie to try to get her location to pass along to the police so that she and those children can get some help. This is so heartbreaking to me. I knew a woman who tried so hard, in a very sick and confused way mind you, to mother her children. I am afraid to get contact going with Cassie, as I know this will not turn out well for her now or later, and the consequences will be severe. I wish she could get appropriate care but I think she is just in too deep. I'm not sure what to do besides what I can at this point. This is just making me so sick.
Author tinktronik Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 I didn't ask my question. Does anyone know of or have any additional suggestions of what else I can do?
Vesna Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 I have to be very blunt here. This woman is seriously messed up and appears to be a pathological liar who blames everyone but herself. She will never be well and will continue to use her fertility to get her way, for as long as she is fertile. Children will suffer and so will you if you keep in contact with this woman. It is not your problem but she is making it your problem. Her mental illness is not your concern, but her own meal ticket to excuse after excuse after excuse.
florence of suburbia Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 You did the right thing to report to CPS. If they have a file on her then it will be easier for them to act if and when her location is uncovered. I wonder if you can forward them the emails you received as further evidence of her instability?
Author tinktronik Posted January 10, 2011 Author Posted January 10, 2011 I have to be very blunt here. This woman is seriously messed up and appears to be a pathological liar who blames everyone but herself. She will never be well and will continue to use her fertility to get her way, for as long as she is fertile. Children will suffer and so will you if you keep in contact with this woman. It is not your problem but she is making it your problem. Her mental illness is not your concern, but her own meal ticket to excuse after excuse after excuse. I agree. I have not been in any real contact with her for a long time, maybe 2-4 years. I receive the occasional email and the recently a slew of emails, she does not have my phone number. I don't really trust anything she says, I did not even believe the twins existed until I spoke with out mutual friend. I don't know these children but would report if I heard of anyone threatening the safety of children. I have reached out for an address to pass along but am doubtful that I will get any response.
Author tinktronik Posted January 10, 2011 Author Posted January 10, 2011 You did the right thing to report to CPS. If they have a file on her then it will be easier for them to act if and when her location is uncovered. I wonder if you can forward them the emails you received as further evidence of her instability? I will certainly offer the emails. Several CPS workers have contacted me to locate Cassie and I have told them everything I know. It sounds like they are trying to find her though. I hope this family can get whatever help they can offer.
hART Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 For your own safety sending CPS after her and hoping she gets treatment is what I would do too. She may no be lying to you if she is truly schizophrenic, she may be delusional and completely out of touch with reality.
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