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Are girls into shy, quiet, reserved guys? I'm able to open up to people and be very social and friendly with them but I just have trouble taking that first step. I've only had 1 gf ever and I feel like since she was much more outgoing, she's used to approaching shy people and liked talking to me because I was shy.

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It's like asking someone whether they like pepsi or coke....

 

Some women prefer shy,quiet guys because they're not intimidating. Men like this are easily approachable and easy to get a long with once they open up. Other women like a strong, confidant guy.

 

When i was younger, women had a thing for me because I was shy + quiet...but only because I had a little bit of mystery going for me too.

 

Don't approach women with the thoughy " OMGZ I have to impress them!", because you will likely fail. Just have fun with it, and they will naturally come to you.

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Most are not. Notice how the guys that have women swarming over them are not at all quiet or shy. Now if you have the looks, then you can be shy. But let's be honest, how many guys are good looking enough to the point where they can afford to be shy?

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Just have fun with it, and they will naturally come to you.

 

 

Thanks for the response. Unfortunately it's only happened once in my entire life.

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Most are not. Notice how the guys that have women swarming over them are not at all quiet or shy. Now if you have the looks, then you can be shy. But let's be honest, how many guys are good looking enough to the point where they can afford to be shy?

 

 

ok so how do I take the first step because that seems to be what's screwing me over?

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ok so how do I take the first step because that seems to be what's screwing me over?

 

 

Same advice I tell the female posters. Start a conversation...about anything.

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Same advice I tell the female posters. Start a conversation...about anything.

 

 

How do I start a conversation?

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How do I start a conversation?

 

Every woman is different. However, I will tell you that the number 1 pickup line that is guaranteed success is...."Hi!".

 

Everything after that is based on her interest of you and the conversation. If things aren't fluid enough, say your goodbyes and leave...on to the next one.

 

Be a good listener. If she talks a lot about her dog or her cat, try to figure ways to relate to that. Keeping the conversation flowing is your number 1 priority.

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Every woman is different. However, I will tell you that the number 1 pickup line that is guaranteed success is...."Hi!".

 

Everything after that is based on her interest of you and the conversation. If things aren't fluid enough, say your goodbyes and leave...on to the next one.

 

Be a good listener. If she talks a lot about her dog or her cat, try to figure ways to relate to that. Keeping the conversation flowing is your number 1 priority.

 

 

Thanks. I could keep it flowing just fine but starting it is my problem. I don't know how to approach people in a casual way and I'd rather prefer to be approached (I know that's not too realistic though).

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Are girls into shy, quiet, reserved guys? I'm able to open up to people and be very social and friendly with them but I just have trouble taking that first step

 

 

Does not compute.....

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Problem is too, is that shyness can come across as arrogance. I'm a shy type too and appear quite arrogant at times even though i don't mean to.

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Problem is too, is that shyness can come across as arrogance. I'm a shy type too and appear quite arrogant at times even though i don't mean to.

 

That's actually a really good point. I'm not around girls enough to even notice that though.

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