exquisite Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 how do you guys feel about it when your partner is anywhere with you & all you see is their head constantly turning while looking at some girl, or some guy? do you think it's ok to look at other people when you're with your bf/gf?
creighton0123 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 how do you guys feel about it when your partner is anywhere with you & all you see is their head constantly turning while looking at some girl, or some guy? do you think it's ok to look at other people when you're with your bf/gf? Yeah. It's okay. Looking/checking out other people can be pretty acceptable. In fact, I find people who have a problem with that to be incredibly insecure or immature. If said person is always checking people out while never complimenting his or her SO, that's a different and bigger issue.
Author exquisite Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 personally, i completely disagree. why check someone out if youre with the person you actually want. they're not enough for you?
810 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 looking at vs checking out. I have the tendency looking at people who look like someone I know but couldn't figure out where/what/who...you could see a question mark on my face too. lolz checking others out is down right disrespectful to me.
Author exquisite Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 looking at vs checking out. I have the tendency looking at people who look like someone I know but couldn't figure out where/what/who...you could see a question mark on my face too. lolz checking others out is down right disrespectful to me. i get that, hey, you saw someone you recognize, or think you do. but when you're sitting a a restaurant with your significant other & ALL you do ever 2min is turning your head to look at the opposite sex sitting at the table next to you, for an hr, claiming you know them from somewhere, it gets a little hard to believe. ive had that with my bf before. i think its demeaning to the other person to check out people out. hey. youre a guy, with your buddies, boys night, hanging out, wtvr, & you look at hot chicks walking by? go for it. youre men. thats apparently what youre programmed to do, i get that. but when youre anywhere with your gf & all you do is look at girls, lemme tell you, you CANNOT possibly recognize that many people.
Author exquisite Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 looking at vs checking out. I have the tendency looking at people who look like someone I know but couldn't figure out where/what/who...you could see a question mark on my face too. lolz checking others out is down right disrespectful to me. actually, how would you describe the difference between checking out & looking?
lso802 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I agree with 810. There's a difference between checking someone out and looking at people. Telling the difference could be the problem especially if the person doing the observing his/her significant other is insecure.
shadowofman Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I'm checking out guys and girls more than my gf. I point out guys that are way hotter than me to her and she gets pissed too. I my opinion, since she has stopped checking people out, it means she is dead inside and unable to be visually stimulated.
Author exquisite Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 ok. looking is 1 thing. checking out? to me that means when your head turns while the chick is walking & you actually strain look. hey, glance all you want. anything more than 5 seconds is called checking out. like i said, you recognize someone? ok, thats cool. you cannot recognize every attractive looking chick at the mall. i dont check guys out when im with my bf nor do i flirt. its disrespectful. you wanna check chicks out, do it on your own time. for that 1 or 2 hrs youre having dinner, you should be able to control yourself. you a human for christ's sakes. youre not a neanderthal. you dont club women over then head & drag them to your cave anymore. control your actions. its really not that hard.
Mad Max Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I agree with the few posters above. Looking is one thing. Checking out is something else.
zengirl Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Depends on what you mean. I don't expect my BF not to find any other woman on the planet attractive, but I do expect him not to spend a lot of time obviously checking women out, particularly when I'm around. (Of course, he never does this, so it's not an issue.) I don't care if he comments someone is pretty or hot or whatever. That's fine.
Author exquisite Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 Depends on what you mean. I don't expect my BF not to find any other woman on the planet attractive, but I do expect him not to spend a lot of time obviously checking women out, particularly when I'm around. (Of course, he never does this, so it's not an issue.) I don't care if he comments someone is pretty or hot or whatever. That's fine. see, im the kind of girl that would say to him, wow that girl is gorgeous. or cute. or hott. i have no problem with that...or 'had' no problem. but when it got to be a constant thing with him, it became an issue. just last night, we were arguing about this & he said to me, why do you care so much, ive even told you before that i was checking out some girl i was looking at. i mean, how is that in any way ok?
Hopeful30 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I don't thinks its HORRIBLE. After all there are many pretty woman out there. But if its so constant and very obvious then I wouldn't like it. Every now and then is fine, but he has to discreet about it. Besides, some guys check out a girl as she walks by, which is fine. Others break their necks looking for as long as possible, which is ridiculous even if you're single.
shadowofman Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I can completely agree thata certain level of piggishness is annoying. I don't go crazy breaking my neck to look at anyone. But I will certainly "check out ladies". And if I could, I would like to discuss how hot they are with my gf. Most of my ex gfs would point them out to me, and then seduce them and bring them home with us. Maybe I'm just to blase.
creighton0123 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I could clarify. I'm in a position where my boyfriend and I both check out other guys (and sometimes girls) together. It's a game we play.
Hazel_eyes Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I remember one of the best dates I ever went on. This guy took me to a fancy restaurant and was being beyond sweet and attentive. The waitress was trying super hard to flirt with him and get his attention. Finally I pointed out to him that she was really pretty and he said who. I told him the waitress and that she was obviously wanting his attention. He laughed and said that he learned long ago that when a guy is lucky enough to get a date with a girl like me he spends that valuable time focused on nobody else but her and that this evening I'm the only one he sees. I remember feeling a sense of awe and appreciation over that. She was really pretty and I wouldn't have blamed him for acknowledging that, but I felt so much respect from him for valuing his time with me. I made it a point to treat future guys with the same type of attitude when I was out with them.
alexlakeman Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I am a guy, and I don't do it when I am with my s/o... When I do do it , it's done extremely discretely... I used to be horrible at it, when I was married and my next 1-2 g/fs, I would always be checking women out... but I guess I learned it wasn't worth it, girls don't like it.. As for women checking out guys when with me? They have eyes, I am sure they look, but definitely not in a disrespectful way as in staring, etc... I did date a whore one time and she did it all the time, just checking out men, it was a big headache among other things.... What I tell the women I date is basically, "I am not jealous, I prefer for YOU to dress sexy when we go out that way MY eyes all over YOU vs me glancing at other women"...
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