What can I do about this girl? I love her and I think she liked me and I hate it

January 7, 2011

OK, I'm 100% sure in the summer that she was into me but when classes started, we quit talking for about a month (both of us were really busy) and I was planning on asking her out

When I did though, she was already dating someone else (He lived much closer. 3 minutes to my 45). She got mad at me (and apologized the next day) and said that we shouldn't talk for a while.

We didn't for two months and now we're talking again and I still think we'll get together if they split up but... Waiting is just killing me

I don't think they'll last long. There are just too many signs that I've seen others split up over but I just think we will end up together, waiting has just gotten really hard recently

I just want her to know how I feel. She means more to me than anyone else in the world does. I care about her more than I do for anyone. She's made me happier than anyone else has and just like... Hearing her voice on a bad day was enough to cheer me up. I'd do anything to make sure she's happy and well... She'd be my number one and I love her. I've been with a lot of girls and I've had a lot of crushes, but she's the only one I can say that I love with all my heart.

Should I just tell her or what should I do? I'm positive she liked me and I don't see them lasting long but its really hurting me knowing that they're together...

She's still doing really nice things to me that I wouldn't do for somone I didn't like (she got me a birthday present three months after my birthday, been working on a painting for about four months for me), and I've done some really nice things for her, which she likes (got her a really thoughtful Christmas present), and just.. What can I do to help my chances or help her get back to me?

I've posted about her here ALOT and people have told me to move on but.. I just can't. I've tried and it hasn't worked. I'm not gonna be waiting forever. If in a few months that they're still together, I'm done with this but right now, I'm still not giving up so what should I do?

January 7, 2011

Really, how bad wuold telling her my feelings be?

January 7, 2011

Really, how bad wuold telling her my feelings be?

Very bad. Terrible actually.

Move on

January 7, 2011

Very bad. Terrible actually.

Move on

You are trapped in the friendzone.

You feel that she SHOULD break up with her guy for all these reasons, but she hasn't yet, which means she won't anytime soon.

Trust me, I've been there.

January 7, 2011

You are trapped in the friendzone.

You feel that she SHOULD break up with her guy for all these reasons, but she hasn't yet, which means she won't anytime soon.

Trust me, I've been there.

People can split up at any time

January 7, 2011

People can split up at any time

She would have done it already.

Trust me on this. Don't waste any more time and energy on her, thinking she will have a change of heart and drop him for you.

Let me explain the friendzone to you:

Women who have male friends establish a special kind of trust with them. The male friends get to know their female friends very, very, well. So well in fact, that they know exactly what the female wants out of a relationship.

If the female gets into a relationship with a close male friend, she might feel that she is at some kind of disadvantage, or she might feel that the male will find ways to manipulate her since he already knows her so well.

That is why it is so hard to get out of that zone. She might drop her bf one day, but don't think she will come running to you.

January 7, 2011

She would have done it already.

Trust me on this. Don't waste any more time and energy on her, thinking she will have a change of heart and drop him for you.

Let me explain the friendzone to you:

Women who have male friends establish a special kind of trust with them. The male friends get to know their female friends very, very, well. So well in fact, that they know exactly what the female wants out of a relationship.

If the female gets into a relationship with a close male friend, she might feel that she is at some kind of disadvantage, or she might feel that the male will find ways to manipulate her since he already knows her so well.

That is why it is so hard to get out of that zone. She might drop her bf one day, but don't think she will come running to you.

I probably should have said this but they were friends for years before they got together

Its a high school relationship :/

January 7, 2011

I probably should have said this but they were friends for years before they got together

Its a high school relationship :/

Is he her first bf? If so, that's different because she couldn't really relate what she wanted from a man to him.

With you, you already know where he falls short and where you could be a better man. That is why she would feel that she'd be at a disadvantage if you two got together. You wouldn't have to figure anything out.

January 7, 2011

Is he her first bf? If so, that's different because she couldn't really relate what she wanted from a man to him.

With you, you already know where he falls short and where you could be a better man. That is why she would feel that she'd be at a disadvantage if you two got together. You wouldn't have to figure anything out.

Third (but first that isn't literally a relationship in high school)

And that goes the same for him. AFAIK he knew the first two as well since they were all in the same circle

January 7, 2011

if it's that hard just tell her the way you feel, you can't sit around and wait though. I can tell by the desperatism and just the sound of your post that something is off. You may just want to play it cool and stop talking to her and sart seeing other girls.

January 7, 2011

~sigh~ just go meet someone else. She'll get jealous. Right now you are her doormat. She already has you where she wants you.

January 7, 2011

if it's that hard just tell her the way you feel, you can't sit around and wait though. I can tell by the desperatism and just the sound of your post that something is off. You may just want to play it cool and stop talking to her and sart seeing other girls.

Something is off?

And the only reason I think its hard is because I don't know how she'd react. It may be good but it may ruin our friendship again and I really don't want that to happen >_>

I've tried to start seeing other girls but it just really hasn't been there. Haven't found anyone I really care for :/

January 7, 2011

~sigh~ just go meet someone else. She'll get jealous. Right now you are her doormat. She already has you where she wants you.

I've tried

And if she liked me (which I know she more than likely did), then isn't the doormat part sort of irrelevant?

I mean, I can understand if I'm just some random guy but wouldn't she come to me if they split up if she knew that I still like her?

January 7, 2011

I've tried

And if she liked me (which I know she more than likely did), then isn't the doormat part sort of irrelevant?

I mean, I can understand if I'm just some random guy but wouldn't she come to me if they split up if she knew that I still like her?

not gonna respond anymore cuz u arent listening

January 7, 2011

That's just you being hopeful. There's no guarantee she would come straight to you if she somehow split-up with her boyfriend at all; whether she knew you had deep feelings for her or not.

Anyway, I'm not sure what answers you're looking for at this point.

January 7, 2011

Whether or not they eventually break up it's FAR more sexy for you to be out living life than hanging around like a kicked puppy. Part of learning to be mentally healthy is realizing that feelings are more like the weather than 'absolute truth.' You have feelings for her, you feel rejected - we've all been there (a lot). DON'T place so much importance on these bad thoughts, because then they're gonna grow. You won't be able to ignore them completely, but making the effort is way better for you than simply wallowing.

January 7, 2011

Whether or not they eventually break up it's FAR more sexy for you to be out living life than hanging around like a kicked puppy. Part of learning to be mentally healthy is realizing that feelings are more like the weather than 'absolute truth.' You have feelings for her, you feel rejected - we've all been there (a lot). DON'T place so much importance on these bad thoughts, because then they're gonna grow. You won't be able to ignore them completely, but making the effort is way better for you than simply wallowing.

Well... She hasn't seen me wallowing. I've been sure to hide that

And we've barely talked lately (which is partly the reason why I'm upset lol)

January 7, 2011

Well... She hasn't seen me wallowing. I've been sure to hide that

And we've barely talked lately

Good, keep it that way.

If you are incapable of moving on, then keep contact to a minium and for the love of God, don't tell her how you feel. She doesn't care, and it's only going to creep her out. I'd suggest not telling a woman your true feelings about her, till after you've had sex. Even then there is still a chance of freaking her out.

BTW, take a look at the threads you made

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/search.php?searchid=15331828

The vast majority are about her.

It may be a wise decision to stop writing about her so much.

January 7, 2011

Don't worry guys, I've got this all sorted.....

Do you have Valentines Day on Feb 14 where you are from?

If so, great! Seize the perfect opportunity!

A lot of print media such as newspapers will run messages that folk can have published.

I suggest you get one published and get working on drafting it up asap. It only has to be a short message with a love heart and cupid illustration or similar. Don't go cheap, buy the bigger space. Ensure you mention her first name in the message.

Alternatively you can buy her some red roses with a nice Valentine card, expressing your deep love and adoration for your princess.

I think you're on a winner with this Kain. You only get one day a year to show the love of your life how much you love her and Valentine's Day is the perfect opportunity to do it.

With any luck, her boyfriend won't invest much on V Day and she'll see that you have, and she'll hold it dear to her heart (women never forget the sweet things guys do for them ) and her attraction to you will blossom and grow into a fondness that won't fade any time soon.

2011 is looking up to be a great year for you Kain!!

Edited January 7, 2011 by Surrealist

January 7, 2011

Good, keep it that way.

If you are incapable of moving on, then keep contact to a minium and for the love of God, don't tell her how you feel. She doesn't care, and it's only going to creep her out. I'd suggest not telling a woman your true feelings about her, till after you've had sex. Even then there is still a chance of freaking her out.

BTW, take a look at the threads you made
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/search.php?searchid=15331828

The vast majority are about her.

It may be a wise decision to stop writing about her so much.

But I mean.. I wanna hang out with her and I know I can. We're talking like that again but I just don't know if that would help me or not...

January 7, 2011

No, spending time with her will not help your situation. She already knows you like her, and she's rejected you twice (if not more).

The only thing hanging out with her will do, is prevent you from getting over her.

Maybe some day Rosa will leave Cecil and will look at you again. You can either wait for that day, or fallow your own path.

January 7, 2011

No, spending time with her will not help your situation. She already knows you like her, and she's rejected you twice (if not more).

The only thing hanging out with her will do, is prevent you from getting over her.

Maybe some day Rosa will leave Cecil and will look at you again. You can either wait for that day, or fallow your own path.

I thought hanging out would be good since part of the reason I'm so upset right now is just because its been so long since we've seen each other like we used to

January 7, 2011

I thought hanging out would be good since part of the reason I'm so upset right now is just because its been so long since we've seen each other like we used to

You missed my joke

Anyways dude, you're upset now because you are going through withdrawals. I know, because I'm going through the same thing. I haven't had any contact at all with my obsession in about three weeks.

I know I can and will get over her, but the key is not to be around her. It just takes time.

I've already accepted defeat. Whether or not you do the same is up to you.

January 7, 2011

You missed my joke

Anyways dude, you're upset now because you are going through withdrawals. I know, because I'm going through the same thing. I haven't had any contact at all with my obsession in about three weeks.

I know I can and will get over her, but the key is not to be around her. It just takes time.

I've already accepted defeat. Whether or not you do the same is up to you.

But that's the thing

I don't wanna move on yet. In two months if nothing happened... yes, but for now, no.

I seriously think I've got this if they split up

January 7, 2011

But that's the thing

I don't wanna move on yet. In two months if nothing happened... yes, but for now, no.

I seriously think I've got this if they split up

You've made this same thread 20 times.

What do you want people to tell you? The only thing we can do, is tell you to move on, which you obviously don't want to do.

So what do you want from us?

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