SithLord Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 After two months of no contact, my ex returned back into My life, she contacts me almost everyday and I even added her on facebook upon her request because I harbor no ill feelings. Quick back story I dump her she ran back to an ex of hers, slept with him, he was stringing her a long and the guy has his baby mom, my x is women #2.. I know she still messing with him, as for me I'm taking it day by day, focusing on myself. I have my feelings inside but life continues. Parts of me wants her back, I usually don't ask her about her life, I don't bring up the past, I been humble and laid back. As we facebook friends she wants to post quotes from songs talking about baby this and baby that, she 21 and I'm 24, we had 3 years, I'm not mad because I expected it. I only added her to show im truly not upset. Months ago after I dump her I try running back 3 times and rejected. She told me I was the worse, made her life merisable. Now she asking for my friendship. I want her back but I'm not yearning for it. I'm still dating, flirting and living my life. Any pointers guys ?
dng Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Yeah. Don't mess with your exes. They're only human and usually still hold grudges against you...
Author SithLord Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 I hear that. Sometimes I feel Still is mad, I'm letting her experience; enjoy her life, I just find it funny that you want to start having your slick comments, file delete in my brain. I'm going to continue playing it cool. In my heart I love her but I'm more important. I'm not chasing or anything. One day at a time. My thing is how to correctly handle the situation?
Jake99 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I hear that. Sometimes I feel Still is mad, I'm letting her experience; enjoy her life, I just find it funny that you want to start having your slick comments, file delete in my brain. I'm going to continue playing it cool. In my heart I love her but I'm more important. I'm not chasing or anything. One day at a time. My thing is how to correctly handle the situation? SithLord, I think you are handling it in a fairly good way by taking things one day at a time. I think we all have some love in us for the person that was in our life whether they are the dumper or dumpee. I think a common thread throughout this site is let them come to you and bang the door down to prove themselves. I was the dumpee and now been in NC for 6 weeks now. She emailed me before Christmas and I never read it or responded, just deleted it. I'm focused on myself and I doubt I'll hear from her now. You have good control over yourself which is beneficial in the long run. Hope I will have the same attitude if she comes banging!
Mrlonelyone Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I think you are doing the right thing doing just what you are doing. But this is from a man who has been in a very similar mess to yours for about 12 years. Just take it one day at a time, and take it for what it is.
Author SithLord Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 Thanks guys, I talk to her and I'm turned off because she doesn't get things, like speaking to a bobble head. All she likes mentioning is the Jets which she became such a fan of due to the new guy just to win him over. Sad, and I don't ask her about her personal life, and I don't like asking what she's up to because she finds a way to take slick shots at me. Like the facebook incident, I put a status being tuck in and she reponsed posting by quoting songs talking about baby this baby that. Smh.
marqueemoon4 Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Sounds to me you really have a handle on the situation, unlike most on here you could take or leave her. Just continue to not give her the time of day and either way you should be fine.
Author SithLord Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 Thanks, but she is done, I made the decision just to cut her off without notice, im being true to myself, we dont speak about anything, she still going to throw her slick shots and im not gonna allow her to use me for her emotional benefits, shes negative again right now. i DONT need that.
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