Seeing 2 guys, can't pick. Need !

[girl18]

Ok here is my dilemma...I'm a 25 year old single white female and currently live at home with my parents. I am in the process of looking to purchase a condo though. I was in a off and on 2 year relationship that ended February of 2010 (i ended it). Since then I started getting back in the gym and just recently lost 30lbs. I have been working with a personal trainer (black guy) since July. In the beginning we flirted all the time and there was definitely some chemistry there. One day when we were training (this was probably back in august), he asked me if I would get a drink with him later that night even though he is not supposed to ask me since he's my trainer. I agreed to go and we ended up hooking up. He is the first black guy I've hooked up with (no we have not had sex). I don't know what it is about him but we have this crazy connection. It makes me want to go to the gym more. The downside is that he doesn't have a car, has no goals or motivation in life and is currently living on his friends sofa. When I met him he lived in an apartment with a roommate but the roommate moved out about 2 months ago. One night we were supposed to hang out and he completely sold me out, he never asks me to really hang out. Maybe he is embarrassed that he doesn't have a car, I dont know. But after all this crap, why do I still like him?!?! When he texts me it makes me smile and he recently told me a couple weeks ago that he wants to live with me when I get my place and I can never switch gyms because he can't be away from me. On the other hand, I've been seeing another guy for about 1-2 months that I met online. He is a great guy, has his own business, jewish, attractive, very compatible with me. The thing is I dont get those butterflies with him that I feel with the other one and when I'm with him I'm thinking of the other one. I keep trying to hang out with the second guy more and I do like him but then I go in the gym and I can't stop staring at the first one. I am so confused. I know the gym guy is no good for me but how come I can't stop thinking about him. I have been kinda backing away from the gym guy and he's been texting me more lately that he misses me and wants to see me. Ugh what do i do?

[liverpool fc]

Ok here is my dilemma...I'm a 25 year old single white female and currently live at home with my parents. I am in the process of looking to purchase a condo though. I was in a off and on 2 year relationship that ended February of 2010 (i ended it). Since then I started getting back in the gym and just recently lost 30lbs. I have been working with a personal trainer (black guy) since July. In the beginning we flirted all the time and there was definitely some chemistry there. One day when we were training (this was probably back in august), he asked me if I would get a drink with him later that night even though he is not supposed to ask me since he's my trainer. I agreed to go and we ended up hooking up. He is the first black guy I've hooked up with (no we have not had sex). I don't know what it is about him but we have this crazy connection. It makes me want to go to the gym more. The downside is that he doesn't have a car, has no goals or motivation in life and is currently living on his friends sofa. When I met him he lived in an apartment with a roommate but the roommate moved out about 2 months ago. One night we were supposed to hang out and he completely sold me out, he never asks me to really hang out. Maybe he is embarrassed that he doesn't have a car, I dont know. But after all this crap, why do I still like him?!?! When he texts me it makes me smile and he recently told me a couple weeks ago that he wants to live with me when I get my place and I can never switch gyms because he can't be away from me. On the other hand, I've been seeing another guy for about 1-2 months that I met online. He is a great guy, has his own business, jewish, attractive, very compatible with me. The thing is I dont get those butterflies with him that I feel with the other one and when I'm with him I'm thinking of the other one. I keep trying to hang out with the second guy more and I do like him but then I go in the gym and I can't stop staring at the first one. I am so confused. I know the gym guy is no good for me but how come I can't stop thinking about him. I have been kinda backing away from the gym guy and he's been texting me more lately that he misses me and wants to see me. Ugh what do i do?

 

there is a saying once you go black you never go back but serious now you would have strong feelings for the black guy because you have known him for a while and you work with each other at the gym and that has a factor in it. if you want to be with the jewish guy just tell the black guy honestly how you feel but that will be a challenge in itself because of the times you have spent together in the gym and outside of it.