fedupfeelinglikethis Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Basically about a year ago I got my heart broke and was a real mess for months it probably took me a good 6 months to get completely over it. Since then I have been with a few girls but I havnt been dating at all mainly because I havnt wanted to. The only girl who I have been with who I have really just enjoyed being with was a close friend, it first happened when we where both drunk about 4 months ago. We started seeing each other for about a month but called it off because of complications. The thing is she's a good friends ex, they had been split up since January but where together for around 6 years and had a house together. She ended it with him and although he would never admit it I know he's still not over her. The other thing is which is going to make u laugh is that she is my ex's best friend (the one who broke my heart). we ended it because too many people would get hurt if any body found out and because we knew it was wrong. Since then we have became even closer as friends and have even been giving each other dating advice. Over the past few weeks I have been having feelings for her nothing serious or anything to really think about just casual thoughts when I have seen her. We went out the other night with some other friends, by the end of the night it was just me and her left and the feeling I have been having mixed with the alcohol made me think it was a good idea to tell her I liked her. We had a heated conversation/argument, she told me how when we ended it the first time she was falling in love with me and we both agreed that if it wasn't for her ex we would be together. Since then we have spoke not about what was said but just to say, yeah where fine. But since that night 3 days ago I havnt been able to stop thinking about her and the feelings I'm having are stronger than when we where actually getting it on. I can't act on these feelings I know that, Im one of this guys best friends and don't want to hurt him but its so hard for me mainly because it's the first time since my ex that I have had any real feelings for any body!
creighton0123 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 In a mature, adult setting dating a friend's ex after a certain time apart should not raise any issues. Tell your buddy how you feel about her and ask him if it is alright. In the end, is your happiness less important than your friend's feelings? How old are you all if you don't mind my asking?
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