Rosebud3 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 So its been a year and a half that my SO and I have been together. We met online, and we haven't been able to visit one another yet. But by the end of January or beginning of February...I'm finally going to see him (I'm flying to Cali). And I'm just so excited, yet also a bit nervous. how did you deal with your first meeting, and was it awkward or just magical:p. To be honest, my bf said he was gonna plant a big kiss on me when he sees me, but i think i'll just be so overwhelmed with emotions. I kind of want to wait a bit instead of kissing him as soon as i see him. Did anyone else feel this way? Did u kiss ur SO when u first saw him or her...any regrets or was it the perfect time to do it. Also, u can post how you and your SO's meeting went. give me some advice as well.
madjac74 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I wasnt nervous and had no expectations the first time I met her but from the moment I saw her I always had this nervous feeling around her. Its a great feeling when someone can do that to you. I call them butterflies ...but its just a tingling feeling inside of you. When someone makes you feel like that...keep them
aisle_seat Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Wow, a year and a half and you're meeting for the first time this or next month! First, good for you two for keeping it together for so long without meeting in person. Second, no wonder you're nervous! I met my SO in person about 4 months after meeting online. We knew each other quite well by then but as you've correctly guessed there are plenty of butterflies leading up to the first face to face meeting. It was not awkward and was magical for sure. As to the kiss...we discussed it beforehand and agreed that a big make-out session at the airport would be less than romantic for our first kiss. When she arrived we hugged and looked at each other and then talked (I don't even remember what we said; my head was spinning) and then of course went to get her bags and onto my car. The kiss came later after we'd had a chance to settle down and relax with each other. I agree with you; have a chance to warm to each others body language and spend some time together before the big kiss. It will take some pressure off and then it can just happen when it happens without feeling "scheduled". Good luck and have fun!
HeavenOrHell Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 We met IRL 3 months after first talking online, we talked a lot on the phone too before we met and did some skyping. We'd both come out of very LTR's a few months before. We didn't call ourselves partners before we met each other IRL, as, in my opinion, no-one can know for sure that they will click in the same way when they meet, I wouldn't feel it right to call someone I'd never met my 'partner.' We didn't want to put too much weight on our first meeting for that reason, in case we didn't click so well IRL, but we were both secretly hoping... We were both nervous about meeting because we had put weight on it, hard not to We both get nervous meeting new people anyway, we were meeting at a train station in my country, I saw him on the other side of the ticket barrier and my hands were shaking so much I couldn't get my ticket out of my bag He'd already said via text that he was really nervous too. Anyway, we had a hug and I thought how he looked like all his photos rolled into one and that he looked young for his age as he'd said. We walked to the hotel and felt a bit awkward, so I stopped in the street and we had a lovely hug which broke the ice. Got to the hotel room, it felt right to book one room, not two, ahead of time! Felt a bit awkward at first so I hugged him again and long story short, things became pretty passionate after while (didn't go all the way though!) it felt right, and it felt really lovely, also a relief that we did click and got on as well IRL. We had a lovely few days together. That was nearly 9 months ago. We've met up 6 times now. I don't think I could have waited more than a few months before meeting him, the suspense as to whether we would hit it off as a couple would be too much! All the best with your first meeting, hope all goes well!
folieadeux Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I think that's great you were able to keep things going for this long, but meeting in real life will solidify everything (in my opinion). My SO and I met in person, so our situation is a bit different from yours, but I think that first visit as a couple is crucial regardless of how you got there. As another poster said, I think it's best not to "schedule" anything. Whatever happens will happen when it's right. You've been able to speak to each other for a long time now, so presumably that transition to a "real life" relationship will be very smooth. Best of luck and keep us updated.
aerogurl87 Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I've been in two LDRs. First one, my guy got to the airport and I was shaking and fidgeting with my book and everything. I was so nervous when he called me as he was walking towards me. I remember when we got outside I was freezing while we waited for our cab because I'd been dumb enough to put on a tank top so I'd look cute, although it was freezing outside. So he gave me his hoodie (which I still have) and we were both just nervous, even in the cab, haha. Good times. Second guy, I got off the plane gave him a hug and didn't even feel nervous. He was really nervous but I instantly felt comfortable around him. Another good time. So good luck on your first meeting.
Romance Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 oh god i was so nervous that i didnt even look him in the eyes the entire night. he makes fun of me for it still. i looked all around the restaurnt. he had the guts to drive 5 hours to my house and to walk into a house of people (my family) he had never met before. he went to kiss me once and i pretended to answer my phone.. i was SOOOOO insane!!!! I like dont know why I was so nervous and the most awkward person ever. haahaaha
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