singlelife Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I have been told I am an ******* a lot. FUnny that I usually screw a lot of those girls who call me that. EVen tonite a girl I slept with who has been trying to get with me sent me a joke and I told her it wasn't funny and I don't get it. She called me an *******. Then went on to pursue us meeting up. ANyway, my question is can women tell upon meeting a dude if he is an ass or a nice guy. And is that what makes them want to screw him in that frst contact.
Surrealist Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I have been told I am an ******* a lot. FUnny that I usually screw a lot of those girls who call me that. EVen tonite a girl I slept with who has been trying to get with me sent me a joke and I told her it wasn't funny and I don't get it. She called me an *******. Then went on to pursue us meeting up. ANyway, my question is can women tell upon meeting a dude if he is an ass or a nice guy. And is that what makes them want to screw him in that frst contact. Yeah probably, strange world we live in.
U1987 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 A girl once called me "faggot" once. I told her "First off, I'm not gay. Second, homophobia's really immature. Lastly, if I was gay, I'd try to bang you, because you look like a dude." Everyone around me just when "OOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHH!" and started laughing. She walked away in shame.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Your post has actually given me some insight. I think that a lot of women consider "*******s" to be... men who won't kiss their asses.
Woggle Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Your post has actually given me some insight. I think that a lot of women consider "*******s" to be... men who won't kiss their asses. This is very true. I also want to add that other men can spot a jerk who is no good much much easier than many women can. I see some women madly in love with men that are obviously no good. It is damn near written on their heads but these women are just addicted to these guys. Maybe it works the other way around as well.
ecm Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 What do you think most girls would be more likely to appreciate... a beautiful new Gucci handbag that they had to work for or one from Wal-Mart that cost $3? It's all about the challenge. Having an edge is sexy. And if you're genuinely acting like a d**k and they don't "get it".... shame on them, ya know? Girls might think you're joking, or that you like then and that you're pretending to be a d**k. Or, they think they can change you, fix you (and your "jerkiness"). My last guy was a "nice guy" and he too, turned out to be a d**k. Some people just have that ability. instead of a "chick magnet" we're "d**k magnets". eh. whatev.
musemaj11 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 This is very true. I also want to add that other men can spot a jerk who is no good much much easier than many women can. I see some women madly in love with men that are obviously no good. It is damn near written on their heads but these women are just addicted to these guys. Maybe it works the other way around as well. A lot of men like the hot bitches as well. The only difference is that men are logical enough to understand that you cant change hot bitches and they are just gonna have fun with them while it lasts with no expectation and simply move on to the nice women when they are ready to settle. On the other hand, women are not logical like men. They dont understand that they cannot change 'bad boys' and convince them to settle. When it comes to things that involve their emotions, they are like children who lack the capability of critical thinking.
dreamingoftigers Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 A lot of men like the hot bitches as well. The only difference is that men are logical enough to understand that you cant change hot bitches and they are just gonna have fun with them while it lasts with no expectation and simply move on to the nice women when they are ready to settle. On the other hand, women are not logical like men. They dont understand that they cannot change 'bad boys' and convince them to settle. When it comes to things that involve their emotions, they are like children who lack the capability of critical thinking. In your personal opinion, having read many of the posts on LS. Do you quite seriously believe the whole gender to be so limited to your narrow and demeaning notion? (Yes I used a subjective/judgemental word). Quite frankly, I have a vagina and I have more self-care and self-respect then to behave as a child who lacks the capability for critical thinking. Furthermore, the bad boy never did anything for me besides disgust me. I would never lower my self-respect to date the "bad boy," much less sleep with him, or push him to change. This always confuses me about men: what is the long-term advantage to having a short-term relationship with a "hot bitch?" Does it get you to the things you wish to accomplish? Does it make you happy outside of the bedroom? Why bother wasting someone else's and your own time when you could be finding someone of quality? I view not attaching to someone and being in favor or either promiscuity or lack of committment to be irrational. Human beings are social and relational creatures it only makes sense to accept that.
Surrealist Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Do you quite seriously believe the whole gender to be so limited to your narrow and demeaning notion? (Yes I used a subjective/judgemental word). Well I certainly don't. There's a number of women for sure who could exercise better prudent judgment but there's also a number of men. There's quite a number of good women on this forum.
Emilia Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 if a girl is young and doesn't know better, she is naive and she needs to learn that many men will lie and manipulate in order to get sex. when it comes to women that are older, what I have seen is that they are attracted to certain types of men if their father was that type too and treated them badly. I noticed amongst women I personally know that those that had absent fathers or bad father figures have trouble picking decent men.
musemaj11 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 This always confuses me about men: what is the long-term advantage to having a short-term relationship with a "hot bitch?" Does it get you to the things you wish to accomplish? Does it make you happy outside of the bedroom? Why bother wasting someone else's and your own time when you could be finding someone of quality? Its an ego thing. Are you familiar with Maslow's Pyramid of Needs? Due to societal conditioning, usually during their younger years, men feel the need to sleep with as many hot women as possible in order to satisfy their Esteem Stage. Only after they get older and start to enter the Self-Actualization Stage that they will begin to look for a woman who is the best for him and him only, not anyone else. But then again, for some men, the Esteem Stage lasts forever mainly due to situation. A man like Donald Trump cannot afford having anyone short of a hot trophy wife. Although there are some men like Prince Charles who dont give a damn about what people think.
zengirl Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Not all women, but some. I can spot an ******* from miles away. I don't date them, but I am friends with some of them. Depend on the type of *******---some I can tolerate, some I cannot.
musemaj11 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 What does 7-stars stand for? It stands for *******. Do you get it now?
Woggle Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Men like to have fun with hot B words because it is fun. As long as a man never gets attached they are wild and crazy and willing to try anything and they usually only get attitudes with men who don't know what the score is and try to get attached. Many times they are as sweet as a puppy with a player. If a man can find a woman like this who can keep these wild qualities while still being a nice girl that is honest and faithful he has hit the jackpot but too often a man is forced to choose between a wild child who will sleep with any guy who gets her hot behind his back or a faithful but super conservative and uptight woman who is no fun. When a player does settle down is when he usually finds a woman with the best qualities of both worlds.
carhill Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Glad to see things discussed in a recent thread of yours have worked out. Most of my relevant opinion is there. Wrap it up. Good luck
pandagirl Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 On first meeting, no I don't think you can automatically know who and who is not an a-hole. However if their reputation precedes them, then maybe. Just because a guy sleeps around a lot, doesn't mean he's an ******* -- he's plenty of other things, but ******* isn't necessarily one of them. I tend to qualify someone as an a-hole by how they treat other people and how they conduct their life in general. Lying, rudeness, selfishness, inconsideration, misogynistic, racist, etc. those are all a-hole traits. If someone isn't respectful of others.
carhill Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 OP, since you're into casual sex you probably don't get to know people, I'd be curious to find out, if known, the women you're having casual sex with are high numbers women or not. Just because it's casual to you doesn't mean it is the same (another number) for them so I won't presume that. I'm working on another theory
catgotyourtongue Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 IME Women attracted to bad boys are often younger and less experienced. What I use to like is totally different than what I like now and will accept into my life now. WAY different. When I was a cocky young tot, lol, I liked a bad boy because I was rebellious, came from abuse, and liked to act out. i have no need for that crap now in my life. Dating a bad boy when you don't yet know yourself and have all your own issues to work through is very different than being an experienced adult and then choosing that option. Confidence is appealing to women, often jerks are confident (if only a smokescreen). Of course some women just simply like these types of guys..for several reasons, just as another poster said, some men love pretty beeyoootches. BUT I can bet every dollar I have, many women, and men who had a habit of dating beeyootches or dic*s over the years, choose differently as an adult or at some point. I think it's a phase, liking jackasses... I can usually spot a jerk, a player, etc and it's not for me. There are men whom I thought were rats that turned up nice, and men whom I thought were nice, turned out to be a**holes, but generally you can spot one, a mile away if you are consciencious and aware......
pookster72 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 it sounds like she was just teasing you because she liked you....actually being an ******* and having a girl who likes you tell you you're one are totally different.
sally4sara Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Yes, some *******s are obvious. I'm not sure why someone would be all about sleeping with them unless they like being mistreated. But no, you can't always tell right off the bat whether or not someone is an *******. And we all have different definitions of what makes a person an *******. A friend of mine has this BF who is all polite and congenial. He'll be a gracious host and get you a drink. Pull out your chair, help you in and out of your coat. All kinds of really nice stuff. But he also just stood there and watched while her much larger than her, older brother spit on her, call her a ****ty bitch, and wrench her arm out of socket for telling him he needed to leave if he was going snort up some coke. This was after dating for 3 years, it was his home too, and he didn't want the guy doing blow in his home either. So ******* or not? I'd say *******. She stayed with him. Clearly she thinks differently than I.
musemaj11 Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 But he also just stood there and watched while her much larger than her, older brother spit on her, call her a ****ty bitch, and wrench her arm out of socket for telling him he needed to leave if he was going snort up some coke. This was after dating for 3 years, it was his home too, and he didn't want the guy doing blow in his home either. So ******* or not? I'd say *******. She stayed with him. Clearly she thinks differently than I. He is not an *******. He is just a coward. Not an *******. He should have at least called the police. Anyway, I can tell an ******* just from the way he smiles. Actually you can tell a person's personality just from the smile.
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