back2reality Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I'm feeling lots of anger towards him. Ever since the break up he's been talking mess and saying rude, mean things about me (some of which is far from the truth!). I was trying to be friends and sent him an email. Well he turned it around and made it seem like I was trying to win him back, plus he was kind of bragging to his friend about it. Found out he's said lots of things and even dissed me online! I can't believe he is acting so immature and like a Jerk! I don't know what his problem is. I don't want to stoop to his level but I hate feeling like someone is getting over on me. Then again if I respond it might give him some sort of satisfaction, because it would show that it gets to me and that I might actually care. Please help, I feeling hurt, annoyed, and frustrated and would appreciate some advice
Dorian85 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I'm feeling lots of anger towards him. Ever since the break up he's been talking mess and saying rude, mean things about me (some of which is far from the truth!). I was trying to be friends and sent him an email. Well he turned it around and made it seem like I was trying to win him back, plus he was kind of bragging to his friend about it. Found out he's said lots of things and even dissed me online! I can't believe he is acting so immature and like a Jerk! I don't know what his problem is. I don't want to stoop to his level but I hate feeling like someone is getting over on me. Then again if I respond it might give him some sort of satisfaction, because it would show that it gets to me and that I might actually care. Please help, I feeling hurt, annoyed, and frustrated and would appreciate some advice His problem is he is playing the game of " look at me, I came out on top in this relationship. I don't need this chick at all!" in reality, he is probably the insecure one who is spending all this time bad mouthing you. Its safe to assume that his feelings got hurt in this relationship, so as a result he has to cover his own ass and start to talk crap about you to make himself feel better and make others around him (his friends no doubt) think that he is doing just fine. I wouldn't respond to him at all....that is unless he is being VERY slanderous towards you and trying to ruin your life, then by all means confront that *******.....but if it is nothing but immature name calling, then let him be a little boy about it.
Leandro Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I'm feeling lots of anger towards him. Ever since the break up he's been talking mess and saying rude, mean things about me (some of which is far from the truth!). I know how you feel!! I just found out my ex has been telling people that I pressured her into having sex with me. pshhhh. I'm pretty sure she was the one begging for me and always pulled me in. Pisses me off. I was trying to be friends and sent him an email. Well he turned it around and made it seem like I was trying to win him back, plus he was kind of bragging to his friend about it.Well you know what kind of person he is now. Found out he's said lots of things and even dissed me online! I can't believe he is acting so immature and like a Jerk! I don't know what his problem is.You do know his problem. He's a immature jerk. He'll probably be like that for a long time too. I don't want to stoop to his level but I hate feeling like someone is getting over on me. Then again if I respond it might give him some sort of satisfaction, because it would show that it gets to me and that I might actually care. Exactly. Just ignore it. I am. It's hard, but it's the best thing we can do. Please help, I feeling hurt, annoyed, and frustrated and would appreciate some adviceJust know that he is immature. He's probably saying all of it out of guilt. Trying to make himself look like the good guy, like my ex did. Just stick to NC and you'll be fine.
collegeguy_24 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 It honestly depends on what happened to your relationship, why did you break up, who was the dumper and dumpee, and what were the circumstances. You have to take into account all these things. For example: If you broke up with him, and he didn't see it coming and was in love with you, you really shouldn't be surprised he is bad mouthing you. However, if he broke up with you, then you do deserve to be angry. Frankly without more detail about your relationship and your break up, It mearly looks like your on here to earn sympathy points.
donovant91 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 It is important not to play his game. Confrontation would only give him the satisfaction of feeling like he is dominant over you, and it wouldn't change how you feel in the long run. Embrace his negativity and use it to help you move on, transform it into reassurance that it is the right decision to not be with him, whether he broke up with you or vice versa. Often peoples true colors show when they are faced with a difficult time, and it is important to be mindful of your actions and reactions. Just take one day at a time and do your best to make his negativity positive for you.
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