baybaybaby Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 and a half years already. We would always be talking on the phone for an hour everyday. But during the last year, he met new friends from school. He spent quite a bit of time with them. I'm completely fine with the fact he spends time with them. I like a boyfriend who is sociable and doesn't just stay home and play games all day. It became a problem when comes home late at night and basically hangs out with them everyday. He gets off work at 5 and goes out with his friends till 12 in the morning and he has work at 7 in the morning. I can't find time to talk with him anymore. I have school soon, I can't stay up every night waiting for him to get home just to have a decent conversation. I've told him before, it bothers me and I can't sleep because I get worried when he stays out late. So I suggest him coming home before 12. I'm so pissed off that he couldn't even make an effort to do one thing for me. I know guys need time to be with their friends. I understand that but do they need "guy time" every single day for more than 6 hours? I discussed this with him before, he would always tell me to call him whenever but I can't have a long conversation with him when his friends are around. I don't want him to be stuck talking on the phone with me while his friends are waiting for him. I feel bad. Whenever, we hang out, he would always be on the phone texting. When we watch a movie, he would be falling asleep. There was one time, he dashed out to take me home right after sex because his friends were waiting for him. I just feel like his friends are more important to him than anything even his family. I feel so hurt and depressed. I don't want to make him feel like i'm demandin him to give his time to me instead of his friends. But at the same time, that's what I truly need. I just want to know if he's tired of me, or if he just doesn't want to devote his time towards me.
PegNosePete Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Dump him. He obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings. Sorry.
shadowofman Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 He wants sex but considers his other friends to be better friends than you. Sounds like this isn't the relationship you are looking for. Give your sex to a better friend.
dont-be-naive Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Dump him. He obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings. Sorry. I second this. Get rid of him. He doesn't deserve to have a girlfriend.
Author baybaybaby Posted January 8, 2011 Author Posted January 8, 2011 I've been with him for a long time. This is my first and longest relationship, I'm hoping to work things out because I know he cares. I addressed him about the whole sex thing, he understands and said he won't do it again. If I suggested he come home earlier like say 10 to spend time over the phone with me.. Would that be over the top? Since he pratically always come home late at night. Is it bossy of me to force him to change his ways just for my happiness?
PegNosePete Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 You cannot force anyone to change their ways. If you try to control him he will resent you. He does not care about your feelings. He is treating you extremely badly. He does not respect you. You need to respect yourself and dump this loser. If you don't respect yourself then who will? You need to get rid of him. Sorry.
Analeigh Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Just because it is your first and longest relationship, does not mean it is the right one. I'm sure you have experienced and learned a lot, good and bad. It seems like you have "outgrown" each other. It would be bossy and controlling to try and force him to come home earlier, and will likely push him further away. My advice? The relationship is already ending...better to let it go now than drag it out.
Author baybaybaby Posted January 9, 2011 Author Posted January 9, 2011 If we both still love each other but this "always coming home late" problem doesn't get resolved, should I still dump him?
PegNosePete Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 If we both still love each other but this "always coming home late" problem doesn't get resolved, should I still dump him? I am sorry to tell you that he definitely does not love you. Otherwise he would not be treating you like sh#t.
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