lazyslam Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Hey guys Not sure if I posted this in the right forum. I really don't want to bother my friends with this problem so I've decided to post here to get some advice. Basically, in the past I've had a few issues with being too clingy with guys too soon, and am now worried that I could repeat the same mistake again. I met a guy about a month ago and we were both really drunk and he ended up staying over at mine but we didn't have sex because we didn't have contraception. He then took my number and asked if we could meet up again. A week later I sent him a casual text telling him that I was having a party and that he was invited. He came to the party quite late, and again we were both really drunk and then slept with each other. I felt really hungover the next morning and couldn't really hold a proper conversation but I thought that we got on quite well and that it would be nice to get to know him better. He then kissed me goodbye when he left. I realised later on that he had forgotten a jumper of his at mine. We then both went to our parents over christmas and I sent him a text about a week and a half later during the night asking him how his holiday was but he never replied to it. I don't know if he's back in town yet but it's been two weeks since then and I'm not sure if I should just wait or maybe call him to ask him if he wants to meet up again. But I'm worried that that might make him even less interested since I heard that guys like to chase and not be chased. From what I heard from other people is that this guy is quite flakey and seems to get drunk quite a lot, so I'm not sure whether I should take the fact that he hasn't replied to my text as a definite sign of disinterest. I'm so inexperienced in this area and I would greatly appreciate your opinions. Thanks!
ConfusedAsUsual Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 From what I heard from other people is that this guy is quite flakey and seems to get drunk quite a lot, so I'm not sure whether I should take the fact that he hasn't replied to my text as a definite sign of disinterest. Why would you want a guy that is flaky and gets drunk alot, anyway? And IMO if he didn't respond to your text, he isn't interested.
ivalm Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Why would you want a guy that is flaky and gets drunk alot, anyway? And IMO if he didn't respond to your text, he isn't interested. I agree with Confused, if he is a flaky drunk then why the hell are you interested in him? Just ignore him, even if he chases you! I can't imagine why you would want him..
SilverLining Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Hmm. Well why don't we go over the events...you met a guy, got drunk with him and fooled around the first night you met. Guy doesn't contact you. So you contact him, invite him over, get drunk and have sex with him. Guy doesn't contact you. I know that there are people that have sex when they meet someone but by and large it usually doesn't happen. There are lots of guys on here that will admit to losing respect for a woman once she has sex with him. This guy obviously wasn't into you ENOUGH to want to date you. So lose his number, chalk it up to experience, and in the future, lay off the alcohol and stop sleeping with guys before they display an interest in dating you. I'm sure you are great enough to date without having to have sex.
Recommended Posts