elares Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Alright, so during school today, I was in band class when this kid who sits behind me, David, is a real jerk. I'm going out with his friend, Samuel, and he wasn't in school today because he's on vacation. But David and my ex, Connor, were whispering about me which they do all the time, and it's annoying... I never really know what it is they're whispering about, though. But they were talking about me, and David says "Hey!" I turn around and he said "I'm telling Sam!" "Telling him what?" "I'm going to text him about you flirting with other guys after class." So after class was over, I text Sam asking his what David texted him and Sam responded with "David never texted me" and after next period David came up to me and said "You really thought I was going to text Sam?" "Ummm, yeah, actually." and I walked away. Then Sam started FWDing everything I texted him to David, and I know this because David told me , and David read the FWDs allowed to me and he said "Really? REALLY!? Wow, you're a f**king b*tch.." And I texted Sam that, too and he FWDED that to David, too, and pretty much just yells at me... So I just said "Bye" to Sam and "Shut up" to David. My friend Garrett likes me, meanwhile, and I told him this, and he's wondering if me and Sam are done, and I don't know what to tell him. What should I do?
ShatteredReality Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 I am guessing you're in highschool? You have to learn NOW that you should never let a man disrespect you - especially to his friends. He will continue to do it always. Highschool drama is the worst, I hated every minute of every dramatic experience that occured - and I was vaguely popular. So, bottom line....you don't like David, So David says he's going to say something untrue to Sam - if you communicate to Sam that this guy is mistreating you and he TRULY likes you, it's his job to stand up for you...ever seen Shallow Hal?? He makes a very valid point to his friend - different but similar. That movie is about looks, but he loved a girl despite her physical appearance, he asked his friend who the hottest girl to him was, then when the guy replies he says "Ok so, Wonder Woman falls in love with you. Would it matter to you if NO ONE else found her attractive?" and the guy says "No, cause I'd know they're all wrong". THAT is how a man should feel about his woman. He will defend her to his friends and treat her with respect...if he doesn't then it's because he's either spineless or just not that into her. As for Garrett...don't just jump into a rebound relationship because this one is rocky...you can try to talk to Sam, tell him how you feel and see where things go fromt here. Tell him it bothers you that he sends your messages to his friend and doesn't defend you to him, if he doesn't say he's sorry and try to understand things then he's not worth your time - drop him and move on. Give yourself a couple weeks before dating anybody else though, to reflect the relationship, what you did wrong and what Sam did wrong, and what you want to do differently next time.
creighton0123 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Just........ put down the cell phone. Seriously.... put it down. Your relationships and your life will be much, much better if you reserve text messages to insignificant conversation only.
ShatteredReality Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Just........ put down the cell phone. Seriously.... put it down. Your relationships and your life will be much, much better if you reserve text messages to insignificant conversation only. LOVE IT!! LOLOLOL - I didn't even think to address the cell phone issue...when I said talk to Sam...I meant just that. Don't text him. Don't e-mail him. Don't MySpace him or Facebook him - TALK to him....one of the things taken for granted these days is person to person communication!! Seriously...if I had to say the first time my BF told me he loved me it was on a text I would cry...cause there's nothing like hearing those words for the first time, quiet and tentative or confident and trusting - you can't read these things in a text. TALK to your men...otherwise you'll never actually get what's being said! I am married and the first time he told me he loved me was on the phone - I felt bad about THAT because I couldn't see his face...but texting...it's just dangerous!
creighton0123 Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 LOVE IT!! LOLOLOL - I didn't even think to address the cell phone issue...when I said talk to Sam...I meant just that. Don't text him. Don't e-mail him. Don't MySpace him or Facebook him - TALK to him....one of the things taken for granted these days is person to person communication!! Seriously...if I had to say the first time my BF told me he loved me it was on a text I would cry...cause there's nothing like hearing those words for the first time, quiet and tentative or confident and trusting - you can't read these things in a text. TALK to your men...otherwise you'll never actually get what's being said! I am married and the first time he told me he loved me was on the phone - I felt bad about THAT because I couldn't see his face...but texting...it's just dangerous! Amen, sister! It used to be that hand writing was a lost art. Now it seems that verbal communication is going that way too :-(
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