Jdw_Icequeen Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 I can't seem to get a hang of this nc thing.. Had to txt him a few days ago because of our phone bill.. But then yesterday I wrote him an email, about how I couldn't be his friend because he had mentioned it a few days ago,hanging out being friends.. yadda yadda. I had to be honest about it. I also let him know I wrote him the email by txt. He hasn't responded to the email, but has sent me txts saying he isn't ignoring it and will answer when he can. I just said ok.. Today I had to txt him again about finacial stuff.. I didn't ask about the email but again today he says he would read it when he could. I again said ok... Even though I am not conversating with him about the past relationship. I feel horrible even having to txt about finacial stuff.. I really just don't want to talk to him anymore about anything at all.. I have laid all my cards out, done the closure thing. Sent an email about why I could never be his friend. I have said all that needs to be said. I don't excpect his response would be worth much anyway.. So why do I even care? I am so tired of caring.. Somewhere in me I know he isn't worth my thoughts or sadness.. I suppose once all the finacial stuff is cleared up and I can atleast go a week without speaking to him about any of it, I think I will feel a bit better.. I just keep repeating to myself, its over its over.. We are over and to just forget. Forget everything! The fuzzy memories and any hopes of getting back together. Just drop it, let it go, its done! Then my thoughts repeat, I find myself stuck in these thoughts and continuining to try to get rid of them. I am fed up with myself, and feel weak on every level at the moment. Just when I am starting to feel better, the thoughts come rolling in again. Sad sad sad sad.. :(
J0N Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 If I were you, I would take care of any residual financial issues and give each other back his/your belongings. When you speak with him during this process, keep it strictly to business (only contact him when absolutely necessary, and keep it short). Once everything is split, then you have to go NC. Trust me it makes this sooooo much easier. Call your friends and talk to then when you are feeling weak, or post here. NC is really hard at first but it gets easier with time, remember this is about YOU and not him.
Author Jdw_Icequeen Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 The fact is he is still paying some of my bills as he left me high and dry. So he is helping me out. We also have a son together. Unfortunatly complete nc won't ever really happen in this case.. After breaking it off we did have a conversation of closure us both stating how we felt on our issues and walking away, at that time he mentioned being friends. I didn't really want to address it at the time. Thats why I emailed yesterday. I guess I am just doing everything I can close the door at this point. Today I only spoke to him about some finacial issues. He has his belongings I have mine. Accept my car that I am letting him use because I don't need right now and he is paying me for the use of it, because I need the money. Its the least I could do since he is still paying for my stuff, that dosen't concern our son. Since I just broke things off a few days ago there is still stuff finacially we have to figure out. Most is already solved. I do agree that not talking to him anymore other then buisness is the best thing for me. I would really like to just go through a week without talking at all for any reason, so the last few days I have tried to set all the necessary boundries to do that.
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