andrew23 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Heres the dilema: She wanted to take a break over 2 months ago. Since then NO CONTACT apart from an email she sent where she wished me a merry xmas and hoped to see me in the new year, then a text exchange with "I miss you's" at new years eve. I still hope we will get back together but am not counting on it, however I feel she is taking small steps to at least get closer again. I met another girl- we kissed on one occasion, and I think she wants to take it further. Problem is I am still in love with my ex (and not really that into this new girl, although she's cute), and technically we are on a break, and I said I would give her time to figure things out. What does one do? Start something with someone new? Is that cheating on your ex? What if she were to find out? Might ruin it... also I don't want to give this new girl any false hopes and hurt her feelings, as I really would like another shot at the ex, as she is the love of my life. I know most people will tell me to forget the ex, move on, etc. But easier said than done. I genuinely believe that she still could be the one, and I don't want to ruin the small possibility just yet. How long does one wait? So difficult! Does the point come where one breaks the NC and at least tries a date with the Ex? If no vibes of passion come its easier to write it off for good! p.s. I don't think she is seeing anybody.
poorguy Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Dude by all means date the new girl. It's not like you have to ask her to marry you. I still love my ex (broke up 7 months ago) but I've been dating and having fun. No your not cheating on your ex GF by dating, but I do know where your heads at because it may sort of feel like cheating in a way-It's not. My ex got a new guy right away after the breakup and lives with the guy now. I care bit I care far more about me at this point and what makes me happy-not her. It's not about her, your realtionship, waht you had, it's ALL about you!!!
GreenPolicy Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 (edited) Dude, forget about your ex and get on with your life. Your focus needs to be forward, not backwards. Your ex is not in your life anymore. I know it's hard. I'm in the same boat. I miss my ex, I still love her, but it's been almost 3 months. She's not coming back. What do I gain by waiting around for something that will probably never happen? What do you gain by waiting around for something that will probably never happen? You might miss out on something really good in your life. They have let us go, so we need to let them go. They have moved on, so we need to move on. There is no hope right now, so we need to stop clinging to hope. Listen to your head and not your heart. Date other girls. Don't worry that they may or may not live up to the image you have in your head of your ex. Take your ex off her pedestal. She broke up with you, that's reason enough to take her down a peg. Edited January 6, 2011 by GreenPolicy
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