Author Ms. Joolie Posted January 11, 2011 Author Posted January 11, 2011 I still love T. This wasn't about O. I don't care to see O. This was about me popping off irresponsibly about a situation I didn't like after a long time of feeling hurt and insecure. I can't go back to what was, I had to do something. I'm just sorry I did 'this'. I'll see if T is available to talk things over in person tomorrow evening. I'll tell him everything, get clean and just deal with it.
Imajerk17 Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 If this is going to have any hope of working, you need to break off your trip to Florida, NOW. And then Joolie, you need to get your head on straight. It seems that you are looking for personal fulfillment from T and your relationship, and that is too much to ask another person. T isn't the reason you feel insecure, YOU are. Take some responsibility. You also need to ask yourself what you bring to the relationship. Right now you seem like a very selfish, entitled chick who runs when things get tough. And I am not the only one saying this. NOT someone to take things to the next level with.
Author Ms. Joolie Posted January 12, 2011 Author Posted January 12, 2011 Ok. I said everything I had to say to him last night. I feel good about it, too. I have no idea what's around the corner but I feel ok with where things are at. Thanks for helping to put me back in the honest land, ya'll.
sally4sara Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 Ok. I said everything I had to say to him last night. I feel good about it, too. I have no idea what's around the corner but I feel ok with where things are at. Thanks for helping to put me back in the honest land, ya'll. Till you're able to face and finish your endings before looking for and planning new beginnings, any marriage you enter into will blow up and hurt you and whomever ends up marrying you. With the way you've been handling things, saying "I want to get married soon" is the same thing as you saying "I want to get divorced someday". Were you able to tell T about O and risk the possibility that T might not want to be with you when you come running back again? Or did you simply break it off without mentioning O to allow for the possibility of yet another make up in this long line of break ups with T?
Author Ms. Joolie Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 Yes, T knows about O. I told him by phone on Tuesday. He listened until I was finished with the whole of it, remained sane the whole time and said an "ooook" at the end. He said something about how it's easy for an attractive woman to get hit on, but yes he was disappointed. I said I was sorry. This was by phone again, so we thought we should meet up in person and talk. I will be meeting up with him tonight for a little bit and we'll come face-to-face with all this. I want this to be our best conversation ever. It doesn't matter what it's going to look like or what I end up with. I'm going to just be there with him, listening to where he's at with all this and fully expressing what I need to express. I am going to leave happy with my choice, and he is going to leave happy with his. That's what I'm committed to tonight.
ReadyforLove Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 Well, you've gotten yourself into quite a sticky situation. I'm hoping for the best outcome for you after your talk with T tonight Keep us updated...
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