randy90631 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Hey everyone, We have rules to give us certainty in how we behave and live our lives. Every where we go there are rules. When we drive our car, work our job, our interactions with friends and family, and etc. There are rules of dating. They have changed over the decades, but they are there nonetheless. Would you have bad manners during a first date? The point of the above commentary is provide perspective. If you have specific goal in dating, then there has to be a certain sets of rules in pursuit of that goal. My goal in dating is to find someone who I can have a serious relationship with. To achieve that goal I've come up a set of thresholds that I think are necessary. THIRD DATE: If after three dates I don't feel that a woman has potential for a serious relationship, then I stop seeing her. What's the point of getting to know someone who isn't a good match for me. It would be a waste of tim and energy. THREE MONTHS OF DATING: Make it or break it. This is the transition thresehold from casual dating to serious relationship. I've dated enough women to know what I want in a girlfriend. I only date girls 25 yrs or older, so I believe that these woman should know with 100% certainty whether a guy is good for a serious relationship or not. If I'm looking for a serious relationship, why past this point would I continue seeing someone who is still on the fense. If they don't know by three months, it will never happen. 3 YEARS OF DATING: Marriage. This is the minimum because it takes three years to truly know someone. Of course there's a lot of factors involved in this decision. But I think three years is neccessary to form a solid relationship to will stand the test of time. Dating is inherently dependent on a case by case basis. I'm completely aware of this. However I'm done with wasting my time dating women who can't decide if a guy is good for a serious relationship in a reasonable amount of time. If three months isn't long enough, than how long? My main question for everyone: Considering the first two thresholds Do you know that someone has potential for a relationship by the third date and good for a serious relationship after three months of dating?
Kamille Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Yes, I usually know by the third date whether I see potential with someone and by the third month whether or not we have what it takes for a long term relationship.
Keridan Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Well written and not a bad statement I would say that it should be a guideline more than a rule, however. I would think that after three dates, you get enough of the basic personality and and desires and such to make an educated guess on whether or not to take it further. Also, after 3 months, you should be fairly well aware of how things will go if you have dating experience (assuming you are not lost in puppy lust or something). And three years is a good amount of time to consider marriage. Those can't be absolute rules, though. Some folks are better at coming across well early in the dating process and won't work out for long after. 3 months could easily still be in that adrenaline pumping, heart racing, drooling over a hot body stage. Sometimes that can last 6 months or even longer. I would say that if you haven't had a good fight yet, you are still in that stage It's a good guideline, but using it as a strict rule might not work out for ya.
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