D78 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Well folks, He apologized today for the first time since dumping me. Not in a lead-you-on kinda way or a let's-get-back-together kinda way. It was nice, and it seemed genuine. Now, be warned I'm a rookie at all this so I probably shouldn't be giving advice. But, if any of you are obsessed with the fact that your ex didn't apologize, it's probably not all it's cracked up to be. There's a good chance you may have already forgiven your ex, maybe just to get him or her off of your mind, or to let go of the anger. I appreciated it, and was happy to know he did not in fact turn into a robot, but it didn't mean as much as I thought it would.
0hpenelope Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Now, be warned I'm a rookie at all this so I probably shouldn't be giving advice. But, if any of you are obsessed with the fact that your ex didn't apologize, it's probably not all it's cracked up to be. I agree with this. His apology didn't really mean much to me after all's said and done.
Heatemyheart89 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 My ex said he was 'so so sorry'still dumped me though means nothing to me
0hpenelope Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 My ex said he was 'so so sorry'still dumped me though means nothing to me That's exactly what I mean.
GreenPolicy Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 At this point an apology to me would feel like breadcrumbs.
poorguy Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 I got one of those a few months back and it didn't mean sh_t..They aren't sorry for you their feeling sorry for them.....Maybe after they had a fight with their new guy/girl
Jdw_Icequeen Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 My ex still apologizes to me. Usually when I was upset and I kept bringing up how he just walked out. I am not one of those hold it in type of ppl and pretend everything is ok. 101 apologies and even though my head says "thats nice to hear". My heart says whatever, it dosen't fix anything. I'm sure he does it out of guilt because he feels bad that he hurt me. Selfish really, not because he feels truly bad about what he has done.
Lemontang Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Nothing. It's been 3 months. It's been a year as of yesterday and I'm actually pretty happy about it too.
bestrong Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Mine apologized on Christmas' Eve but she stated her decision to apologize was independent to my emotion state. I feel indifferent but I keep wondering if the apology was genuine or not. Any thoughts?
0hpenelope Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Mine apologized on Christmas' Eve but she stated her decision to apologize was independent to my emotion state. I feel indifferent but I keep wondering if the apology was genuine or not. Any thoughts? If I were you, I'd just take the apology at face value and stop wondering. You said it didn't affect your feelings anymore either way so you're good.
Buzzkillington Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 I agree with the people saying it means very little, if not nothing - at least that was the case for me. She must have apologised 5 times over the course of the first couple of weeks, and one big proper one a few weeks after, but it means nothing when someone broke your heart and threw away a long term relationship for someone else. The only stage I have left to deal with is anger... working on that...
Author D78 Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 ...She must have apologised 5 times over the course of the first couple of weeks, and one big proper one a few weeks after, but it means nothing when someone broke your heart and threw away a long term relationship for someone else. The only stage I have left to deal with is anger... working on that... See, it was really bugging me. He never apologized. He would hint at "I didn't handle it right," "I was a di*k," etc. He never said the words I'm sorry until the other day. I wouldn't say it meant nothing to me; I just wanted to let any of the Shackers who are desperate for an apology know it wasn't worth worrying about. (I thought I read posts before when people were complaining about that.)
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