OverTheStars Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 I just got into my first real sexual relationship at 26 years old. So... I am kind of a super late bloomer as I am close to 400 pounds, so the experience is kind of lacking. My problem is in the bedroom. I don't get as aroused as I should. I don't get as big or hard like I have the past 10 years of my life from masturbating. This worries me because she already thinks its her and because I'd like to finally get some satisfaction too. Because I don't get off when I am with her, afterwards I get such a huge build up in semen that I actually have urinated it. At first I thought I had some sort of infections but no it is actually semen. Afterwards I was able to get aroused masturbating and I produced so much pre cum and semen it looked like I orgasmed twice like a fountain. I think the issue with the girl is because I lack confidence or something but the hyper semen production is ridiculous and kind of scary. Any idea what my issue is?
creighton0123 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 You'll hear it from me before you do from everyone else: 1. You're 26. You're not going to have as much as a libido when thinking about how horny you were at 18. 2. You're used to the feeling of arousal through masturbation. Stop self-pleasure for a bit and see how you respond. 3. You're nervous. It's harder to stay... hard... when nerves and worry about performance enter the picture. The nerves should subside after a while. 4. Production of semen - orgasm and ejaculation are two different things. The amount you will produce from masturbation may not be the same amount when compared to intercourse. This has to do with longevity of erection and how long you are going at it. 5. I will say this, but I know you're aware of it: Weight. As you get older, your weight will significantly hinder your sexual prowess. Have you spoken with a doctor/nutritionist about options in reducing your weight? One benefit of weight loss will be penis size. You'll find that the more weight you lose, the bigger you will appear/be. In getting to a normal weight, you may gain an inch or more in penis size, have much more stamina, and find sex more pleasurable. 6. Figure out what you find pleasurable. I, for one, find it almost impossible to orgasm during sex if it doesn't involve giving pleasure to my SO. If he doesn't orgasm, I don't orgasm.
Author OverTheStars Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 You'll hear it from me before you do from everyone else: 1. You're 26. You're not going to have as much as a libido when thinking about how horny you were at 18. 2. You're used to the feeling of arousal through masturbation. Stop self-pleasure for a bit and see how you respond. 3. You're nervous. It's harder to stay... hard... when nerves and worry about performance enter the picture. The nerves should subside after a while. 4. Production of semen - orgasm and ejaculation are two different things. The amount you will produce from masturbation may not be the same amount when compared to intercourse. This has to do with longevity of erection and how long you are going at it. 5. I will say this, but I know you're aware of it: Weight. As you get older, your weight will significantly hinder your sexual prowess. Have you spoken with a doctor/nutritionist about options in reducing your weight? One benefit of weight loss will be penis size. You'll find that the more weight you lose, the bigger you will appear/be. In getting to a normal weight, you may gain an inch or more in penis size, have much more stamina, and find sex more pleasurable. 6. Figure out what you find pleasurable. I, for one, find it almost impossible to orgasm during sex if it doesn't involve giving pleasure to my SO. If he doesn't orgasm, I don't orgasm. Yeah, thanks for the response. I agree with about everything you've said so far. I think I just needed reassurance. She is sleeping over tomorrow night so hopefully we can see how that goes.
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