kassy Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 I have no idea why I can be so so good at meeting people and having fun with them and making them feel confortable, but yet when it comes to a guy I like I just can't seem to let a guy know that I like them in particular. It's weird because they seem to often reciprocate to my terrible attempts at flirting, but aren't confident enough to make a move and I really don't make it easy to make a move. Not on purpose, I'm just so socially awkward like that. Especially when sober. It is just so frustrating. The number of guys who have told me years later they had a massive crush on me is rediculous! Especially when almost all of those I was crazy about them too.
creighton0123 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 I have no idea why I can be so so good at meeting people and having fun with them and making them feel confortable, but yet when it comes to a guy I like I just can't seem to let a guy know that I like them in particular. It's weird because they seem to often reciprocate to my terrible attempts at flirting, but aren't confident enough to make a move and I really don't make it easy to make a move. Not on purpose, I'm just so socially awkward like that. Especially when sober. It is just so frustrating. The number of guys who have told me years later they had a massive crush on me is rediculous! Especially when almost all of those I was crazy about them too. You should learn how to say "I like you and would very much enjoy it if you asked me to go out tomorrow" or "I would very much like it if you were to kiss me right now." It's you opening the door with them taking a step in.
385 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 You should learn how to say "I like you and would very much enjoy it if you asked me to go out tomorrow" or "I would very much like it if you were to kiss me right now." It's you opening the door with them taking a step in. Yes! Be like. Let's hang out tomorrow and get his number!
musemaj11 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Whats so hard with saying, "Hey, I want to tell you that Im interested in you. I would like to know if you think there is a chance that something could happen between us?" Its so simple and romantic. Its not like you are asking some random guy you barely know. You are asking a guy you know well and you know for sure likes you back.
Author kassy Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 Sounds so much easier than to actually do. On the few occasions I have done similar things to what you have suggested its not worked out. Is there any other more subtle ways than straight out asking him out? I know guys are terrible at reading subtle. I'm also terrible at doing subtle.
Akumark Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 The kiss is an excelent idea! It work on me everytimes! I never refused to kiss a girl I found attractive.
Author kassy Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 Oh I don't know for sure he likes me back at all!!! If I did that would be no problem at all! We see each other often at training but don't have much time to chat usually, so we don't know each other that well, and he only moved here a few months ago. We went for dinner last night after our training session (he insisted on paying) then hung out at his flat for a couple of hours. Was a real laugh, and a bit awkward at the same time. I mean I do hang out with other guy mates like this so there is nothing to indicate it is different from the others, except we don't talking about dating/relationships or anything, which I do with my guy friends. But at the same time I don't know this guy that well yet so that could also be a reason we don't talk about that kind of more intimate stuff.
Author kassy Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 The kiss is an excelent idea! It work on me everytimes! I never refused to kiss a girl I found attractive. The key is you found them attractive. I don't know that he finds me attractive! He is also goregous and I have seen women throwing themselves at him and it clearly makes him very uncomfortable. So I'm not sure that me making the first move would be great, rather it'd be good if I could give him the positive encouragement to make the first move himself.
Author kassy Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 Anyway forget the guy for a moment. Not all girls have to ask the guy out or to kiss them to end up doing that... so what do they do that makes guys realise they like them more than just a friend? That's really what I want to know.
musemaj11 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 (edited) Sounds so much easier than to actually do. On the few occasions I have done similar things to what you have suggested its not worked out. What do you mean it didnt work out? You fumbled like a fool or what? Oh I don't know for sure he likes me back at all!!! If I did that would be no problem at all! We see each other often at training but don't have much time to chat usually, so we don't know each other that well, and he only moved here a few months ago. We went for dinner last night after our training session (he insisted on paying) then hung out at his flat for a couple of hours. Was a real laugh, and a bit awkward at the same time. I mean I do hang out with other guy mates like this so there is nothing to indicate it is different from the others, except we don't talking about dating/relationships or anything, which I do with my guy friends. But at the same time I don't know this guy that well yet so that could also be a reason we don't talk about that kind of more intimate stuff. Well then spend some more time with him until you feel comfortable. Do it the old-fashioned way. But remember not to drag it to long without none of you saying anything because you could end up being in the friend zone. When you feel the chemistry has built up and you feel close enough to him, just say it. Or you can just wait until he says it first. If he doesnt then at least he will tell you years later. Not all girls have to ask the guy out or to kiss them to end up doing that... so what do they do that makes guys realise they like them more than just a friend? That's really what I want to know. In other words, you are asking how to make a guy able to read minds? Edited January 6, 2011 by musemaj11
Author kassy Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 No, I've made the first move with guys before and it's just never really worked out in terms of their egos mainly. No I don't want to know how to make guys read minds although that would obviously be useful at times ha What I want to know is for guys what do girls do that make you realise they like you? what gives you the guts to ever ask out a chick?
musemaj11 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 No, I've made the first move with guys before and it's just never really worked out in terms of their egos mainly. Its because you asked guys who didnt like you in the first place. For a woman, love can grow overtime through affection or money for example. But for a guy, if its not there from the beginning, its never going to be except in the movies. What I want to know is for guys what do girls do that make you realise they like you? what gives you the guts to ever ask out a chick? Ya well guys are different individuals. The confident, thick skinned types will ask you out even if they have just laid eyes on you at Starbucks or something. The moderate types will need obvious signs that you are interested. While the more sensitive types will beat around the bush everyday without telling you how they feel until you do it yourself.
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