Juno Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 It seem about every 6 or 7 months the waters are tested. The lastest was after a 7 month break. Ex contacted me and tell me he can't stop thinking about me. It would be easier if he could. Pleasant conversation always turns into "what are you wearing", then he sends me multiple pics of his junk. He makes a half hearted attempt to get together, saying work is busy, or he's not entertaining at home currently...no time, but we can meet up for about 6 or 7 hours. I'm not impressed with his playful flirtations, or his junk. I guess he senses this and takes the lead to end/break things off again. Sends me a text which says..."I will leave you alone, you deserve better than I can give". My response was zip, but I'm left to wonder why come back at all. Surely in the time we have been apart he has found someone to satisfy his fantasy. Also why the need for a farewell message when his usual M.O. is to disappear without a word.
0hpenelope Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 LMAO! Makes you wonder what's really going through their head, huh? For the break-ups where the dumpers are "SO SURE!!!" that they want the dumpees out of their lives, what's the point of messing around like this? Nothing. Nothing at all. Just a mind game that actually reveals a plethora of information about the ex. Also, I want to let you know that I'm not making light of your pain if you're still hurting very much. I'm sorry, that's not my intention. It's just that juvenile exes like yours are so silly. A lot of the posters here have exes with similar mindsets, but they can't see it that way because they're still in a lot of pain. What a classy "man."
paleblue Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Sorry. I guess you are lucky its only every 6 or 7 months. Maybe he'll eventually just find someone else. I dont get why he is sending you pictures just like that. Wtf. Its kinda immature. I guess maybe he lacks control over his lower functioning impulses still.
Author Juno Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 Truth be told, in the past 3.5 years there has not been a single day that I did not think of him, so when he contacted me out of the blue I was beyond thrilled...but remained cautious. In the past I was always the one to break NC, so for him to do it I thought was a big deal and he finally realized he loved me or missed me or something. I don't get the "look at my junk" pic thing either. Like it would hypnotize me to do whatever his twisted mind could imagine. I did have to fight the urge to respond and have the last word, but depriving him of a reaction is much better I think.
Duckduckgoose Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Well if you want to get at him post the pics of his junk on the internet. He won't be so quick to send you pictures again. Just don't post them here, please
cerridwen Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Was confused by the title of your thread. I pictured him was sending you photos of his castoff belongings. Love the tone of martyrdom in his text: ""I will leave you alone, you deserve better than I can give". How utterly annoying.
0hpenelope Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Love the tone of martyrdom in his text: ""I will leave you alone, you deserve better than I can give". How utterly annoying. I agree! Was just fed a similar line from the ex: "You will get over me soon, I'm sure you will." What's the point in pointing that out? I want him back, but of course I'm going to move on. He's going to miss all of this awesomeness that I have, that's for sure. Anyway, I should not speak so meanly this way anymore: it's in poor taste and this Penny has class. Juno, you've been apart from your ex for that long? I'm going to look up your threads now because it sounds like he broke up with you and when you've finally planted solid footing on the NC ground, he got curious. Why can't he just leave you alone, huh? You got what a lot of people here want: dumper contacting dumpee but with not so great results on his part.
homebrew Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 What have I been thinking?!?!?! All this time... I have been sending women cards, chocolates, flowers, gift baskets, etc. I was sending the wrong things... I should have just sent pictures of my junk instead! This explains a lot... From now on, I know what to do!
threebyfate Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Ever heard of 4chan? They'd have an unbelievably good time with his pics. "Caption This"
0hpenelope Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Juno, I actually recall some of your previous threads! Well, not completely, but WOW. This is an on-going pattern and he hasn't stopped? On again, off again? What's going on?
Author Juno Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 Was confused by the title of your thread. I pictured him was sending you photos of his castoff belongings. This made me laugh so hard.
Author Juno Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 What have I been thinking?!?!?! All this time... I have been sending women cards, chocolates, flowers, gift baskets, etc. I was sending the wrong things... I should have just sent pictures of my junk instead! This explains a lot... From now on, I know what to do! Too Funny.
Author Juno Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 Juno, I actually recall some of your previous threads! Well, not completely, but WOW. This is an on-going pattern and he hasn't stopped? On again, off again? What's going on? Yeah, my history with my ex is a pretty sad and twisted story. I was in a very deep and dark place with him about a year and half ago. I didn't, couldn't, wouldn't get out of bed for months. Did not think I would ever smile or feel happiness again. It has been a struggle. When I say I think of him everyday..it is true. Almost every 30 mins, but I have accepted the pain and hurt I experience and try to keep it moving. NC has been extremely difficult for me, but has also been my salvation. When you no longer engage a person, there is nothing that can be said or done to hurt you. I have absolutely no idea why he broke NC. He asked me if I knew and I said I did not. He replied that he is obsessed with me. I doubt that. He was probably just going thru a dry spell (between conquests) and needed entertainment. As for the junk, it was nice while we were together, but now he's just another d*ck!
poorguy Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Is this the ex from your previous threads from a year or more ago when you became a member?? Just wondering
cerridwen Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 As for the junk, it was nice while we were together, but now he's just another d*ck! Just spit my coffee out.
jenifer1972 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Is he related to Brett Favre? Did he wear green crocs?
Author Juno Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 Is this the ex from your previous threads from a year or more ago when you became a member?? Just wondering Sadly, yes it is the same ex.
poorguy Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 That's what I was wondering. Not being judgmental just trying to understand. If you dont mind without readin all the old threads when did you meet, how long were you together, and did you live together-just trying to get perspective because it's interesting that he has sent you pics like that and I'm trying to (as a guy) figure out why??
Author Juno Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 That's what I was wondering. Not being judgmental just trying to understand. If you dont mind without readin all the old threads when did you meet, how long were you together, and did you live together-just trying to get perspective because it's interesting that he has sent you pics like that and I'm trying to (as a guy) figure out why?? Sorry I can't summarize history without revisiting a very hurtful time in my life. He broke up with me 2 or 3 times, tried to reconnect summer 2009, January 2010, and most recently October 2010. Each time the same, he miss me or our physical contact, then BAM! Pics of his stuff in various stages of....(well you know). Yes, he is immature, but it was partly his boyish charm that attracted me to him. Out of self preservation I had to keep my distance. Could not allow him to get me to feel passionately again. I had crawled my way out of dark, damp subterranean place. Unless he came back "correct" there could be no place for him in my life.
poorguy Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 I didn't mean to bring up a terrible time in your life. I was just intirgued by the story about an ex sending pics like that to you. Man what a way to try and win a lover back lol!!!! Is that something you guys did while together? If so he's just trying to stir up good memories and rekindle something familair as a way back in. I had an ex send me things like that but it's somwhow a little diff coming from a female
Author Juno Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 I didn't mean to bring up a terrible time in your life. I was just intirgued by the story about an ex sending pics like that to you. Man what a way to try and win a lover back lol!!!! Is that something you guys did while together? If so he's just trying to stir up good memories and rekindle something familair as a way back in. I had an ex send me things like that but it's somwhow a little diff coming from a female No it was not something we did while together. He was not technically savvy, until recently...like this year when he discovered the dreaded "Web Cam". You don't even want me to tell you that story. He is very proud of his junk and obviously thinks he can win any woman over by placing it on display.
cerridwen Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Is he related to Brett Favre? Did he wear green crocs? Juno, your thread is killing me.
Author Juno Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 You should just block his number I have done this in the past, but my efforts proved to be futile. Instead of texting he emailed me and said "he got the message" and would leave me alone. Yeah right. Attached to email was a pic of his "stuff" with the caption "see what you are missing". Besides, he would just call from work, or IM me. Plus he enjoyed getting a reaction out of me, be it positive or negative. Knowing that I had to take steps to restrict him, made him feel empowered. He could control my emotions as easily as flipping a switch. I hate passing up on the opportunity to rip him a new one, but no reaction, no blocking, no response, no contact is the best way.
Author Juno Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 Is he related to Brett Favre? Did he wear green crocs? All his pics are Favresque, except one full body, full monty wearing nothing more than a straw hat and a big grin on his face.
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