nikos21 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Hello all. I really want, long time now, to travel a lot and possibly to live in another country.. Things came this way, and I am currently planning to leave in about a year and a half. I 've started language lessons many months ago, and I am planning to leave for a seasonal job, do my Msc after it and if I like the place, to stay permanently, since things in my country don't seem to go well. I will definately miss my family and friends, but I will be visiting them each summer/christmas for about a month probably. Most of them even advised me to pursue this goal. The problem is I worry about my mother.. I believe it will cost her too much seeing me leaving for good and its almost certain she will be really hurt... And I want to follow my dreams and goals. The question is, what should I do, and how can I make things better for her? Thanks for reading
creighton0123 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 The problem is I worry about my mother.. I believe it will cost her too much seeing me leaving for good and its almost certain she will be really hurt... And I want to follow my dreams and goals. The question is, what should I do, and how can I make things better for her? Invest in a good laptop with a high quality webcam for both of you so that you can video chat whenever you would otherwise communicate. While I'm only a 4 hour drive from my parents, they love video chat instead of phone communication. I've heard this from a number of parents before (I'm not a parent myself), but they recognize that part of bringing someone into the world involves preparing yourself for when you have to let them go. If you feel bad about leaving, make it your number one priority to communicate with her before you communicate with anyone else. Even if abroad, modern technology makes it so you can communicate with someone almost every day.
amerikajin Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Invest in a good laptop with a high quality webcam for both of you so that you can video chat whenever you would otherwise communicate. While I'm only a 4 hour drive from my parents, they love video chat instead of phone communication. I've heard this from a number of parents before (I'm not a parent myself), but they recognize that part of bringing someone into the world involves preparing yourself for when you have to let them go. If you feel bad about leaving, make it your number one priority to communicate with her before you communicate with anyone else. Even if abroad, modern technology makes it so you can communicate with someone almost every day. Excellent post, excellent advice. I lived abroad for four years. My night was my family's day, and vice versa. I think that communication is key, and I wish I would have done more of it while abroad. I had to repair some relationships a bit upon my return, and I blame some of that on my lack of communication. If you just make it a point to call/skype/G-phone, then that will help a lot. And of course, yes, by all means, visit regularly - for extended periods of time if you can.
worlybear Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Hello all. I really want, long time now, to travel a lot and possibly to live in another country.. Things came this way, and I am currently planning to leave in about a year and a half. I 've started language lessons many months ago, and I am planning to leave for a seasonal job, do my Msc after it and if I like the place, to stay permanently, since things in my country don't seem to go well. I will definately miss my family and friends, but I will be visiting them each summer/christmas for about a month probably. Most of them even advised me to pursue this goal. The problem is I worry about my mother.. I believe it will cost her too much seeing me leaving for good and its almost certain she will be really hurt... And I want to follow my dreams and goals. The question is, what should I do, and how can I make things better for her? Thanks for reading Speaking as a mum- my advice is to go ahead. It will be tough on you both but you only have one life and you owe it to yourself (and your mum!) to live happily. Don't make the mistake of putting off your dreams- you will end up regretting it and besides the world is getting smaller all the time- you'll see each other loads:)
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