irc333 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 This seems to be a common occurance lately (at least from around here) I had a male friend of mine, dating some hot latina woman....for like 6 months, she dumps him, and like a few months later, she's engaged, pregnant, and then marries some guy she's known 5 years ago. And I'm thinking "Why didn't they do it THEN?" I have noticed women going BACKWARDS in time to previous prospects, friendzoned men, and NOW seeing them as prospects BUT only if the timing is good, if both are available, they might get married. I just noticed that some women tend to go backwards instead of forwards...but I could be wrong...but I do see this from time to time.
seibert253 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 This seems to be a common occurance lately (at least from around here) I had a male friend of mine, dating some hot latina woman....for like 6 months, she dumps him, and like a few months later, she's engaged, pregnant, and then marries some guy she's known 5 years ago. And I'm thinking "Why didn't they do it THEN?" I have noticed women going BACKWARDS in time to previous prospects, friendzoned men, and NOW seeing them as prospects BUT only if the timing is good, if both are available, they might get married. I just noticed that some women tend to go backwards instead of forwards...but I could be wrong...but I do see this from time to time. Your friend was "rebounded" He was her rebound relationship. The person she truly loved came back, bam! Your buddy's out the door. Happens all the time. Be very wary of chicks who've just came out of LTR's.
Author irc333 Posted January 5, 2011 Author Posted January 5, 2011 Actually, she wasn't just out of a LTR, she just flaked. Your friend was "rebounded" He was her rebound relationship. The person she truly loved came back, bam! Your buddy's out the door. Happens all the time. Be very wary of chicks who've just came out of LTR's.
carhill Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 As an expert at the friendzone, I'll opine the example given in the OP is a marked anomaly *if* the guy from five years ago was a friendzoned man. I doubt he was, rather more likely a past love interest with whom the woman had been intimate. Friendzone, by definition, precludes sex or sexual behavior, rather limits interaction to purely platonic behavior. IME, and this comes from other males besides myself, any man who is perceived by a woman as unattractive and without sexual potential is *very* unlikely to ever be perceived differently. I've experienced multiple datapoints of this over many years, experiencing growth and life change, with unwavering perception of the totality. Since it doesn't really bother me anymore as I'm pretty much finished up with women, I'll add more datapoints as experienced. I have two currently working. It's become a psychological experiment now.
sam light Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 it is possible to decide that "applicant number 4" is the best, after interviewing 8 applicants. Carhill, why are you finished with women, may I ask?
carhill Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Carhill, why are you finished with women, may I ask? I don't feel there is any significant positive aspect to investing in them anymore. My parents are dead and I have some wonderful friends who do value me, and a great cat. TBH, women are nothing but a drain on my psyche and emotions. So, in the interest of health, after two years of consideration and some dating, I'm at that place, without reservation. Every datapoint I encounter these days seems to point in that direction, so, using the tools I learned in MC, I accept it. Plenty of other challenges and adventures in life left to experience, God-willing. That's it.
Author irc333 Posted January 5, 2011 Author Posted January 5, 2011 Ever thought about traveling to parts of the world for not only scenice reasons, but to experience the ladies over seas (Nothing serious though?) Just have a care free attitude? I don't feel there is any significant positive aspect to investing in them anymore. My parents are dead and I have some wonderful friends who do value me, and a great cat. TBH, women are nothing but a drain on my psyche and emotions. So, in the interest of health, after two years of consideration and some dating, I'm at that place, without reservation. Every datapoint I encounter these days seems to point in that direction, so, using the tools I learned in MC, I accept it. Plenty of other challenges and adventures in life left to experience, God-willing. That's it.
carhill Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 I've been to fourteen countries now and dated women from three besides the US. Remember, I'm 51. I've been around. My opinion should have no bearing on those young enough to be my children or grandchildren. It's an opinion borne of age and experience and acceptance. One opinion.
Eeyore79 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 it is possible to decide that "applicant number 4" is the best, after interviewing 8 applicants. That's what it sounds like to me too. She dated around until she reached a certain age when she wanted to get married, then went back to the best option. Maybe at the time she was dating him she thought she could do better, but with hindsight he was the best offer she got, so she went back to him. Women have a tendency to get desperate when they reach a certain age; I've known quite a few who went back to an ex because they were getting on a bit and hadn't had any better offers.
january2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Some women marry for security, not love. Seconded. I know women who've done this. I don't quite understand it myself (yet). But perhaps this may be part of 'settling' when the pool of potential partners is small.
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