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So Im not going to go through the entire story but there are several of you who have read my previous posts and know everything that is going on. basically i have been with my bf since i was 12, we are now 20, and lived together for the past year. we had our good days and bad days but it started to get worse and then one night he went to a club and lied straight to my face about it. so since then and my last post, it has only been 5 days and my best friend and i have found an apartment, decided to move in together, signed a lease and bought furniture. he and i didnt really speak with the exception of a few emails, and i told him 3 days ago i was moving in with her and he wasnt very responsive. anyway as the days went by he got nicer and nicer and then yesterday he begged to meet me at subway to talk. I agreed. the entire thing snowballed and i ended up at his (our) house and he was hysterically crying begging me to move back in there and not to leave him and he cant live with out me and he cant sleep without me every night and then he started throwing up because he was crying so hard and i kept telling him all i needed was my space and he kept saying that was the one thing in life he couldnt give me because he cant risk being without me forever and then when i went to leave he wrapped his arms around my legs and was crying on me and begging me not to leave so i stayed and he literally stayed up all night watching me sleep and i kept waking up because i was getting wet from all his tears. i was so excited about moving out on my own but now i just feel guilty, everyone in his life, parents included have abandoned him and i was always the person that was always there for him and he told me last night it was like his mom leaving him all over again and i just feel like i cant live with myself now. someone please help me right now.

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I have to be blunt here, I don't know your full story but if he truly loves you he needs to allow you your space. You can't make up for his feelings of abandonment with his family. And just because you're moving in with your friend doesn't mean you are abandoning him.......just means you're not living under the same roof.

 

I'm afraid if you cave to his demands, you will live to regret it. A relationship should be two parties doing what's best for both, not one making the other feel guilty so you will do as they want.

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You're not his Mother. You're too young to handle the responsibility of taking care of him. Make him get himself some help - counselling preferably.

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Here is the background story on anc20 and her BF Click here.

 

anc20,

 

Go read through your old thread again... Look at what Graceful and SoleHarmony said to you...

 

You and your BF have a VERY, VERY dysfunctional relationship.

 

I am very proud of you that you decided to move out... You are too. It is a very exciting time indeed.

 

Your EX lies to you, mistreats you and is only holding you back.

 

Be strong and do what is best for YOU!

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