Mikki Mars Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 (edited) I'm really scared, I'm going to graduate from college in May of next year of December of this year, and I've never dated or had sex in my whole life. The most I've done was hookups, and I've only hooked up six times in my life, all when in drunk settings. I don't have too many friends at school, and I'm 5'1'' tall and male. I'm scared that if I graduate college with no friends and no sexual/romantic experiences, I'll have nothing to base my future endeavors off of. What am I going to do? I'm already 22 and I feel worthless and even suicidal at times. Yes you can say that I "need help," but thats not going to get my any love or sex. Those are the two things I want most in the whole world, but more love, tho I'll take either if available at the soonest possible time. Where should I search for girls? What do I do if I don't have a circle of guy friends? Am I doomed??? I certainly feel it. The thing I want most in the whole world is to be loved, cuddle, kiss, hug, be told by her that she loves me, be in someone's thoughts and have that affection. And of course, to make love, which is only part of that equation. Sex would make me feel more confident, tho I want a loving relationship, either fling or long term, I don't care either one is fine. Why I never went to a prostitute: because I actually have tried certain things for money but I felt NOTHING, because a large part of it is knowing not anyone could have gotten it, meaning that you mean something in SOME WAY. When I did pay for things (that weren't sex but in a non-paying context would have been erotic), it felt like nothing. To me, even one night stands indicate this because she would have chosen the guy over others. Attraction is attractive. But I want most to have someone to melt into me, with that warm, happy, secure feeling. Edited January 5, 2011 by Mikki Mars
shayan Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 ohh mikki bud, you got it all so backwards. the reason you aren't finding relationships is because you are desperately wanting one to fulfill your life. Girls and guys can sniff out desperatism like an old work out t-shirt. With this mentality even if you do find a girl and get into a relationship you will act clingly and dependent and the girl will probably leave you. so what do you do? work on yourself, learn to be happy by yourself, learn to me a confident. Have you ever wacthed the james bond films, did James Bond ever complain about not having chicks and desperately seeked to find them. Nah he just did his own thing and when they were around he hit on them confidently being himself. Get rid of the desperatism, replace it with self confidence. Work on yourself, and the chicks will come, the chicks will come. how do I know, because I've had almost the same experience.
OrangeSnack Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 its all about the confidence bud Doesnt matter what you look like or how tall you are. Confidence is so important. Be brave. If it doesn't work, move on, don't sweat about it
Buzzkillington Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 Yes It's all about confidence - you know in High School there were lots of guys who (at that point) didn't ever seem to have girls interested in them? That wasn't down to (at least, not very much) how they looked, or even what they were interested in work or hobby wise or anything like that - it was because they had no confidence around women. I can also speak from personal experience of course - I wasn't in a popular group of friends at school/college, and none of us were good looking, but there were a couple of us who were very confident in ourselves despite this - and that's why we ended up at least having a few women interested in us here and there. What I'm saying is that no matter who your friends are or what you like doing in life, DO IT and as long as you enjoy it enough to be confident you will (eventually at least) attract women throughout your life. You might never be a player (God knows I'm never going to be!), but there are people out there for everyone, you just need to like yourself, or at least project the image that you like yourself while you work on it.
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