Faded_x Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 I wasn't sure where to post this, but I thought here might be the right spot. Firstly I just want to apologise in advance, since I know this post will pretty much just be a big, whiney rant from me, over pretty much nothing. I live in a small town; the same one I have my whole life. I kind of hate the fact that I got into a nearby uni, and so still live at home (which seemed the sensible [financially] thing to do). Of course, all of my best friends have since moved away, and a good majority of the rest of my friends. I do still have a few friends living in the area, and some that come back and visit regularly. I definitely wouldn't say I have a regularly booming social life; but I definitely don't lack one either. The thing is though, all my friends who still live in the area have major things going on in their lives. They're engaged, building their own home, pregnant, or already have kids. Or a combination of them. I'm still a regular uni student with no attachments. While our friendships haven't drifted and I don't feel like I can't relate to them anymore, obviously our friendships HAVE changed. We do see each other often enough, even if sometimes weeks go by where I don't see some of them. I'm always invited to major or planned events; but there's those times where a few of them will just end up at the pub, or someone else's house spontaneously, yet no one will think to send me a message inviting me along or anything. I know they're not trying to shut me out or anything; but it's just frustrating, and I think a little inconsiderate. My current relationship is ending/has already ended. To be honest, it was the one thing that stopped me from feeling so lonely in this town, despite the fact that it was a long distance relationship. Because of the end of this relationship, I'm feeling even more claustrophobic living here. I've been desperately wanting to get out for ages; but this has caused me to want to do so even more. It's just so difficult when I'm tied here because of uni, and not really having the money to move. I don't want to just move out of home; I really want to move away. Like, away away. I need to meet new people and be in a different environment. That's my plan for this year; and I'm hoping I'll be able to accomplish it in 6 months time. I have a plan to transfer to a new uni in a city which is about 5 hours away. In the mean time, I just have to save up and do well in my studies, so that I'll be able to (hopefully) successfully transfer.
pookster72 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 how much longer do you have left? i know it sucks now living at home but doing so will save you a lot of money and allow you financial freedom later when deciding where you want to move and start a new life. i understand that living with your parents can definitely put a damper on your social life, but from what you're saying it sounds like you struggle as it is socially. do you really think that moving is going to change that? have you not made friends with people at uni who are (presumably) in the same stage of life as you? maybe you should try to work on this before assuming that being in a different area will fix everything.
Author Faded_x Posted January 5, 2011 Author Posted January 5, 2011 how much longer do you have left? i know it sucks now living at home but doing so will save you a lot of money and allow you financial freedom later when deciding where you want to move and start a new life. i understand that living with your parents can definitely put a damper on your social life, but from what you're saying it sounds like you struggle as it is socially. do you really think that moving is going to change that? have you not made friends with people at uni who are (presumably) in the same stage of life as you? maybe you should try to work on this before assuming that being in a different area will fix everything. I still have years to go; and I'm actually considering changing courses when I transfer, so that will add to my time at uni, too. I don't think I explained things very well, but I don't have problems socially. I'm not exactly a shy person, and I have no problems getting along with people and making friends. It's just the town I live in. It's a very small place, and there's no real opportunity for meeting new people, as you pretty much already know everyone here. The uni I go to is about an hour away from where I live, and I travel back and forth. I have made friends there, but it's hard to keep up with them outside of uni, due to the distance and the fact that I don't currently have a license. I did apply for on campus accommodation at uni, but was turned down due to living so close when there are others that need the spot more. It's fair enough, but makes it hard to stay in touch with my uni friends socially very often when I'm so far away. At this point, I don't even want to move closer to my uni anyway. I'm not very happy there (due to the uni itself; they made major changes to the way it runs and I'm not happy with it anymore), and want to change uni's entirely. So yeah, like I said, I don't have problems making friends. It's definitely the situation/environment I'm currently in that is the problem. It's not overly living at home that bothers me; my mum gives me a lot of freedom and treats me as an adult. It's living in this small town that gets to me.
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