elaina Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 So I've been talking with this guy through a dating forum. We seemed to click, so I agreed to meet him even though I haven't met anyone in quite awhile. We finalized the date and location - a tea cafe, in one week. I get there and find a table - so far so good. This elderly man starts talking to me, but whatever, I'm polite. So he shows up, and he's pretty handsome - score another point. We sit down and IMMEDIATELY the elderly man continues talking. Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. It's 7pm, mind you. The elderly man FINALLY leaves, so for about half an hour the guy and I start talking. It seems to be going well, we seem to be clicking, he's smiling when he looks at me and when he's talking to me as well as making a lot of eye contact, which is always a good sign. I get up to use the restroom, come back and notice... ...HE'S BACK! That elderly man came BACK! So he's talking AGAIN. Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah, I'm trying to be polite but I can't understand half of what he says because of his thick accent. I'm tired, I'm bored. I'm starting to get irritated. If it were just me and a friend, we'd politely thank him for the conversation and end it, or we'd courteously take our leave and go elsewhere. But I feel I can't leave my 'meet-up man' abruptly, and I don't know what to do since he seems to be into the conversation! SO blah blah blah blah blah on and on and then it's time to go because the place is closing...at 11pm!!! 4 HOURS! What's worse is that as we were leaving, the guy got the elderly guy's number and said he'd call him so they could make plans to talk again. He expected me to turn down the street with him, but it was out of my way and in any case I had no desire to waste more of my time, so we parted ways. I just got home, and honestly, my mind is completely blown. I'm not going to say that this elderly guy was completely uninteresting. But after talking about the importance of taking vitamins, then about doctors, then Germans, religion, Jewish people, hip hop music, dating, his 3 marriages, his business, his friends, traveling, the HISTORY OF THE OTTOMAN EMPIRE AND OF EUROPE I KID YOU NOT!!!! I was sooo done. I didn't go there to talk to random people, I went there to meet someone and see if there was a connection. I felt like he had wasted my time. I adore talking about history and cultures and beliefs and politics!!! BUT NOT ON A DATE lol so I understand how you feel in that respect. To me, a date is all about having fun and making out and stuff like that. I also feel insulted. I'm an attractive, intelligent girl with a great personality and a sense of humor. I know guys who would love to take me out on a date. I know that he wasn't ignoring me because I'm ugly or uninteresting. I felt that this was just plain disrespectful and I'm so annoyed. Probably the guy didn't mean to be disrespectful? The guy should have said something like this though to the elderly man: "It was great talking to you, but I am on a date with this gorgeous girl, and I'd love to get to know her better. Here's my phone number. Let's get in touch later and we can talk some more." This is my question: if he should attempt to contact me again, should I even respond? Should I give him another chance? I'd like some opinions...has this ever happened to anyone else? It's NEVER happened to me or anyone I know! Good question. Do you like him? If you really like him, then I don't see why not to respond if he contacts you, but you could ask him if you could go somewhere more private lol!
Feelin Frisky Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 It is me AverageJoe. I'm wondering what issues YOU might have that you feel the need to 'take me down a peg'. I'm willing to bet you are less than 'all that' yourself. If you think I'm offended, you don't have to worry, I'm not. Mostly, I feel sorry for someone who feels the need to be such a jerk in an online forum. Seriously. What a lousy thing to say. And it makes no sense. Sorry you had to encounter such a thing.
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