ageliebter Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 I really love my boyfriend, he was my first. He claims he loves me back. He is smart, he is decent, educated. He is really attractive to me, he is family oriented. Those are great qualities that I admire of him. The other side of the coin: He admits he likes characteristic girls blonds, big boobs, tight clothes, light eyes. everything Im not. I would describe myself as bohemian, like flower dresses and romantic scenes. He keeps repeating all this things that he would like me to be instead, and always takes the chance to highlight any defect he sees on me, whether it is about my personality or the way I look. Also I believe he finds my cousin more attractive (and his type) than me. I am so in love with him, and he tells me so, but sometimes he doesnt show it. he never looks at me in the eyes for too long. Our kisses are not those of desire, I dont understand why because as of me concerns I really want him. We've been together for few months. I'm afraid he is with me to not feel alone. But Im in love so I dont want to leave him, maybe Im mistaken. I can't stop wasting my time thinking about this. Help please
PegNosePete Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 He keeps repeating all this things that he would like me to be instead, and always takes the chance to highlight any defect he sees on me, whether it is about my personality or the way I look. What a douche. Seriously I think you already know what the response is going to be here. He is completely disrespecting you and your feelings. He does not love you. He sees you as a pushover because he can insult you to your face and you just keep coming back for more. He is using you. Ditch this loser so fast it makes his head hurt.
aisle_seat Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 I agree with PNP. Your suspicions as to why he wants to be with you are probably correct. He is being very disrespectful to you. There are plenty of men out there who will love and respect you for who you are. This guy's not one of them. Move on before he really hurts you.
TigerCub Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 I'm afraid he is with me to not feel alone. But Im in love so I dont want to leave him, maybe Im mistaken. I can't stop wasting my time thinking about this. Help please Well if you don't want to leave him - stay with him until he completely destroys your self esteem - because that's what he's doing. Its fine to be attracted to different "types" of people, but its NOT fine to pretty much tell you that you're not good enough, that you're not his idea of what's hot. He's just breaking you down and making you feel crappy about who you are, and in time, believe me, it will add up and get to the point where you feel like absolute sh_t about yourself. (and the sad part is, is that at that point, you'd stay with him and put up with him because you wont feel like anyone out there will love you for you) Go find someone that will appreciate you for who you are. This guys is soooooo not worth it.
ItsNeverForever Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 RUN FAST. Tell him what a douche he is for DARING to treat you this way and kick him to the curb. YOU are perfect just the way you are, and NO MAN should ever dare try to DEFINE you. But there are plenty who will FIND you - beautiful, charming, and perfect for them. Go get 'em!
kourtney01 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Sounds like a real winner... I agree with all the posts here. You are actually lucky that he is being THIS brutally honest to your face...this way you don't have to be the girl that posts here a few months later: "how could he cheat on me when we are so in love" because he clearly does not love you and you know it. He may be with you for companionship, sex or just plain boredom. But rest assured, if you do not leave him..he will leave you when the next big-boobed blonde bimbo crosses his path. Leave him and find somebody who sees you as the most beautiful woman in the world.
Feelin Frisky Posted January 12, 2011 Posted January 12, 2011 What a douche. Seriously I think you already know what the response is going to be here. He is completely disrespecting you and your feelings. He does not love you. He sees you as a pushover because he can insult you to your face and you just keep coming back for more. He is using you. Ditch this loser so fast it makes his head hurt. Gee, don't hold back, there Pete. I agree but with a little sugar on top.
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