gravitylove Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 I want to start off by saying that any sincere advice is greatly appreciated. I feel like my friends and family don't understand how I feel. I was in a relationship with my ex for almost a year (on and off). I was his first girlfriend he had never really dated or been serious with anyone we are both in our twenties. Our final break up was in August of 2010. I was extremely hurt, but I knew it was for the best. He was always very indecisive with me. I really fell in love with him, I mean we shared a lot of fun and great times together. He was the type of guy I wanted to marry. But his lack of commitment and immatureness made it so difficult that we were constantly fighting. Three weeks after the break up (August 2010), he texts me out of the blue. I replied two days later, basically he wanted to get back but I think it's because he saw me out having fun. I was up for it because I love him, and suddenly he changes his mind and tells me he's talking to other girls and to move on with my life. That's what I was trying to do, but when he contacted me,it just dragged me back to square one. Anyhow, after that we didn't talk for like two weeks. Somehow we ended just hooking up every now and then. But the last time we hooked up was in November and we got in a hugeee fight and that was it. I still wanted him in my life even after all that crap and the way he treated me. Now, let me fast forward to New Years 2011. I was at this exclusive party, I was having a blast with my friends and in my head I just said that I would forget about him. An hour goes by and suddenly I see my ex, and he was with another girl! He tapped my friend, and then he smiled at me in a sarcastic manner. My heart dropped to the ground, I even felt dizzy to the point where my friend had to hold me. I was hurt seeing him with someone else so soon. So, I see a friend that I had met three weeks prior to NYE, and apparently he knows my ex somehow. So my guy friend and I were together the whole night. My ex's brother was there and he just started making drama taking my friend away from me and talking bad about me to him. Through out the whole night! My ex even went up to my best friend and told her that the guy I was with had done drugs before he came to the party. I was humiliated, but I did not want to leave because of the way they were acting and creating drama for no reason. I never once said anything to my ex, he was there with another girl never did I say a word to him. Apparently they are still talking about me and it's bothering me and it hurts that he was there with another girl. I just don't know how or why I can't seem to forget my ex. I mean I still love him, but even after all of that I would want him back in my life. But I know I'm wrong for thinking that way. What can I do? Or how would you take this situation? Thanks
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PegNosePete Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 You both sound very immature. He is using another girl to hurt you, and you are doing the same to him. Just stop it and live for yourself. Don't hang out with your ex's brother or any of his friends, they will naturally take his side.
9Lives Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 The best thing to do is to leave it all alone. He is disrespectful and is not trying to bring any good into your life. Ex like him are going to do that. They are going to be mean and hateful cause it makes them feel good. It has nothing to do with you. He is on your mind cause you love him but its not healthy love. Ypu guys have a history of breaking up and getting back together again so it shows there are things you really don't like about him anyway dispite the love u have for him. Stop dealimg with him all together. Its not worth the pain. This is a new year. To something positive and. Leave that in 2010.
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