He was in the bathroom with another girl, and "nothing happened" ??

[Enthusiastic]

I'll make this short, sweet, and to the point.

 

Not that long ago I went with my boyfriend to one of his friends 'going away parties'. I have no problem with any of his friends, but I'm not buddies with them.

There's this one chick, however. We'll call her Mary. Now according to my boyfriend, Mary likes his best friend. We'll call him Keith.

 

Now Keith got drunk and basically was getting hit on by all the other girls at the party.

 

My boyfriend took Keith outside to let him get some fresh air, and to keep all the other girls away from him. I didn't mind, because I'd of done the same thing if it was my best friend. But Mary decided to join them. I didn't think too much, because I knew that she had feelings for Keith.

 

They were outside for a good 2 hours, leaving me alone with maybe one person I knew. It was really awkward for me, and the party wasn't at all enjoyable.

 

So my boyfriend, Keith and Mary finally decide to come back into the house after 2 hours. However, my boyfriend got really close to Mary, and at one point I thought he was going to kiss her. [i was sitting on the stairs, trying to keep away from the drunk guys. I was out of his view.] And what did the 3 of them do? Go into the bathroom.

 

They spent atleast another hour and a half in the bathroom, door closed and locked. Now, I know Keith was drunk, but did he really need two people looking after him?

Height wise, my boyfriend is bigger than Keith [He's 6"4] and can easily over power him if he got out of control.

 

My boyfriend didn't even bother to come out of the bathroom, let alone text me to tell me what was going on. By now, everything was running through my head.

 

I had finally had enough and knocked on the door. Asking what was going on in there. My boyfriend opened the door, and I asked him if we could leave.

 

He told Keith he was going to leave, then he turned to Mary and asked if she'd take care of him. She said yes.

Then he leaned forward, his face hidden by the door. What did I hear? Kissing noises. I heard it 100%.

 

That night I confronted him while we were driving back to my place. He got all defensive and said nothing happened. But he never denied kissing Mary. When I asked him why he didn't deny it, he said because my "question was stupid".

 

Now, I came across pictures of Mary and my boyfriend rather close to each other today. It brought back memories, and he told me that she also sent him text messages saying she missed him.

And left comments on his posts on Facebook saying again that she missed him aswell. She also called him a cutie.

 

I admit, I have an issue with females when it comes to my boyfriend, and he knows that. He even admitted that the feeling was the same for him with me and guys.

 

Do I have the right to be pissed off? My boyfriend doesn't think so.

 

If you readers could give me your opinions of the situation, I'd really appreciate it.

[PegNosePete]

Do I have the right to be pissed off? My boyfriend doesn't think so.

A drunk person does not require 2 hours of fresh air and then 90 minutes of bathroom to recover. Usually after getting fresh air a drunk person will either be relatively OK or need to vomit within 30 minutes. A drunk person will usually feel better (at least better enough to go home to bed) within 10 minutes of vomiting. And you're right, it does not take 2 people to look after a drunk person. Usually their wingman (your BF) will look after him, especially in the bathroom. A girl who fancies him is not going to stick around to watch that!

 

It seems most likely that something went on here. Top of the list would be that Keith fell asleep or passed out on the bathroom floor, and your BF cheated on you. You've got a lot of other red flags too such as her flirting on FB and text, his defensiveness, and disrespecting you by abandoning you for 4 hours.

 

Sounds like a dumping is required, I'm afraid.

[LuLu65]

I have to agree with Pete..........I've stayed with a "cheater" for too many years, they don't change. At least mine didn't. Get out now, you deserve so much better.