GlareyPants Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 (edited) Hello, I was with a guy for 3 years. We broke up mainly due to the fact that we were so young when we got together(I was 17, he was 19). We've been broken up for nearly 3 years and have had little spurts of contact. The last year we've had consistent contact...texting, talking on the phone.(he lives in another state) in the last month or so things have gotten strange. He's let down his guard and has been telling me how he feels about me. Not in the "oh I'm in love with you sort of way" but in a guy aloof sort of way. "You know you're really hot. You know you're super funny. I love talking to you." etc etc. We've nailed down that we both still love each other. We both love talking to each other. There is a strong mutual attraction. Yet, he told me he doesn't want to have a romantic relationship with me again. I asked him why and he said..."We have a kind of bad history. Plus, I've been down that road before." He asked me if that made me not want to talk to him anymore. I said not really, but this situation is complicated. He told me it was simple. I said...It's simple for you because you don't love me anymore.(that was before we clarified things) He said.."Christ. Of course I still love you. Why do you think I tolerate your crap?" He lobbied hard for us to keep talking to each other. I kinda blew off that whole situation because I enjoy talking to him. I'm also deeply in love with him. However, the more I thought about it the more I realized if he doesn't want a relationship this is pointless. I'm in love, he's in love. However, we're can't be together because of some vague reasoning. I don't understand why he'd even want to talk to me. It's not like we talk like friends either. We flirt and compliment each other and other stuff.(not sex) So, it's so curious to me. To recap: He still loves me, loves talking to me, thinks I'm beautiful and doesn't want us to stop contacting each other. Yet, he "doesn't want to go down that road again." He won't give me a concrete reason..just vagueness like that. What are some of your opinions? Edited January 4, 2011 by GlareyPants Random title
D78 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 GlareyPants, It sounds like the break up 3 years ago, to him, was more than breaking up because you were too young. Was there a lot of drama? I can understand his point of view (loving someone who you couldn't be in a relationship with), but I also can't imagine why he would want to talk to you. Maybe you make him happy? Maybe an ego boost? Maybe he's lonely where he lives? It sounds like you are both pretty clear on where you stand. Why not cut off contact for a while and get over him, if you have no chance? Just some thoughts. Good luck.
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