irc333 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 When I went out on that date with that lady I mentioned before, she mentioned she was a member of some other dating sites, and had noticed she's seeing the same people. This got me thinking, chances are these SAME people have been doing online dating for years, and of course the women (don't mean to be picking on the women) as overly picky as they are, keep seeing the same people. With this epiphany, do you think people should realize , now that there's a FINITE amount of people to choose from in your geographic location....would it behoove one NOT be so picky? Chances are , the longer the person has been on the dating sites, the chancnes are they've turned down men left and right, rejecting every single guy, until they've reached the end of the line. When a woman notices that they've reached the end of that line, would it be advisable to re-arrange your dating criteria?
flying Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Oh, I don't know. Transport the online dating pool to another setting - say, a neighborhood bar. Let's say you see the same women there, night after night - maybe have even gone out with a few of them, but it didn't happen for you. So you keep going to the bar, hoping to meet someone new. Does that mean you're being overly picky? Or just that you need to go elsewhere to find someone compatible? And then there's yet another way to consider the question. Many times people do stick around for ages on dating sites - and, you know, that may have something to do with them. In your example, this is the guys; so, does that mean that in all that time, those guys whose pics keep popping up have never been out on a single date? If they have, and they didn't like the woman or women they went out with and so stuck around the dating site to keep looking, does that make them too picky? Where does it end? The bottom line is that it is what it is. I don't think people should force themselves to date folks they're not interested in - and personally, I wouldn't want to be one of those folks, either.
Author irc333 Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 I do agree with you yes....but let's say an EMP pulse hits, and we all get thrown back into the dark ages, limiting ourselves to just the village men/women. We'd be forced into a situation where we couldn't afford to be picky? It seems with the internet, and constant contact with people online, perhaps maybe spoiled us? The whole "kid in the candy store" effect? So many profiles of women (I don't read the men's , but I'm they exist there) One woman even said she took a break from online dating, and said, "Yep, I'm here again if you've seen me before, apparently there are no men out in public around my age." Apparently, in her small town, most men that are single, are at a goofy, immature college age....and men her age are all taken or married, which IS par for small towns, people snag someone as soon as possible, get married, have kids, etc. So she's admitting she was kind of "Forced" to go back online because of the lack of selection in her town, but she said she was online BEFORE, with unsatisfactory results, and was taking a stab at it again. I did email this woman a year ago, but of course no response, and now a year later, I almost feel inclined to email her and say, "Hey, maybe you should stop being so picky with the men that do email you, or maybe you should SERIOUSLY consider RE-locating." She didn't have that much going for her, she was a mid 30's waitress according to her profile...so , it's true she really couldn't afford to be picky with that kind of status. Just, it sometimes comes to a point where I see women COMPLAINING IN their profile about their frustrations, they whine about the KIND of men that email them, when they really wanted the 6' or taller guy, but they get upset if a shorter guy contacts them........as time progresses and they continue to use these sites, well, personally, they really need to start considering making lifestyle changes when it gets to that point. Oh, I don't know. Transport the online dating pool to another setting - say, a neighborhood bar. Let's say you see the same women there, night after night - maybe have even gone out with a few of them, but it didn't happen for you. So you keep going to the bar, hoping to meet someone new. Does that mean you're being overly picky? Or just that you need to go elsewhere to find someone compatible? And then there's yet another way to consider the question. Many times people do stick around for ages on dating sites - and, you know, that may have something to do with them. In your example, this is the guys; so, does that mean that in all that time, those guys whose pics keep popping up have never been out on a single date? If they have, and they didn't like the woman or women they went out with and so stuck around the dating site to keep looking, does that make them too picky? Where does it end? The bottom line is that it is what it is. I don't think people should force themselves to date folks they're not interested in - and personally, I wouldn't want to be one of those folks, either.
Author irc333 Posted January 5, 2011 Author Posted January 5, 2011 Figured I'd bump this back up, for some reason it didn't get many responses.
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