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My Ex Bf Left Abruptly Me For Another Girl Without Explanation !


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I Dont Know If Anyone Has Ever Went through this same thing i went through but it is the WORST feeling ever . Me and this boy has been off and on since june , 3rd month in we fell in love , then he cheated on me we worked it , talked here and there but still decided to take a little break no hard feelings. Eveything was going good untill this one day he stopped answering my phonecalls and texts . the day before we were hanging out at his sister house together and he was telling me how much he loved me and wanted me to be his girl again so like the naieve girl i am i believed him , we had a good time he dropped me off back home and in the car we were discussing how the next day i was going to introduce him to my family, he was excited and told me to call him and he'll be right over. well the next day i called him at 1 from my house phone and he didnt answer / so i called him at 5 and he didnt answer . so then i texted from my sister phone and he didnt answer , so then i started to panic ! im textin from my brothers ipod and asking my friend to call on 3way the whole time asking him if hes okay and i love him and everything . i keep checking FB to see if he updated his status and he didnt so im still worrying but i figured id just give it 2 more hours to see if he calls or gets on FB . well 1am the next day he still hasnt called me or nothing so i just soo happen to get on FB and some girl writes on his page how she loves him and shes happy their together again and their bonnie and clyde.. so i go on her page which so happened to be public and her status says with my bf last nite had fun / IMMEDIATELY i put two and two together ! i was soo devastated i called and texted and left messages and didnt respond at all ! i thought something bad happenned and he was with another girl ! I ended up being really sad for a while like a week because he changed his status to married and he NEVER did that for me while we was together ! well to make a long story short their relationship didnt last long and they ended up breaking up after the 2nd week although i was happy i was still sad . So right after he changed his thing back to single he writes me in IM and tells me that he loves me and he wants to be with me again so YEA i fell for it again . So everythings good again for acouple months (im writing status about him on FB / were calling texting eachother it was like love again) until one day as you probably figured again he IGNORES my texts / calls and FB messages ALL OF A SUDDEN. Mind you the previous day we was at this gettogether at his cousin house that i didnt know and he kindly introduces me as his girl and showing me off saying how pretty i am and stuff, honestly i really thought this was it i thought he cchanged HOWEVER when he dropped me off that night we went back to my place to chill and watch movies . It was soo much better this time he told me he asked me if i would get married to him (i said yes , he was smiling ear to ear) / he even told me that he wanted us to have kids and he wanted to get my name tattooed on his neck . He even went so far to get on my FB account change my status to married and put a little love message on my page (how sweet) ! I was soo happy it felt so real . well we got to talking that night again about how this time he would finally meet my mom the next day no BS this time and he promised this time it was different so we had our little talk a kiss goodnight and he left telling me to call him the next day as SOOn as i got up so he could come over like last time . smh well as soon as he left which was like 3am i was soo happy i got on FB wrote a little status about him write before i went to bed . As soon as i got up like he said i called him it had to be 11pm this time HE DID answer which i thought was surprising! i just reminded him to come over and he said okay he would call me back after he got back from his cousin house. well i got no phonecall AT ALL . i called him back and got no answer , i texted him got no answer so i got on FB and wrote him. I checked FB every had to be 30 mins and he didnt respond !! I really didnt want to believe what was happening this time again but i kinda guessed it . well it was getting late i was getting tired so i went to bed hoping i would get a call or text FB message the next day . Got up the next day no call/ FB message or text . he didnt update his status at all either ! 3 days went by and i didnt hear from him at all he didnt even update his status !! and the whole three days i was writing him messages because i knew he was on bcause he would like other ppls status but he just wouldnt update his . soo this whole time im talking to myself 2 more days went byand yes i wrote him 2 more messages . a message a day whcih was 5 messages in total he had on FB from me ...still no response!! and yes he was still adding ppl and liking status so he was on just no updating of his status ! well finally after the 5th day i decided to stop sending messages and see if he would respond i figured he had to respond sooner or later so 2 days went by and i get a new message ! its from him he tells me hes sorry (he doesnt say what hes sorry for tho) and tells me to text a number i never saw before to contact him ...so i text the number saying who i am and he responds ok i will call you in 15 mins . so 15 mins go by and he never calls me ! now im pissed/fedup/hurtetc i immediately get on FB and write another message to him ..one day goes by and i get no response . the next day of no word from him and still never recieving my call he FINALLY updates his status about ANOTHER GIRL saying how he spends money on her and how much hes into her . while eveyone is liking his status and commenting saying there happy for him im just reading the status over and over cant believe what my eyes are seeing. he didnt even have the audacity to tell me before he wrote something like that he didnt even break up with me he just left me without explanation . its been hard for me to get on FB for 3 days around that time (dec1st) because for 3 days all ive been seeing is his statuses about his new girl how pretty she is and how he left the "player" world for her . he also went so far to put in a relationship________________-(her name here) WITH HER ! he knew he had my fb he didnt even care about my feelings he could have at least deleted me or something ! i just felt so low and sad its been hard to get my mind off that and actually smile again. well i finally got advice from my family and i deleted him from my FB just 2 weeks ago . it felt good but then again it hurts because he hasnt tried to add me again or message me its like he never cared at all ! i deeted my posts about him but my status is still "married" from wheren he changed it . it hurts so much my sister has his FB still and hes still in a relationship with her and very happy together how we use to be . i admit everyonce and awhile i check up to see what going on with them two and it hurts to even look at it . how could he do this to me ? ive put up soo much with him i just feel like i deserved an explanation , he left the relationship for the wrong reasons (grass is greener) i guess he feels shes prettier than me he always talks about her beauty . i dont know im 19 im not young but im still hurt its a new year now 2011 jan but thats all i think about i never know what to write on FB anymore i have no words for life ..it hurts so bad i wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy ..i dont know what to do .

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I'm so sorry. I know you're hurting. This guy sounds like a real jerk and I hope you love yourself enough to walk away and never speak to him again.

 

Get out there and mingle girl! At your age, guys are everywhere. Have fun and remember that actions always speak louder than words.

 

Good luck.

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ugh thank you its soo hard , i know im soo much better than how he was treating me but i still love him..but love shouldnt hurt. i guess boys really dont understand what they do , i tool back all the clothes i bought him for a surprise for him ...i saw him one day he tried to grab me and start a convo but i just ignored him how he did me , i really wanted to talk to him but i refuse to be in second place to anyone ! i m trying to occupy my time with work and a cna class its still very hard but thank you for your comment !: )

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Thank you for taking the time to read my threads ! Please dont hesitate to leave any comments male or female i would like to get all perspectives on this situation . I really need advice.

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I hope that girl dumps his ass!

 

 

 

Me Too ! I Want Him To Feel How Im Feelinq , Im A Human I Have Feelings You Dont Do That To People Its Not Right . Most Men Try to Ignore Their Problems thinking That it just goes away but it doesnt its still the same way you left it or even worse ! he'll regret it one day Karma Comes Back Around TWICE as hard !:mad:

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