Els Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Errr... I don't think it's a good idea at all, not this soon. Unless you pay your own way, you're bound to feel obligated due to the amount spent on you. With a guy you barely know and trust, that isn't good at all and can lead to some messy situations. And I'm not even talking about sex. How will you feel if you end up not liking him and having to reject him after the trip?
musemaj11 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Errr... I don't think it's a good idea at all, not this soon. Unless you pay your own way, you're bound to feel obligated due to the amount spent on you. With a guy you barely know and trust, that isn't good at all and can lead to some messy situations. And I'm not even talking about sex. How will you feel if you end up not liking him and having to reject him after the trip? Since when women care about not taking advantage of men?
Els Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Since when women care about not taking advantage of men? Not interested in derailing the OP's thread by going into neverending 'debate' regarding women vs men with you, sorry.
Author daphne Posted January 5, 2011 Author Posted January 5, 2011 How old are you two? Are you guys like in your 40s or 50s? If yes then the whole thing is no big deal. Anyway does he know you are richer than him? If such is the case my guess is that he was just trying too hard to increase his value in your eyes. He's early 30's. I'm older. I'm pretty sure he knows. I think you're right. He doesn't have to do it that way tho. He already seems to have good values and know how to treat a girl.
Author daphne Posted January 5, 2011 Author Posted January 5, 2011 Errr... I don't think it's a good idea at all, not this soon. Unless you pay your own way, you're bound to feel obligated due to the amount spent on you. With a guy you barely know and trust, that isn't good at all and can lead to some messy situations. And I'm not even talking about sex. How will you feel if you end up not liking him and having to reject him after the trip? Yes, this crossed my mind during the decision making process. I didn't want to feel obligated for anything. What if we got there, got on each other's nerves and never wanted to see each other again? I would have felt guilty. It would be better to see if we end up in a relationship before doing that kind of thing.
Els Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Yes, this crossed my mind during the decision making process. I didn't want to feel obligated for anything. What if we got there, got on each other's nerves and never wanted to see each other again? I would have felt guilty. It would be better to see if we end up in a relationship before doing that kind of thing. Yup, precisely.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 A guy friend of mine who wanted to be more than friends offered to take me to Europe for 1-2 weeks, since he had a decent amount of rewards miles accrued and that would cover a large part of the tickets. I said no because I'm not interested in him in that way (not because I'm not attracted to him, but because I know he's a player and just not for me). But I must admit it was tempting! And plenty of my friends were hollering at me to gooooo. But I stuck to my guns. In your situation, I would not go. It would be way too soon for that, for me. The soonest I've gone on a trip with a guy is a few months in.
TheWatcher Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Yes, this crossed my mind during the decision making process. I didn't want to feel obligated for anything. What if we got there, got on each other's nerves and never wanted to see each other again? I would have felt guilty. It would be better to see if we end up in a relationship before doing that kind of thing. Free Flight--The Exploited (1981)
Author daphne Posted January 5, 2011 Author Posted January 5, 2011 Free Flight--The Exploited (1981) Would be helpful if the dude could enunciate...
Author daphne Posted January 5, 2011 Author Posted January 5, 2011 A guy friend of mine who wanted to be more than friends offered to take me to Europe for 1-2 weeks, since he had a decent amount of rewards miles accrued and that would cover a large part of the tickets. I said no because I'm not interested in him in that way (not because I'm not attracted to him, but because I know he's a player and just not for me). But I must admit it was tempting! And plenty of my friends were hollering at me to gooooo. But I stuck to my guns. In your situation, I would not go. It would be way too soon for that, for me. The soonest I've gone on a trip with a guy is a few months in. Yeah but you saw the writing on the wall. He wants more. He would resent you for going & not reciprocating somehow. No funs. Better to be comfortable with your decision, than regret taking that kind of risk later.
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