daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 I went out on 2nd date with #1 guy and it was another good date. He's a sweet guy and we laugh a lot. We sat kinda close cos it was cold and it was cozy. But then he threw out an invitation for me to pick up a ticket at the airport and fly to Paris to meet him over the weekend. This weekend. I didn't really believe him at first and told him I had a lot going on at work (which I do) and that it would be tough for me to get out of things. He said he understood but persisted and talked about all of the things we could do. It sounded exciting. Sounded like I needed to be spontaneous. However... I don't know this guy. I don't like putting myself in vulnerable positions. As much fun as we might have, it might also turn into a nightmare. Or at least we might not get along that well, spending that much time together without really knowing each other. And I like to go slow. I almost said yes, but work said no go so I had to decline, with much gratitude. He was disappointed, but tried to hide it. My gf told me to go and asked to meet the guy. LOL. I showed her his photo and she was excited for me. She would have gone without thinking twice. How many other women would?
sugarmomma Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Maybe as long as we didn't have to sleep in the same room. It does seem soon but it sounds like nothing to him which makes me think he makes that kind of offer often. Hmmmmm.
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 (edited) Maybe as long as we didn't have to sleep in the same room. It does seem soon but it sounds like nothing to him which makes me think he makes that kind of offer often. Hmmmmm. He did mention that if I felt more comfortable he had a suite so I could sleep in the other room. I also asked him if he did that kind of thing a lot and he started to say never then he said sometimes. hmm... We have a friend in common. That friend I dated when I was in my early 20's. He knows the story is that said friend stopped calling when I didn't put out early so he's gotta know I'm not going that route with him either. In all fairness, I do think he was just trying to impress me. I don't get a remotely bad vibe from him. At any rate, I'm not going. But I wonder how many other women would have gone and thrown caution to the wind. Edited January 4, 2011 by daphne
jenifer1972 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 " no , umm sometimes...?". He's a player. How many women would go with a guy to Paris and then not sleep with him after a romantic walk in the city of love?? This is his " modus operandi"
musemaj11 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 (edited) The vagina is indeed a very powerful thing. So lucky to be a woman. All it takes is giving up a few minutes of sex (which is a mutual enjoyment anyway), and you can earn yourself a ticket to Paris. So jealous ,,, Edited January 4, 2011 by musemaj11
carhill Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 If the flight was sufficiently short not to fatigue you nor interfere with work *and* you had a separate room available, I think it's a reasonable invitation if the man is used to traveling. For myself, it's about a 10 hour flight from SFO to CDG. A nice sleep and welcome to France. A wonderful Saturday day and night and then back to SFO Sunday afternoon, arriving late evening. BTDT many times, though not to Paris. Does this guy appear more like a playboy or an IT guy who lives on airplanes? I know plenty of the latter. Pretty sincere; mostly married. Sometimes you just have to embrace the possibilities.
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 I might be inclined to agree with you. However, he's not rich. And he's a good looking guy. He wouldn't need to throw that kind of money around to get laid. Granted, my ex, who turned out to be a player did do something similar. It just doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me. If I were a player, I wouldn't necessarily throw away a ton of money when I don't know if I'm getting anything back. There's that, and the fact that I already told him that nothing sexual was happening any time soon. And definitely not in Paris after knowing him so short of a period of time. Time will tell, I guess. We'll see if he rolls out after date 3 like our mutual friend. LOL
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 The vagina is indeed a very powerful thing. So lucky to be a woman. All it takes is giving up a few minutes of sex (which is a mutual enjoyment anyway), and you can earn yourself a ticket to Paris. So jealous ,,, LOL. I'm not that cheap. My gf, on the other hand, would have done anything he wanted for such a trip. She thinks I'm too proud.
Woggle Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Why would any man with a live brain cell do something like this?
carhill Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 The 'ticket' easily (and likely) could have been an award ticket, especially this close-in. All it costs is some miles plus the taxes and YQ and, for many elites, can be refunded in full with no penalty. I do this for friends on occasion. Hmm, three class first cabin is available for Saturday. I did check. Live a little
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 If the flight was sufficiently short not to fatigue you nor interfere with work *and* you had a separate room available, I think it's a reasonable invitation if the man is used to traveling. For myself, it's about a 10 hour flight from SFO to CDG. A nice sleep and welcome to France. A wonderful Saturday day and night and then back to SFO Sunday afternoon, arriving late evening. BTDT many times, though not to Paris. Does this guy appear more like a playboy or an IT guy who lives on airplanes? I know plenty of the latter. Pretty sincere; mostly married. Sometimes you just have to embrace the possibilities. The return flight was pretty long at about 17 hours. It would have interfered with my job, even if they had let me go. He was looking to find another flight (not worth the expense in my book cos it went up50%) to make it work. This guy wears sweater vests. He's adorable, but in a kind of pretty eyes, cute smile, dorky way. I think that's what I like about him. He's not as charming or too good looking like most of the guys I've dated recently. He's a regular guy. He runs to open doors and holds my chair for me. But the guilt by association thing is probably in teh back of my mind. I do not trust easily, however. I have learned that a man will do and say just about anything when he wants something. If it's meant to be, we'll go some time down the road when I get to see if he's real or just an ass.
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 Why would any man with a live brain cell do something like this? Honestly, it was probably the shoes and the short skirt. It has a certain effect on men ya know.
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 The 'ticket' easily (and likely) could have been an award ticket, especially this close-in. All it costs is some miles plus the taxes and YQ and, for many elites, can be refunded in full with no penalty. I do this for friends on occasion. Hmm, three class first cabin is available for Saturday. I did check. Live a little I'd love to, but it's too soon and they told me no at work anyway.
deebeechrisyo Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Why would any man with a live brain cell do something like this? LOL! If this guy is a player, he's doing it wrong. I think he is actually looking for a long term relationship, and maybe he uses this trip as a way to romance his possible partner.
musemaj11 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 LOL. I'm not that cheap. My gf, on the other hand, would have done anything he wanted for such a trip. She thinks I'm too proud. You are indeed being too proud. If I were you, I would say yes without thinking twice. Not only you will get to go to Paris for free, the 'worst' that could happen to you is that you have to have sex with a good looking guy. I mean come on. Its a no-brainer. Its a win-win situation for you. As for the guy however, what a sad doormat.
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 You are indeed being too proud. If I were you, I would say yes without thinking twice. Not only you will get to go to Paris for free, the 'worst' that could happen to you is that you have to have sex with a good looking guy. I mean come on. Its a no-brainer. Its a win-win situation for you. As for the guy however, what a sad doormat. He's not a doormat. He's just a sweet guy (I think..) Honestly, that kind of guy (provided he has a backbone) is the kind of guy that turns me on. I'm not too proud. I'm just right, thank you very little.
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 LOL! If this guy is a player, he's doing it wrong. I think he is actually looking for a long term relationship, and maybe he uses this trip as a way to romance his possible partner. LOL. Yeah, it doesn't make sense for a player to go this route. But some will, if they love a challenge.
Woggle Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Honestly, it was probably the shoes and the short skirt. It has a certain effect on men ya know. I am sure you are probably very attractive but I am not spending that kind of money on a woman I barely know. Who the hell has the resource these days to do that. I love how this is brought up so nonchalantly.
U1987 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 He's a player. Ummm, no he's not. A player would NOT have to resort to anything so drastic or extreme as taking a girl he just met to Paris (which is really cliche and cheesy as well) In fact a player would NOT have to do anything for a girl; he's just find a way to sleep with her with as little effort as possible. The fact that he's willing to take her all the way to another country screams desperation, and players are NOT desperate. If anything, this guy is the anti-player.
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 I am sure you are probably very attractive but I am not spending that kind of money on a woman I barely know. Who the hell has the resource these days to do that. I love how this is brought up so nonchalantly. I'm not sure which part is nonchalant. If it's the money issue, I don't know what to say. I don't see it as that big of a deal. But the thought is.
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 Ummm, no he's not. A player would NOT have to resort to anything so drastic or extreme as taking a girl he just met to Paris (which is really cliche and cheesy as well) If anything, this guy is the anti-player. Hey! You guys are a little brutal with him don't you think? He doesn't come across as cheesy or desperate. He already had the trip planned ahead of time and asked me last minute cos we just started dating, we both used to live there and he knew we'd have a lot of fun. How is this cheesy? How about he's a guy that knows what kind of bait to use?
Woggle Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 I'm not sure which part is nonchalant. If it's the money issue, I don't know what to say. I don't see it as that big of a deal. But the thought is. It's the way he wants to fly all the way to another country with a woman he barely knows like it is no big deal. It is also the money issues. Who besides the very rich can afford to blow that kind of money on an internet date?
Star Gazer Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 For myself, it's about a 10 hour flight from SFO to CDG. I've made that flight a few times. Non-stop, it's actually 11 hours there, about 11.5 on the way back. Flights right now are about actually fairly reasonable. Around $700-900 in coach. BUT...that's a hell of a lot to spend just to get a date to a location. And even if it's a reward/points ticket, that's a lot to give up for a date...even if he's an AA Platinum member.
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 It's the way he wants to fly all the way to another country with a woman he barely knows like it is no big deal. It is also the money issues. Who besides the very rich can afford to blow that kind of money on an internet date? I can see your point. However, I think he's doing it because he is familiar with my background and trying to impress me. Although he doesn't have to go that far to do so.
Author daphne Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 And even if it's a reward/points ticket, that's a lot to give up for a date...even if he's an AA Platinum member. You forget. Men will do just about anything if they think it'll get 'em somewhere.
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