Cuchara2 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 My life has taken a turn for the best After having broken up with my first love (2 years together, broken up 4 - 5 months now) I've found this great girl, who I've been dating for 1 month now. I thought I'd never find anyone quite like her, how I'd never be able to live without her and I was partially right. I never will find anyone quite like her, but that isn't a bad thing. I don't want anyone like her, she's nothing like me (well, not really). This new girl is just like me - sometimes it's like I'm speaking to a female version of me. It's great, however we also have our little differences which doesn't make it boring. But here I am, all fixed up and happy, yet I still sometimes think about her, which really pisses me off. I just want to get rid of any emotions I ever had for her COMPLETELY. How do I do this? All that's left is anger and resentment towards her. I haven't talked to her in 3 months, she's not found anyone else (an added bonus as she came running back to me when I found this new girl, which was met with a kind "**** off" from me). Yet every time I think about her or see her on facebook or have some reminder of her, I feel sad and put down and I feel that it isn't fair on my new girlfriend. Is it? I've also been good with my ex. I don't talk to her and I think that she's come to terms with my never wanting to be friends. Ever. I never flaunt off what I have in front of her at school or wherever - but this brings me to another question. I don't want to do things to intentionally hurt her, but then again it's also not fair on my new girl. What do I do??
Fern Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Treat her like a stranger. Politeness is all you owe her. The relationship is over - you no longer need to worry about her feelings. Live your life.
D78 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Cuchara2, You've found a new girl that you enjoy being with. You have to figure out whether you can give her the amount of energy she deserves. It seems like you spend a lot of energy thinking about your ex, and you're right that it's not fair to your new girl. If your ex makes you feel bad when you see her or hear about her, do your best to get her out of your life. De-friend her on FB and don't look at her FB page. I wouldn't worry about flaunting your new relationship at school. Just do what you need to do to make the new girl happy, or let the new girl go until you can stop worrying about your ex. My 2 cents. All much easier said than done. Good luck.
Author Cuchara2 Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 Cuchara2, You've found a new girl that you enjoy being with. You have to figure out whether you can give her the amount of energy she deserves. It seems like you spend a lot of energy thinking about your ex, and you're right that it's not fair to your new girl. If your ex makes you feel bad when you see her or hear about her, do your best to get her out of your life. De-friend her on FB and don't look at her FB page. I wouldn't worry about flaunting your new relationship at school. Just do what you need to do to make the new girl happy, or let the new girl go until you can stop worrying about your ex. My 2 cents. All much easier said than done. Good luck. The energy spent on her in the past month is about 5 minutes of me thinking what to say and post up this thread. The thing is, I don't worry about my ex, she's my ex for a reason, it's just she still annoys me whilst doing absolutely nothing herself. I give my new gf all the energy she deserves and treat her great, it's just this little thing in the corner of my life which is aggravating me.
AC06 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 She was a part of your life for a very long time, those momentary, or sometimes longer than momentary feelings are understandable. As long as you treat the new girl the way she deserves and don't let it affect the way you treat her, you should feel no guilt.
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