Married Couple Sleep in Separate Beds and Rooms.

[finafoil]

My SO and I have slept in separate beds for quite a number of years now. She says it is a cultural thing and her parents did it. However, it is beginning to affect the intimate relations between us as they are now fading as well. Is this a sign that we are drifting apart or is it just as sign of her modesty? We both have strong religious beliefs.

[Duckduckgoose]

If you are in a relationship with them, why sleep in separate rooms and beds? If you are intimate with them, how is sleeping with them going to affect their modesty?(If you've already seen them butt naked seeing them in PJs is nothing haha)

 

It is very comforting to go to bed and wake up with the person you are with. Unless they have some sort of problem of choking/smothering/stabbing you in the middle of the night... then you might want to reconsider not just sleeping with them at all or even being with them.

 

There might be medical reasons too, I guess, like if they need a certain kind of bed maybe?

 

I dunno but this seems odd to me.

[PegNosePete]

I am not aware of any "cultural thing" that involves spouses sleeping apart?

[Feelin Frisky]

I can't help you with culture and religion. Sleeping apart like that is something people do when they have problems "sleeping". Period. Separate beds and separate rooms keep some couples together. They have relations, perhaps try to sleep together but always have the option to go get some Zss undisturbed by the other person. If you insert religion and modesty into this it becomes a whole different story because apparently it is assumed you'll always sleep apart. It would be hard to tell just when and how affection and closeness starts to wane.

[waynebrady]

As I have come to understand it. It is in the female "culture" to want to sleep in separate beds. I have never heard of a situation where the man requested to sleep in separate beds. Anybody who can verify this?