wordd Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 Hi all, To start off, this woman has a child around 3 and which I have never dated a woman with a child till now and became attached. She is a couple years younger than me (she is 23, I am 28) but we have a lot in common and was a good relationship like most for several months. we meet off a internet dating site(pof) and started to spend every day together for a couple months. Then she started wanting her space and we started to see each other every other day. Since around 2 months ago we have been keeping this routine basically down and she has went back on the dating sites. This for the longest time was the only arguement we really had... why does she need to use a site when she has a boyfriend that is good to her and she is happy with? Not only that the nights we are not around she hangs out with guys that are her x's and guys that have had something in the past for her. Well Friday night I went and drank 30 miles away from her on a night we were going to spend apart. She calls me around 230am, when I just make it home after getting dropped off, and begs me to pick her up she is in trouble she says....so I go and pick her up which I was drunk and should of never been driving. I get her back home and hold her hair while she gets sick and her friend calls and ask to have the keys to take the car back home. My girlfriend was drunk but she told me it was ok, so I gave the keys to the friend. Well the friend took the car on a joy ride and ended up hitting a telephone pole and totaling the car. Since then I have been to blame for the accident in her eyes, she says cause she was too intoxicated. I have already had egnough of her nights away from me and the relationship sucking so I tried to break up with her and which she refuses to break up cause she has to have me on "Her Team right now". She wants me to help her get a down payment for a new car and I am not for buying her car when she shouldn't of been as drunk to begin with. What to do?
ivalm Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 If you still want to be with her tell her that she either has to be serious about you (IE not have nights apart drinking, using dating sites, etc) or you're going to bail. If she doesn't agree to all your conditions fully, dump her and have no contact. You should be upfront with how you feel. Not only should you be on her team, but SHE should be on YOUR team. The only thing that makes me sympathetic to her is that she has a kid, which I presume is difficult on her.
JaneDoe35 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Run away as fast as you can. This is not a healthy, respectful relationship. When I hear this sort of thing it makes me so angry. Women like this give the rest of us a bad name. I have a child but would NEVER behave in such a manner.
julianthebest611 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Hi all, To start off, this woman has a child around 3 and which I have never dated a woman with a child till now and became attached. She is a couple years younger than me (she is 23, I am 28) but we have a lot in common and was a good relationship like most for several months. we meet off a internet dating site(pof) and started to spend every day together for a couple months. Then she started wanting her space and we started to see each other every other day. Since around 2 months ago we have been keeping this routine basically down and she has went back on the dating sites. This for the longest time was the only arguement we really had... why does she need to use a site when she has a boyfriend that is good to her and she is happy with? Not only that the nights we are not around she hangs out with guys that are her x's and guys that have had something in the past for her. Well Friday night I went and drank 30 miles away from her on a night we were going to spend apart. She calls me around 230am, when I just make it home after getting dropped off, and begs me to pick her up she is in trouble she says....so I go and pick her up which I was drunk and should of never been driving. I get her back home and hold her hair while she gets sick and her friend calls and ask to have the keys to take the car back home. My girlfriend was drunk but she told me it was ok, so I gave the keys to the friend. Well the friend took the car on a joy ride and ended up hitting a telephone pole and totaling the car. Since then I have been to blame for the accident in her eyes, she says cause she was too intoxicated. I have already had egnough of her nights away from me and the relationship sucking so I tried to break up with her and which she refuses to break up cause she has to have me on "Her Team right now". She wants me to help her get a down payment for a new car and I am not for buying her car when she shouldn't of been as drunk to begin with. What to do? Try to keep away from women that are married and/or have children. Golden rule.
USCGAviator Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Try to keep away from women that are married and/or have children. Golden rule. You bite your tongue Thats like saying single dads like myself are damaged goods. The fact that she has children means nothing, but rather her lack of maturity and piss poor decision making.
Imajerk17 Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Are you ****ing serious?! People like her shouldn't be allowed to reproduce. Think about the values she is passing on to her son! If you stay you are going to be used and dumped. Run for ze hills....
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