GreenEyedLady Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 I am married and some women certainly seem to find me more attractive because of that fact. I never take them up on any offers but a ring certainly does make a man more attractive. Why Woggle, if you are married, why are you even paying attention? A ring DOES NOT make a man more attractive. It is the fact that the man IS NOT WEARING A RING that makes him attractive. Hmm, maybe that's why so many men make excuses about their ring getting caught at work so they can't wear one???!!! GEL
GreenEyedLady Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Both. I told you guys about being in a hotel for a week setting up a big event and a married woman tried to get me in her room which I flat out said no to. During the summer I have drunk girls all the time trying to hit on me and telling me that my wife will never find out. If it's a MW then I can't even relate. I don't get the ones that cheat or want to cheat at all. I just leave. Maybe YOU are giving off the vibe. Something to think about. GEL
NoIDidn't Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Then GEL you obviously haven't heard the biggest joke used by guys about wedding rings being a chick magnet. Its even been called an aphrodisiac. The man's wedding ring, that is. The hottest sex men brag about is the kind they can get with the girl who think she's besting their W. LOL. So, I think its true. In fact, I'll go so far as to say I know its true a lot of times. I've seen it in action. Woggle is reporting his experiences with such women. They aren't figments of the imagination. And it works in the reverse as well. A lot of men think a woman with a ring is lonely and ripe for approaching. They aren't vetting her for marriage so much as a roll in the hay.
NoIDidn't Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Why Woggle, if you are married, why are you even paying attention? A ring DOES NOT make a man more attractive. It is the fact that the man IS NOT WEARING A RING that makes him attractive. Hmm, maybe that's why so many men make excuses about their ring getting caught at work so they can't wear one???!!! GEL Nah, the bold is only what happens when a guy purposefully takes off his ring to trick the new chick into thinking he's single and available, when he's not. "Don't be so naive". If he wants a "good girl", he'll hide the ring. If he'll take the ones that will throw themselves at him, he'll leave it on.
NoIDidn't Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 J, I respect you, very much. Women don't need to pursue MM. MM do the pursuing for the most part. The fallacy that women chase MM is just MM blameshifting so their W's won't leave them. GEL So, the study mentioned in the OP was written by a blameshifting MM? Got it. I can provide the link to the OW Blog if you would like it. Its written by someone who posts on boards just like this one (self-reported on the blog). Just because a behavior is one that you wouldn't do yourself doesn't mean that others don't do it. Thinking otherwise is being what you warned others not to be.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Then GEL you obviously haven't heard the biggest joke used by guys about wedding rings being a chick magnet. Its even been called an aphrodisiac. The man's wedding ring, that is. The hottest sex men brag about is the kind they can get with the girl who think she's besting their W. LOL. So, I think its true. In fact, I'll go so far as to say I know its true a lot of times. I've seen it in action. Woggle is reporting his experiences with such women. They aren't figments of the imagination. And it works in the reverse as well. A lot of men think a woman with a ring is lonely and ripe for approaching. They aren't vetting her for marriage so much as a roll in the hay. NID, when was the last time YOU were single? Yeah, that's what I thought. I was single for a portion of my adult life. And let me tell you, MM want what they want, and they will say and do what they think they need to get it. So if you haven't been single for your late twenties or thirties, what you hear is propaganda. It's to help keep status quo, status quo. I mean who really wants to know that their H pursued a single female? Not really conducive to reconciliation, is it? So much easier to think that the ring is a magnet. It's really the single female that is the magnet. GEL
jwi71 Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 J, I respect you, very much. Women don't need to pursue MM. MM do the pursuing for the most part. The fallacy that women chase MM is just MM blameshifting so their W's won't leave them. GEL Ack. You are right of course and I chose an awful verb there which completely painted what I intended to say. I'll amend: Why do women get involved with MM. Simple, they want to.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 So, the study mentioned in the OP was written by a blameshifting MM? Got it. I can provide the link to the OW Blog if you would like it. Its written by someone who posts on boards just like this one (self-reported on the blog). Just because a behavior is one that you wouldn't do yourself doesn't mean that others don't do it. Thinking otherwise is being what you warned others not to be. I'm not going to argue with you, NID. If it keeps you in your M to believe what ONE person believes or what ONE womanhater believes, then have at it. That doesn't make it true. The majority of women want one man to love them and be with them. The fact that most men after a certain age are taken has more to do with the prevalence of A's than women "mate poaching." But whatever helps you sleep at night, honey. GEL
Woggle Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 Why Woggle, if you are married, why are you even paying attention? A ring DOES NOT make a man more attractive. It is the fact that the man IS NOT WEARING A RING that makes him attractive. Hmm, maybe that's why so many men make excuses about their ring getting caught at work so they can't wear one???!!! GEL It's hard to miss a woman you are doing business with trying to get you into her hotel room. I kept it strictly business with her but she certainly tried. It is also hard to miss drunk women that look like Jersey Shore rejects trying to hit on me when I am hanging out by the beach. I think it is funny actually. I tell my wife and we laugh about it.
NoIDidn't Posted January 8, 2011 Posted January 8, 2011 NID, when was the last time YOU were single? Yeah, that's what I thought. I was single for a portion of my adult life. And let me tell you, MM want what they want, and they will say and do what they think they need to get it. So if you haven't been single for your late twenties or thirties, what you hear is propaganda. It's to help keep status quo, status quo. I mean who really wants to know that their H pursued a single female? Not really conducive to reconciliation, is it? So much easier to think that the ring is a magnet. It's really the single female that is the magnet. GEL What does my not being single have to do with the study of this OP? Nothing. Stay on the topic instead of fighting your strawmen. We were discussing a study and women that are known to do such. You call it propaganda. I call it a discussion point. I'm sorry it offends your sensibilities that there are women that feel that way. Its great that you aren't one of them. But that doesn't change the facts, ma'am. Why don't you go out and actually ask some married men about this? You'll be surprised if you are willing to actually confront your bias and learn something other than what you choose to believe. And, by the way, at no point in any of my posts have I blamed women or given the men an out. But THIS conversation is about single women that GO FOR married men. It happens. Especially in older single women. I'm not going to argue with you, NID. If it keeps you in your M to believe what ONE person believes or what ONE womanhater believes, then have at it. That doesn't make it true. The majority of women want one man to love them and be with them. The fact that most men after a certain age are taken has more to do with the prevalence of A's than women "mate poaching." But whatever helps you sleep at night, honey. GEL Oh yeah, you sure "told" me! Do me a favor and keep my marriage out of this discussion. I didn't bring it up. And you did as usual when you don't agree what is said. Its your "secret weapon". You should stop using it. It weakens your argument and makes you appear childish and petty. If we are going to have civil discussions in this forum, the defensive posturing is going to have to stop. Addressing the one thing in your post that was near the topic, if ONE womanhater states it, it makes it true that there are some out there that do exactly what this study states. Which disproves your "propaganda" argument and insistence that its only some married sleazeball trying to get the heat off himself. And if there is one, there are others. That's the only real point of discussing the article and research findings.
donnamaybe Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 Women don't need to pursue MM. Apparently you missed the very title and nature of this thread.
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