CSU Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 met the most greatest guy on this planet. He's sweet funny and just an all around amazing guy. We had been talking for a week when I had lied to him about something major. What that major thing was I don't feel like saying it. Since then he hasn't been talking to me he told me he doesn't trust me because I lied to him. I don't know why I lied to him because I don't lie. I hurt him so bad and I didn't mean to He's been through so much his ex screwed him over pretty bad he lost his mom and when we started talking he told I was the first person to make in smile in 3 years. Now I hurt him to the point he doesn't want to acknowledge me. I'm dying on the inside I didn't mean to him the way I did. I don't blame him to ignore me. I just him to know how sorry I am and that I wouldn't lie to him anymore. I sent texts, messages on facebook and nothing. Its tearing me up inside because I know I will never find a guy like him. I just want him to know how sorry i am and i want him to forgive me. He doesn't know how bad I feel. I can't sleep because all i think about is him when I close my eyes and heart breaks because I ruined something so special. I just want to jump off of bridge because I can't stand the thought of him talking to another girl. He was everything I wanted and more and he'll never know that. I ruined it and it kills me. I'm so shattered
TaraMaiden Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 First of all, he is not "The greatest guy on the planet" if you told him one lie, and he simply cannot bring himself to even acknowledge you exist now... that's really quite cold, harsh and mean... Of course, without knowing what the 'Big Lie' is, we cannot conclusively give you any really solid advice, because we really don't know whether he actually has a point or not. I suspect it may have something to do with your sexual past. But honestly? I don't know. And until I do.... That's all I can say, really.
Author CSU Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 Can you private message at all? I don't feel like saying it out in the open First of all, he is not "The greatest guy on the planet" if you told him one lie, and he simply cannot bring himself to even acknowledge you exist now... that's really quite cold, harsh and mean... Of course, without knowing what the 'Big Lie' is, we cannot conclusively give you any really solid advice, because we really don't know whether he actually has a point or not. I suspect it may have something to do with your sexual past. But honestly? I don't know. And until I do.... That's all I can say, really.
homebrew Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 We are all friends here... Plus if you share it, someone else might have done the same thing. Maybe there is a solution to what you did to your EX...
Author CSU Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 Basically I lied about who I was because I didn't want him to know about my past and now he won't talk to me. We are all friends here... Plus if you share it, someone else might have done the same thing. Maybe there is a solution to what you did to your EX...
goldenrainbow Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 Don't torture yourself. Give him time. When I met my husband (with whom I stayed together for 17 years), I did something stupid at the beginning, didn't lie but hurt him with a very nasty thing I said and he basically didn't speak to me for 3 days. Sometimes people need time. You may or may have not lost him, but give him time, don't pressure too much, just make him aware that you would like to speak to him to tell him why you lied to him when he feels ready. Then give him space
TaraMaiden Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 So you're saying you adopted a whole different identity, or you just gave him misinformation about you, to hide your past....? Is it to do with the law, or sex? Are you worried you've had too many partners, or have you been in legal trouble? How old are you, if I may ask?
Mrlonelyone Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 OP Are you a transsexual? I'm not saying that to be a joker. The thing is we here are all anonymous so it really does not matter what the secret is. Who will ever know who you are? Heck were're all probably thousands of miles apart. The whole... adopting a new identity thing made me think of that.
Author CSU Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 So you're saying you adopted a whole different identity, or you just gave him misinformation about you, to hide your past....? Is it to do with the law, or sex? Are you worried you've had too many partners, or have you been in legal trouble? How old are you, if I may ask? I'm 21 and what i wanted to hide from him had nothing to deal with sex or the law. I just dabbled in things that weren't good for me and when he kept on asking me I just said no so I guess you could say I wanted to adopt a whole different identity.
Author CSU Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 OP Are you a transsexual? I'm not saying that to be a joker. The thing is we here are all anonymous so it really does not matter what the secret is. Who will ever know who you are? Heck were're all probably thousands of miles apart. The whole... adopting a new identity thing made me think of that. I'm not a transexual 100% female but I just lied about my past because I didn't want him to know about my past and over that last few days I'm not afraid to admit but I am dabbling in the things I know I shouldn't be doing but it takes me away from the pain and I don't think about it.
JaneDoe35 Posted January 6, 2011 Posted January 6, 2011 Do you think he is only angry about the lie? Or is his real concern about what you 'dabbled in'?
Author CSU Posted January 6, 2011 Author Posted January 6, 2011 Do you think he is only angry about the lie? Or is his real concern about what you 'dabbled in'? He told me he was a little mad a few days ago and he ignored me because of but today he texted me a 2:30 in the morning saying he missed talking to me I responsed around 11am and then he texted me around 12:45 in the afternnoon and then it just kinda stopped around 1 so I told him text me when he feels like it again.
stopthemadness Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 He told me he was a little mad a few days ago and he ignored me because of but today he texted me a 2:30 in the morning saying he missed talking to me I responsed around 11am and then he texted me around 12:45 in the afternnoon and then it just kinda stopped around 1 so I told him text me when he feels like it again. My guess is you did some HARD drugs..That was then and this is now. If he cant move past it, forget him. You cant be in a relationship with someone who thinks their better then you. Bet you he starts the lets just be friends crap. If you had it to do over, would you have brought it up? I think NOT. I sure wouldnt........Good luck
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