if you love someone how is it so easy to just let go of this person???

[Miss Savanna]

Everyone says things that they don't mean, Everyone makes mistakes right? why because we are human and...most of us learn from our mistakes..

 

My Ex boyfriend and I have known each other for 4 1/2 years now...I know pretty young.. we dated the first 1 1/2..Things were really good for the first year. We made each other really happy......even though from his past relationships and just the way he was I knew that he had his heart on his sleeve and a lot of trust issues from the past..so did I but we tried to get passed that..We had our ups and downs like a roller coaster..After a year he was deployed to Iraq..We knew that it was coming..I decided that while he was overseas I wanted to go back to school...so I choose nursing..With him being away and me going to school it became really difficult for us to have contact with each other..every once in awhile when he got the chance to call he would but the time difference was hard..i was either sleeping or in school when he would try to call...he started getting angry and thinking something was going on...this caused A LOT of heartache and fighting in our relationship

 

After awhile I decided that maybe it was best to let go of the relationship..i couldn't handle the fighting all the time and the hurt...even though I still loved him..this is what I thought should be done.. we had said our good byes before and had always gotten back together but this time it was different

 

I wanted to still be friends with him...I couldn't cope with the thought of just not having him in my life after everything that we had been through together.

However he didn't want to be friends...he said that HE THOUGHT IT WOULD BE BEST IF WE JUST STOPPED TALKING BECAUSE HE COULDN'T JUST BE FRIENDS....HE SAID THE THOUGHT OF ME BEING WITH SOMEONE ELSE IN THE FUTURE KILLS HIM AND BREAKS HIS HEART..

 

we didn't talk for months then when he came back he started txting and calling he said that he still missed me and still loved me

 

we didn't talk very often but just recently he called me...we had a nice conversation.. he was upset after one night i switched over because i had another call... when i switched back over my ex said that he didn't think we should talk at all and that he knew there was another guy now..and it broke his heart to know that

 

the last things he said was i love you i always have and i always will..

 

I try txting and calling but he 98% of the time ignores me...if he does answer he keeps things really really short with me or is kinda rude...that was never like him to be like this.

I asked what i did to make him hate me and he said that he didn't hate me..

 

 

 

I don't understand.......if you love someone how is it so easy just to let go...let that person out of your life??????????

it hurts...i want him to be happy but it feels so wrong not having him in my life

[TheGrimSweeper]

 

I don't understand.......if you love someone how is it so easy just to let go...let that person out of your life??????????

it hurts...i want him to be happy but it feels so wrong not having him in my life

 

Its a lot harder trying to be friends with someone while your in love with him, as you will always have the feeling of wanting more with that person.

[Owz600]

I personally think he hasn't 'Let go' thats the problem. It looks like you have but you would still like to be friends which to him is heart braking as he still has hope that things may become more than just friends. I think it's only possible to stay friends if both partners 'let go' in till then there will always be heart brakes.