irc333 Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I saw this profile of a woman on POF where it says, "FIrst Date" she goes, "Please be the same person you are in your photos, if i see muscles, I better not see fat/flab in person, if you have hair in your pic, you better not be bald in person! Otherwise Ill just call you liar!" Anyhow, this got me thinking, I wonder if some people had put up photos, and they were representative photos, but for some reason, after the person saw you face to face, you didn't really seem to be the same person in the photo...but you KNOW you had CURRENT photos, so what's the deal? Or perhaps you did look like your photos, but "not quite", perhaps there were 3-dimensional aspects that he/she saw in person that were more appealing in 2-D? lol I was wondering that with my recent meetup with the Latina woman....she seemed to be kind of in a hurry to leave as SOON as I paid my check (not hang around and chit-chat) And I often wonder, still, if she wasn't physically attracted....because she was pretty friggin' hot herself, but for some reason she was attracted to my photos, but when she saw me face-to-face, she saw some aspect of my physical features (up-close), that turned her off ...but I'm not sure So, I dunno, I know I put up recent photos, but I often wonder if some people see the photos, and they STILL think I might've mis represent myself...which I know I do not.
Art_Critic Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 When I would put up photos (when I was single of course) I always put the date the photo was taken on the photo and also never had any photo older than 30 days on my profile.. To me recent photo means recent photo.. not last years office Christmas party photo. During the time I was doing online dating finding women who had recent photos on their profiles was sometimes a challenge. I think many people when they find a picture they love of themselves just keep it forever thinking they really look like that today. I had gone out with a couple of women that had 10 year old photos online.. hahahaha
Author irc333 Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 Within 30 days? You have OCD? LOL My rule of thumb is, if I don't think I haven't changed (ie - put on weight, I weigh myself daily) I put up an updated photo here and there though. Most of my photo are like within the past year to 6 months I honestly think I haven't changed in that time period. 30 days it a bit too often....now if you think you put on 50 lbs in the past 30 days, then make sure you update. lol Funny, I consider with a year "recent". But it depends on how much you've changed in a year, but if you're prone to rapid weight gain, but otherwise I don't see why one would have to keep updating their photos monthly When I would put up photos (when I was single of course) I always put the date the photo was taken on the photo and also never had any photo older than 30 days on my profile.. To me recent photo means recent photo.. not last years office Christmas party photo. During the time I was doing online dating finding women who had recent photos on their profiles was sometimes a challenge. I think many people when they find a picture they love of themselves just keep it forever thinking they really look like that today. I had gone out with a couple of women that had 10 year old photos online.. hahahaha
Art_Critic Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 To me 30 days gave an accurate representation of who I was.. If you meet someone in a bar you are getting their picture accurate in real time and that is to me as close as I was trying to depict. Weight isn't the only thing that can change though.. hairstyles even the way you dress can change or the way people age can change in 6 months... Not saying 6 months isn't okay but to me recent means recent.. I did one time have a picture up that was about 4 months old but I also noted it that is wasn't recent and was 4 months old in my profile. I look just like my high school yearbook photo taken 30 years ago.. but in reality I'm different...
youngskywalker Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I went out with a girl not long ago who said in her profile that her body was "athletic and toned" In her photos I thought hmmmm I'm not sure about all that! Went out with her anyway and as it turns out she was chubby... downright over weight TBH. O.K. she was fat but I don't like using that word. I'm all for a woman seeing themselves as beautiful but "athletic" doesn't mean having a pot-belly. Anyway, I thought her pictures were old because of how she described herself but they weren't.
paleblue Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I remember going on a number of dates and her picture wasn’t an accurate representation of herself! It made me mad. I kept think why lie with your pictures??? You can’t hide the truth when you meet! Even if it’s a recent picture, I think sometimes you look different in person. It could be the angle, or light, or the camera itself.
Author irc333 Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 That might happen in my case, because I have some recent photos up....so it might be the angle or something...shape of my head maybe? LOL Even if it’s a recent picture, I think sometimes you look different in person. It could be the angle, or light, or the camera itself.
paleblue Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 Not sure, lol, but I know professional pictures always look better than amatuer photos. Presentation is everything
carhill Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 "FIrst Date" she goes, "Please be the same person you are in your photos, if i see muscles, I better not see fat/flab in person, if you have hair in your pic, you better not be bald in person! Otherwise Ill just call you liar!" Red flag. Next. One, superficial. Two, projecting. Three Bye bye.
Author irc333 Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 Red flag. Next. One, superficial. Two, projecting. Three Bye bye. She's superficial and has a cocky attitude in her profile...why? Becuase she had several pictures up...one is a mirror photo of her in a bikini...somein her Ritzy Nightclub attire along with her hot friends. She has a petite little hardbody...so she can get away with this in her profile actually.
carhill Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 Four - attention whore. Someone with that appearance and demeanor has a long line of suitors in real life. An online profile is superfluous and merely an ego feed. Avoid.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I did a drastic hair color change about two weeks before I tried online dating so I had to scramble for pictures with the new hair color. Fortunately I had plenty. Unfortunately all of them were nights out on the town after several drinks. I'm like Art Critic in that I would rather see photos taken within the last 30 days. People change a LOT in one year. I was amused by the guys I met who clearly posted pics from several years ago that were much more attractive than what they currently were. Some people will painstaking select pictures that make them look significantly better than anything they can ever look like I real life, especially if they have only posted 1 or 2 photos. I think I put up about 10 so people would get an accurate representation of what I really looked like.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 Four - attention whore. Someone with that appearance and demeanor has a long line of suitors in real life. An online profile is superfluous and merely an ego feed. Avoid. Not necessarily. She might be a nurse or teacher and simply never run into guys. The bikini mirror shot might be a bit much though! lol
youngskywalker Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 Four - attention whore. Someone with that appearance and demeanor has a long line of suitors in real life. An online profile is superfluous and merely an ego feed. Avoid. Absolutely! It's nothing more than another myspace or facebook page.
carhill Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 "FIrst Date" she goes, "Please be the same person you are in your photos, if i see muscles, I better not see fat/flab in person, if you have hair in your pic, you better not be bald in person! Otherwise Ill just call you liar!" This is a person who has experienced a lot of 'first dates' and has an obvious perspective on them and the men she's been with on them. She's not a shy recluse. Not by a long shot. Stick the bikini shot in there and challenge the man to not be a 'liar'. Great stuff. Avoid.
Author irc333 Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 Not necessarily. She might be a nurse or teacher and simply never run into guys. The bikini mirror shot might be a bit much though! lol Or maybe she had a tripod set up in the living room. You guys use tripods (timer camera) or use your own hand to take your own photo? lol
Crazy Magnet Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I use the self timer b/c the self made mirror shots are always horrible when I try it. I gave up years ago. I always miss half my face or its blurry. Or you can see my dirty towels in the background. Oddly enough my main online dating profile pic was a mirror self portrait, but I did it with my Nikon (I was hoping to communicate my photography interest) and it came out awesome once I cropped out the dirty towels!! I took about 30 though before I got one that was usable. Who has time to take 30 pics of themselves over and over?
Author irc333 Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 Sometimes those "Bust" up profiles where the pic is taken from the shoulders up....you don't see a person's mid section...sure they might have a thin face, but what about the rest of them? lol
Crazy Magnet Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I always included several full body shots. I'm 105 soaking wet, and that's obvious even in a head shot, but still. I wouldn't go for guys who didn't show a full body shot. There's no telling what lurks beneath the camera! :eek:
carhill Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 You guys use tripods (timer camera) or use your own hand to take your own photo? Myself, since I have the equipment, I use it, with a mix of candids from friends. Friends don't usually take 'portrait' shots so that's when the equipment comes in handy. Back when I was online dating, the photos were generally less than a month old and updated periodically, as was the text in the profile. As life goes on, images and experiences and perspectives change.
paddington bear Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I try to avoid photos where I look really good in...because I'm well aware that that was a particular angle...really want to avoid the look of disappointment in my date's face when we meet. Would prefer if he was pleasantly surprised, rather than disappointed.
Mad Max Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I try to avoid photos where I look really good in...because I'm well aware that that was a particular angle...really want to avoid the look of disappointment in my date's face when we meet. Would prefer if he was pleasantly surprised, rather than disappointed. No one that looks really good in one angle is only average looking in reality. Angles can slightly boost one's looks, but if you look really good in one photo, you're still going to be good looking in person.
Author irc333 Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 One thing I noticed about overweight women, they have an abundance of "over the head" shots....pictures taken from a bird's eye view from above This one woman had 5 pictures all of the same shot...lol I guess they appear thinner from that angle? lol
tigressA Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I have a mix of head shots and full-body pictures. I arranged them in chronological order, most recent first--December of 2010 to November 2008. There's a variety of angles/facial expressions. I also try to showcase the various textures in which I wear my hair--completely natural tight curls, loose curls/waves, and straight. I show what I look like with no makeup, and with makeup. I've never had anyone say that I look any different in person from my pictures. The most recent date I went on I noticed that he's so much cuter in person than in his pictures...they weren't very flattering. So I was pleasantly surprised.
Author irc333 Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 (edited) I have a mix of head shots and full-body pictures. I arranged them in chronological order, most recent first--December of 2010 to November 2008. There's a variety of angles/facial expressions. I also try to showcase the various textures in which I wear my hair--completely natural tight curls, loose curls/waves, and straight. I show what I look like with no makeup, and with makeup. I've never had anyone say that I look any different in person from my pictures. The most recent date I went on I noticed that he's so much cuter in person than in his pictures...they weren't very flattering. So I was pleasantly surprised. I got one for ya....this was back in the FREE Yahoo personal days...this one blonde woman had only ONE grainy photos...seh was on her knees, with shades on, and she had what looked like dirty blonde hair, was wearing a sweater(long sleeves, baggy) So coudln't see a figure, but she looked thin Saw herin person...my jaw about dropped, shemust've had double D's (she had a snug blouse on at the time lol), was a tall amazon platinum blonde hair, gorgeous blue eyes...she had a Swedish background.....I was indeed suprised LOL Edited January 3, 2011 by irc333
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