pookster72 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 my boyfriend and i also have a seven year age gap but i was already out of college when i first met him. 18 just seems so young to be dating someone who's 7 years older. i would have never given the time of day to a man that old when i was 18, and would have considered him a "creep".
ivyterre83 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 My ex who is 25 just got into a relationship with an 18 year old. Is it just me or is that kinda creepy/ indicative of issues?? to each its own "age is nothing but a number"
FryFish Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 If he is looking for "some fun", that borders on predatory behavior imo. He is having fun with a legal girl... You just hate the guy because he is your ex. Would I personally "date" and 18 year old girl? No, but I would **** her for sure.
TheBigQuestion Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 That's the point I am trying to make... If he is looking for a long-term relationship, I'm disturbed that a 25 yr old man could think an 18 year old goth girl is his best match. If he is looking for "some fun", that borders on predatory behavior imo. I understand that she's "legal" (just barely) but there's something icky about having a girlfriend who's just moved into the dorms when you're 25. Well, it clearly offends your personal tastes, but there's really nothing objectively wrong with this scenario. I agree that it's kind of hard to imagine what people in those two age groups have in common. I'm 23 and I find most girls that age to be annoying and immature, and thus not really worth the effort of a serious, committed relationship. Then again, I don't see why him wanting to have "some fun" with her is predatory. She is old enough to know what she enjoys, whether it be emotional or sexual, and as long as he isn't popping roofies in her drinks, she is more than able to make these types of decisions. Being 18 does not in and of itself make someone vulnerable to manipulation or abuse. I knew plenty of girls in that age range who were manipulative and borderline psychotic to a point where a 25 year old guy would be a fantastic victim for them. Also, who the hell cares what she dresses like? You keep bringing that up as if that has anything to do with this relationship. Additionally, it seems like pretty much every girl I knew in college got involved with a guy who was 5+ years older than her at least once, if not on a regular basis. I'm actually surprised at how "icky" some of the women on this board find this, especially considering just how widespread this behavior is.
northern_sky Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 personally I think it's creepy, since there is such a difference in life experience between a 25-year-old and an 18-year-old. I always lose respect for guys who do this, and assume he is immature, not looking for a serious relationship or trying to relive his youth.
TheBigQuestion Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 personally I think it's creepy, since there is such a difference in life experience between a 25-year-old and an 18-year-old. I always lose respect for guys who do this, and assume he is immature, not looking for a serious relationship or trying to relive his youth. Is this based on any type of evidence, whether anecdotal or empirical, or is it just a knee-jerk reaction? I only ask because I feel like if the genders are reversed, no one would consider it creepy. Case in point, a few months ago I met a very attractive redhead (my ultimate weakness) at a party. It turns out she's 31. I'm 23. Certain factors stopped anything from happening (another girl was basically dry-humping me the whole night), but if she had been interested in a fling of some sort, I don't think I would have turned it down just because of age. Similarly, if I was 18 and she was 26, I still would not have felt any different. The whole thing just feels a tad sexist.
loverofloveandstuff Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Is this based on any type of evidence, whether anecdotal or empirical, or is it just a knee-jerk reaction? I only ask because I feel like if the genders are reversed, no one would consider it creepy. Case in point, a few months ago I met a very attractive redhead (my ultimate weakness) at a party. It turns out she's 31. I'm 23. Certain factors stopped anything from happening (another girl was basically dry-humping me the whole night), but if she had been interested in a fling of some sort, I don't think I would have turned it down just because of age. Similarly, if I was 18 and she was 26, I still would not have felt any different. The whole thing just feels a tad sexist. actually I think it's the total opposite. There is more of a stigma towards women who date men years younger than guys who date girls years younger.
BentSpine Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 I have nothing against the age difference. As they are both of legal age it's their decision.
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