eerie_reverie Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 My ex who is 25 just got into a relationship with an 18 year old. Is it just me or is that kinda creepy/ indicative of issues?? Link to post Share on other sites
JaneDoe35 Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Personally I don't think that is too great an age difference......I did think that my 35 year old husband hooking up with a 22 year old was too great an age difference though - but of course I would think that! Link to post Share on other sites
loverofloveandstuff Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 My ex who is 25 just got into a relationship with an 18 year old. Is it just me or is that kinda creepy/ indicative of issues?? I don't think it's creepy at all. I'm 18, most of the guys I have dated have been 25+ Link to post Share on other sites
Yer_Blues Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 I'm 19 and would feel strange with a 25yo, but I think it's more common for women to date older guys than the other way around. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 It indicates some power issues but it is legal and he is your ex and can date anybody he wants of legal age. Let him be. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 My ex who is 25 just got into a relationship with an 18 year old. Is it just me or is that kinda creepy/ indicative of issues?? In the early to mid 1990's, a survey was given to men of all ages asking the 'ideal age' of a woman for him to date. The average/median answer was "half his own age plus 7 years". With that in mind, (and especially because she's an adult at 18), this 25yo, IF it is a guy, landed very near to 'average' for men. Now of course that survey was given sans other details. I mean, if the hot woman at the bar making sexual overtures at you is 2 years older than you are, you may well give serious thought to her. But when asked to drum up an age randomly, men went for "half his own age plus 7 years". Link to post Share on other sites
sigurpol Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 To each his/her own. If it's healthy and there is a solid foundation, good for them. But personally, I wince at relationships like that. I feel each partner is in two completely different worlds. Maybe it's just me though? A strong majority of my friends (we're all around 24-27) always seem involved with girls who are 18 or barely 18. Meh. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 No "issues" at all. A 25 year old who wouldn't dig a girl of 18 would worry me. It's all above board and not out of the ordinary. Link to post Share on other sites
loverofloveandstuff Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 No "issues" at all. A 25 year old who wouldn't dig a girl of 18 would worry me. It's all above board and not out of the ordinary. I agree. It's not out of the ordinary at all, I think it's funny that you've never seen couples of that age gap? Lots of my girlfriends who are around the same age as me are going out with guys older than 25. Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 I think you want people to tell you it's creepy because you're annoyed that your ex has a new (young) girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
loverofloveandstuff Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 I think you want people to tell you it's creepy because you're annoyed that your ex has a new (young) girlfriend. Yep, I think so too. Link to post Share on other sites
Woman In Blue Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 But when asked to drum up an age randomly, men went for "half his own age plus 7 years". ROFL! I'd love to see some old, overweight, bald 55 year old man get himself a hot 34 year old woman. The only way THAT'S going to happen is if he's got money or she's got daddy issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Author eerie_reverie Posted January 4, 2011 Author Share Posted January 4, 2011 (edited) It's not the age gap but the fact that she graduated high school less than a year ago. I don't know anyone else in my peer group with someone that young. Maybe it would be different if he was still a student, but like me he is in the working world now and I can't imaging having much in common in terms of priorities or life goals with someone who hasn't even started college yet. The girl looks like she is an angsty 16, dyed red hair, heavy black makeup, the works. I am not bitter but she looks so out of place in my world that I am scratching my head, wondering where he's been the last 7 years that he is dating someone the same age I was when we met. Can we all at least agree that he's immature?? Edited January 4, 2011 by eerie_reverie Link to post Share on other sites
Author eerie_reverie Posted January 4, 2011 Author Share Posted January 4, 2011 I agree. It's not out of the ordinary at all, I think it's funny that you've never seen couples of that age gap? Lots of my girlfriends who are around the same age as me are going out with guys older than 25. I would consider anyone my age or older dating someone under 20 a loser until otherwise proved. Granted, there are exceptions, but a well-adjusted 25 year old looking to make a long-term commitment does not dip in the pool of the college freshmen. I thought it was creepy when *I* was 18 and I think it's creepy now. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 Maybe he just wants to have some fun with her and she can dress any way she wants. I know people who wear business suits every day that I would never want to be involved with. Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 Certainly not seeing how this makes him immature. Some people change-up their dating style once in awhile. That's probably what he's doing here. Who knows. Link to post Share on other sites
make me believe Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 Well, I'm with the OP. I don't see what a well-adjusted 25 year old could realistically have in common with someone who just graduated high school. When I was 18 I always found it creepy when older (22+) guys hit on me. Most of my girlfriends did, too. I get that a lot of young girls are flattered when an older guy shows interest in them, but to me it just seems like he can't get anyone his own age. With MOST guys who are into younger girls, it seems like it's an ego trip or some sort of power play. Link to post Share on other sites
Distant78 Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 Well, I'm with the OP. I don't see what a well-adjusted 25 year old could realistically have in common with someone who just graduated high school. When I was 18 I always found it creepy when older (22+) guys hit on me. Most of my girlfriends did, too. I get that a lot of young girls are flattered when an older guy shows interest in them, but to me it just seems like he can't get anyone his own age. With MOST guys who are into younger girls, it seems like it's an ego trip or some sort of power play. Agreed 100%. Most teens are immature and are just barely scratching the surface of adulthood and don't know what they want to do regarding their future. But hey it's that guy's life. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 It's not the age gap but the fact that she graduated high school less than a year ago. That's what would bother me about it. 29 and 35, no problem. But 19 and 25? Gross factor, to me. Not from her perspective, but his. Link to post Share on other sites
TaurusTerp Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 I would consider anyone my age or older dating someone under 20 a loser until otherwise proved. Granted, there are exceptions, but a well-adjusted 25 year old looking to make a long-term commitment does not dip in the pool of the college freshmen. I thought it was creepy when *I* was 18 and I think it's creepy now. And what makes you think he's trying to do that? Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 I agree. It's not out of the ordinary at all, I think it's funny that you've never seen couples of that age gap? Lots of my girlfriends who are around the same age as me are going out with guys older than 25. Sure. And it's silly to just base this on age when both are so young but legal. It always maters who they are as individuals. Some girls are very grown up and some guys are behind in that regard. It's impossible to say from here if it's wrong. But both are legal and there is not enough age difference to say this guy is robbing the cradle. Well, maybe he's at the limit but not over it. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 If I was 25 I would never get involved with a 18 year old. There would most likely be maturity issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Author eerie_reverie Posted January 4, 2011 Author Share Posted January 4, 2011 And what makes you think he's trying to do that? That's the point I am trying to make... If he is looking for a long-term relationship, I'm disturbed that a 25 yr old man could think an 18 year old goth girl is his best match. If he is looking for "some fun", that borders on predatory behavior imo. I understand that she's "legal" (just barely) but there's something icky about having a girlfriend who's just moved into the dorms when you're 25. Link to post Share on other sites
JadenMia Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 I really dont think there is any issues here? Its not that much of an age gap.. Okay, if she was under 18 yeah, it wouldnt be good.. But shes legal, if they have something going thats good, and they chose to date.. Then why is he sick? And what makes him immature about seeing a girl a little younger than he is. I dont think in any way, people who are even in different stages in life (unless the two stages clash that is..) that it is wrong to date. Its about 2 people being together.. Enjoying each other. It seems you are jealous and bitter about this.. Its completely normal what your feeling, I feel the same way about my ex.. If i hear about him with some other girl i always feel bitter about it and its really not nice but i guess just a part of life? Just work to try and focus on your own life and and your own happiness.. Forget about what hes doing.. He's an ex for a reason!! Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 ROFL! I'd love to see some old, overweight, bald 55 year old man get himself a hot 34 year old woman. The only way THAT'S going to happen is if he's got money or she's got daddy issues. LOL - what does that have to do with anything I said? This was a survey about AGE... and when made to cite one number, individually, with nothing else known (hot, money, daddy issues, etc.)... the survey made for an easy way to average all respondents with a single answer. Link to post Share on other sites
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