ladyangel Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 Aside from two obvious things -- infidelity and abuse -- what do you consider to be relationship killers? I would love to hear about your personal experiences, but of course anyone is welcome to respond.
moimeme Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 Lack of respect. Which can encompass an awful lot, including lack of communication and lack of trust.
dyermaker Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 Originally posted by moimeme Lack of respect. Which can encompass an awful lot, including lack of communication and lack of trust. Which, when transitive, occurs when one disrespects another, or mutual disrespecting ensues.
moimeme Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 :lmao: :lmao: Wretch! God, I love this place! LOL
Author ladyangel Posted March 18, 2004 Author Posted March 18, 2004 Originally posted by dyermaker Lack of communication. Lack of trust. Can you give examples? For clarity. I don't do well with generalizations. In my first marriage a big one for me was jealousy on the part of my husband. I think perhaps it tied into his lack of trust and/or self esteem issues. It also resulted in somewhat of a control issue. It's interesting how sometimes when you start to break them down they tie into one another.
dyermaker Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 With communication, which I find most important, it IS a generalization. You have a problem with the relationship. Do you: A) Keep it up inside you, you'll have plenty of time to passively agressively exact revenge B) Post about it on LS, tell your friends, etc., C) Eat chocolate D) Communicate with your partner about it E) C and D The answer, in an animated relationship, should be E. Erm, sorry, D.
hurtingandconfused Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 Boredom, Confusion, which lead to lack of communication
Tony T Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 Sports Television Sports on television Guns Knives Poison Special Victims Unit
UCFKevin Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 Saying something you think is funny when the other person doesn't. Talking about lack of sex when her mother asks how our sex lives are. Getting too comfortable in the motions, not doing anything other than what you normally do. Not talking through things.
brashgal Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 They say that issues regarding money (how to manage it, etc) is at the root of many divorces.
moimeme Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 No, no, no - the saying is 'the love of money is the root of all evil'
dyermaker Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 Ever notice how people who say that money is evil.... ...have it?
Fedup&givingup Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 I'm going to go with a lack of respect. I think that sums it up in a nutshell. It DOES lead to a lot of other problems.
moimeme Posted March 18, 2004 Posted March 18, 2004 Ever notice how people who say that money is evil.... ...have it? No. People with money are the ones who say that money doesn't solve problems. I guess they figure that worrying whether one will retain one's home doesn't count as a 'problem'. However, their relationships still suffer, it seems, so I suppose money won't solve those problems.
Author ladyangel Posted March 18, 2004 Author Posted March 18, 2004 Originally posted by dyermaker Ever notice how people who say that money is evil.... ...have it? No. Those who don't have it say it's evil because they're jealous that they don't have it. It's easier to think it's evil. (Jealousy rears its ugly head again?)
greyskies Posted March 19, 2004 Posted March 19, 2004 TRUST TRUST TRUUST TRUST WITHOUT TRUST YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS FU*CKED
Author ladyangel Posted March 19, 2004 Author Posted March 19, 2004 Originally posted by greyskies TRUST TRUST TRUUST TRUST WITHOUT TRUST YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS FU*CKED I agree. When my ex was jealous for no reason I felt he didn't trust me, which pretty much ruined things. There are so many forms of trust. Once again, so many important factors are intertwined -- trust, respect, honesty, jealousy.
Dug Posted March 19, 2004 Posted March 19, 2004 If you respect your partner, then everything else can be included in that category too. Even verbally being comapred to old favorite"one night stands" wouldn't happen. Yeah....that tainted my relationship.
tattoomytoe Posted March 19, 2004 Posted March 19, 2004 my bf has money issues....he keeps track of every single cent.....which i do not, so we balance there. i think morals, like what you think is right and wrong. if it clashes with their thoughts of right and wrong then that is no bueno. and then compromise goes a long ways, or the inabiltity to compromise is a killer
faux Posted March 20, 2004 Posted March 20, 2004 Chocolate. I cannot say money, as without money there is no happiness. Definitely chocolate though. Lack of trust and honesty was brought up before, but these pale in comparison to chocolate.
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