commadore Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 so me and this girl have been fooling around for the past 5 days, i like her, she has only slept with one guy her ex. anyways so for those 5 days in a row we would hangout and ususally lay in bed all night and whatnot. so today one of my other buddies that knows her is chilling with her which is cool with me but when all 3 of us met up to go to my other buddies i was the third wheel the whole time. they talked the whole time i didnt say anything. he has alot more domanance then me, which i know. this ****s driving me crazy, i like this girl and now i feel just from that i royaly screwed it up. give me advice i hate this feeling, btw i dont think he knew but when just me and him were walking i felt like he wants her. this wouldnt be the first time hes screwed me over because im pussy. is there somthing i should say to her
Author commadore Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 as i read more and more stories simalair to myn, im guessing everyones gunna tell me to move on. which i think is a good idea. but i may be jumping to conclusions. i was thinking of letting some days pass and see if i get a message but then again it will probubly happen again the exact same thing....sigh
ecm Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I wouldn't say anything to her, but I'd ask him if he knows you like her. If he's done that to you before, I'd cut him off as a friend. That's pretty crappy. One time might be by chance...twice?? He's not your friend.
Author commadore Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 okay he hasent like made me and a girl break like that but i will be flirting with a girl at a party and he will be around and it screwed it up, i am to blame though i dont show enough domanance its not like if i were him i wouldent do that
Author commadore Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 i want to know if people think its worth thinking i can continue. i always jump to conclusions. im autistic but not a bad case but i know i can be all over the place but i learn to control it....gets hard though
JohnnyBlaze Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 I agree with ECM. I'd have a sit-down with the guy, if I were you. Either he stops trying to make a play on her, or you two aren't friends anymore. This also applies to any future endeavours, as well as the current chick. Be warned, though, that if it does come to that, he's gonna double his efforts on the girl. He's got nothing to lose at that point, and succeeding with her will be a final "f- you" to you; retaliation for cutting ties. Even if he does manage to steal her away, the upside will be that he won't get an instant in with any future girl you go after. Don't let him give you any BS about "bros before ho's", either. Remind him that he's the one who violated it by trying to go after her (and previous girls) in the first place. This ain't about him trying to steal a girl; it's about him disrespecting you. Get mad about it and don't take any BS from him. If you need something to get you fired up beforehand, I suggest listening to "My Way". No, not the Sinatra song, the much less eloquent Limp Bizkit song of the same name. "Cause I've had enough of this, and now I'm pissed." If that song doesn't make you want to kick some heads in, nothing will. As to the girl, yeah, keep after her; absolutely! There's no reason to give up just because some other punk is trying to steal her away. Girls often have more than one guy vying for their affection. The only difference in this case is that you happen to know your competition. Besides, some girls get turned on, knowing a guy's fighting for her. Who knows? This little skirmish may turn out to work in your favour.
Author commadore Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 you got style johnnyblaze. sounds like good advice im just stuck on the fact i walked behind them the whole time, poor body language, and said about 3 words to her the whole night. my plans are too try and keep it going but also be ready for going on the prowl, i havent had a gf in years. barely flirt with any. but im reading david deangelos double your dating and its pumping me up to change what i can
ecm Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 There's a difference between sitting back with confidence and sitting back and letting this chooch take over. If you sit there all huffy & puffy, you'll look like a goof. But if you sit back and chill like he's not a threat, it could be good for you. I'd maybe suggest steering clear of this guy when you want to hang out with her until you know what's going on with her for sure.
Author commadore Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 after staying up all night listining to music, thinking and analyzing my life/ hers i can plainly see it wouldent last more then a month, now im not being a pooner when i say that it just seems like it would end up some weird adolecent acid trip like usual. theres a hundred million fish in the sea im only 19 and it was only 5 days.......done deal
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