paddington bear Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 To get over my latest rejection, I promptly joined a dating site and just getting messaged by men has somewhat cheered me up (yes, I am attractive - at least with a tiny profile picture and a few words - phew). That's the good part. The 'kind of good' part is that so far I have been contacted by: 1: a guy living in Egypt 'you are so, so cute'. Thanks, but you live in Egypt. 2: a guy living in Sweden 'Sweden is much better, you should move here' 3: a guy living in London 'hello from London' 4: I then went on a date with a guy actually living where I do (success at last), who revealed that his ex tried to knife him to death. He was a nice guy, eccentric (but that's fine), but talked about his achievements all night and then made fun of my voice (which didn't go down well at all). A close friend said "the question you have to ask yourself is, what did he do to her, to make her want to try to kill him with a knife?" Indeed. 5: a guy who lives where I do, sounded okay until an email today, "I have a girlfriend. But would you like to meet for coffee some time?" Uh...no. (do I reply to this??? I feel bad not replying to people, like I should at least reject them due to them already being coupled up, via email. 6: a very innocent looking, polite man, religious, who doesn't drink or smoke who wrote that I had a gentle look on my face and looked like a sweet girl. I replied and pointed out that I drink and smoke, and am not always sweet but thanks for the reply (to which he replied, see, you are sweet, you at least replied) 7: a guy who lives in another country, here for a few weeks, messaged to say 'let's get drunk together'. Am totally meeting this guy purely because he seems cheeky and that it would be fun. But totally pointless as he lives 3,000 miles away. 8: a guy whose picture included him standing in front of a wall full of swastikas (I kid you not). I haven't replied to him, but feel somehow guilty for ignoring any messages even one who seems to think that that is a hilarious photo. so, while this has all been the ego boost that I needed, I'm kind of hoping that someone normal-ish appears at some point In any case, I'm actually kind of having fun with this. And am taking the attitude of meeting anyone who doesn't seem totally demented and who I am not immediately repulsed by, because the next guy with an ex who tried to kill him could be the guy for me
Seamless74 Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 In any case, I'm actually kind of having fun with this. And am taking the attitude of meeting anyone who doesn't seem totally demented and who I am not immediately repulsed by, because the next guy with an ex who tried to kill him could be the guy for me Well at least your shooting for the stars... And your putting in alot of effort sitting behind your computer sifting through a 100 emails a day from desperate guys who appreciate you so much theyre sending the exact same email to every other girl on the site (that is unless they have a third eye or are 400 lbs.. ) I think you should be commended your definately not taking the easy way out.. lol.. Sorry not a big fan of online dating..
Author paddington bear Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 Well at least your shooting for the stars... And your putting in alot of effort sitting behind your computer sifting through a 100 emails a day from desperate guys who appreciate you so much theyre sending the exact same email to every other girl on the site (that is unless they have a third eye or are 400 lbs.. ) I think you should be commended your definately not taking the easy way out.. lol.. Sorry not a big fan of online dating.. Gasp! So cynical for one so young! Of course they are not bombarding every other girl with the same email. Those emails have been carefully composed for me and me alone because I am so special!
Seamless74 Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Yeah i know your special . Every little girl needs attention I know that, at least it seems like you know what your getting into and not one to take it to seriously so for that I wish you good luck..
Author paddington bear Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 I'm just trying to lighten the mood, it's all gone a bit nasty over on the 'whose personal LS stories affected you most' thread.
sigurpol Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 What a grab-bag of contacts you received, haha. I agree though, these can serve as pleasant confidence boosters and pepper some excitement/entertainment into your life depending on how you take it. Although, I sort of know what you mean with the whole "not replying" thing. When I was on those, I wouldn't reply to every woman who responded to me but I was always kind of nervous that no matter how I would reply, people would parse words or read between the lines because I gave them an inch to work with. So then one message turns into two, and so I don't want to ignore that one, and two messages turn into three... etc. So I feel like, in some cases, it's best to just squelch the message. Good luck, though!
TheWatcher Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 To get over my latest rejection, I promptly joined a dating site and just getting messaged by men has somewhat cheered me up (yes, I am attractive - at least with a tiny profile picture and a few words - phew). Paddington,just be reading the title to your thread I automatically assumed that you were a woman.Online dating benefits women greatly & is more often than not a positive experience for women.That being said,it is not surprising that you've been cheered up and enjoying the attention that you've received. Good luck...continued success.
Author paddington bear Posted January 2, 2011 Author Posted January 2, 2011 Paddington,just be reading the title to your thread I automatically assumed that you were a woman.Online dating benefits women greatly & is more often than not a positive experience for women.That being said,it is not surprising that you've been cheered up and enjoying the attention that you've received. Good luck...continued success. Yes, I totally get this...BUT in the real world. I rarely get approached by men, so I guess it is nice to have someone expressing an interest, rather than no one, which may perhaps give me the bounce in my step needed in the real world too. To be honest, I have absolutely no expectations of meeting someone over the Internet, I know it happens, but am not going into this thinking that the same will happen for me and I already plan to go Dutch on all dates, and I'm trying my best to be at least polite to men who have taken the time to write (well...some of them, not the nazi and not the guy with a girlfriend). I'm more thinking that meeting new people will be fun, you don't know what you're going to get, like a lucky dip
welikeincrowds Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 you don't know what you're going to get, like a lucky dip Isn't lucky dip that sugar powder you eat by licking a sugar stick thing which you then dip into the powder so that you can lick the powder off the stick? If so, don't you know what you're going to get? More of that powder? That stuff grosses me out, to be honest.
PleasantDeviation Posted January 3, 2011 Posted January 3, 2011 Online Dating is definitely a good ego boost. I personally gave up on it. I met my ex on POF and he was a complete scumbag. All sweet and great at first and 4 months into the relationship I found out that he lied to me about EVERYTHING from his age to occupation and his hate for children.
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